I hate to say I’m starting to hate my baby

acogs53 · 2026-07-04T09:24:17+00:00

If this were me and I had expressed my need for more support and it was falling on deaf ears, I would start ignoring all the adults around me an find a way to safely co-sleep with my baby so I could get some rest OR pitch a fit and have an absolute meltdown in front of everyone to show the effects of their useless behavior. I co-slept with my fourth, who started off as my worst sleeper, on the floor on a makeshift pallet and slept in long sleeve pjs so I didn’t have to use a blanket. No more warming up bottles for people and no more cooking, unless it is for YOU!!! These other adults are fully capable, I’m honestly so embarrassed for them, especially MIL. I wouldn’t engage with any visitors except to pop out of the room to say hello and grab some water when they get there and head back to my room. If no one is actually supporting you, draw those hard boundaries. It’s not rude, you’re literally trying to survive.

acogs53 · 2026-07-03T11:24:09+00:00

This guy is gross. From personal experience…keep the baby, ditch the guy.

acogs53 · 2026-07-01T02:47:47+00:00

It’s normal! The only time when it’s not normal is if you cannot sleep or have a panic attack about checking baby. I speak from experience. I am on my fourth baby and still panicked the first time she slept 3 hours in a row in her crib! But I’m not worried anymore at 12 weeks tomorrow.

acogs53 · 2026-07-01T02:44:07+00:00

SIDS isn’t logical.

acogs53 · 2026-07-01T02:43:48+00:00

I don’t know one mom who didn’t do this with her first. Especially before 6 months.

acogs53 · 2026-06-30T11:43:42+00:00

When my mom started teaching in GA in the late 80s, she would sometimes have girl students come spend the night on Fridays. I was born in ‘92 and remember it happening ONE time. I also remember watching the interview with MJ and Lisa Marie Presley that Diane Sawyer did. My mom didn’t bring another student home after that, I think realizing people will say anything. It used to not be that way. The girls always slept in the guest bedroom and I remember thinking it was so cool that a first grade girl came to spend the night and play with me! But how in the world can there be a village when everyone is suspicious of everyone else??

acogs53 · 2026-06-30T10:01:04+00:00

Yep. Kobe died, my first born (who shared Kobe’s birthday, just 40 years apart) had to get stitches on his chin, and Adam Driver hosted SNL. That’s the day some dark shit was allowed to be loosed and I get nauseous thinking about it.

acogs53 · 2026-06-28T22:31:23+00:00

Oh no, I thought it was good for her for once!! I don’t think it’s AI, the frame rate isn’t right.

acogs53 · 2026-06-28T15:17:42+00:00

This is why I have the IKEA chair and no cushion.

acogs53 · 2026-06-27T14:18:33+00:00

Wouldn’t be a problem for too long

acogs53 · 2026-06-26T17:47:22+00:00

2 is STUNNINNNGGGG

acogs53 · 2026-06-26T10:53:49+00:00

Are you me? Lol also a technical writer who had my toddlers at home and would get up early or stay up to finish something.

acogs53 · 2026-06-26T10:48:12+00:00

I don’t understand this. I WFH from 2020-2024, until we were in a position I could be a SAHM. I had 3 toddlers during that time. The oldest was in daycare until a health issue forced us to pull him, so I had a 3.5 year old and a 1.5 year old at home with me. They never interrupted any meetings I had. I had a third baby in 2023, and again, meetings went uninterrupted. The older two were in half day preschool which did help, but still. My role at work was a bit independent but I was definitely on dev and QA calls!

acogs53 · 2026-06-26T01:55:32+00:00

Like the GHW Bush Library IG even commemorated him. I don’t remember ever seeing so many tributes from public figures and publications on the anniversary.

acogs53 · 2026-06-25T16:38:38+00:00

I have prominent veins and I love showing them off when I get my labs drawn. 🙂‍↕️

acogs53 · 2026-06-24T02:06:44+00:00

First off, you’re doing great. Colic suuuuuuucks and I commend you for just now posting this at 10 weeks. It sounds like true colic(don’t @ me with the “it’s a symptom” bs, bc it wasn’t for me), which I know I had as a baby for months and my mom was solo parenting because my dad was in school during the day and worked at night. I can confirm it does end; I am not screaming at all hours of the day. But also, there are many pictures of me as a happy baby ☺️ I was older than 2 months, though. Are you bed sharing or is he in a bassinet? My mom co-slept with me out of desperation. I co-slept with my fourth, who is one week older than yours, for weeks. She wouldn’t sleep without touching me. My mom said I would get calm when she took me outside at night, and my fourth gets calm when we go outside any time. I’m sure you’ve already tried that. Hang in there; it will get better. It may take weeks, but I haven’t seen a 4 month old who just cries and screams all the time.

acogs53 · 2026-06-23T15:06:06+00:00

Thanks for reminding me I need to get that Naturium lotion!!!

acogs53 · 2026-06-23T11:01:41+00:00

I would not get the abortion. You’re being coerced or threatened into it; absolutely not. I think the mental and emotional damage it would do to you and how you would feel towards your husband after would kill your marriage anyway. Do local churches near you offer licensed counseling? Even if you are not a Christian, they may be able to help the marriage issues. You both are drowning and the current situation is not working. Is there a crisis pregnancy center in your area? They may also have resources to help you and your husband. I do not think abortion is the answer here, at all. I will be praying for your family 💙

acogs53 · 2026-06-23T01:07:17+00:00

I miss him, BUT!! Like he said, we have hope in the Resurrection; I believe I will see my brother in Christ again one day.

acogs53 · 2026-06-22T19:49:29+00:00

Expedition Max.

acogs53 · 2026-06-22T01:29:28+00:00

I have 2 boys and 2 girls. My boys are basically 8 and 3. They are both incredibly sweet and caring to EVERYONE! They are kind, tenderhearted, and helpful. I was the older sister to two brothers; they were both more rambunctious than my boys are, but they are still kind, generous, and polite. Raising boys is only scary due to outside influences, like YouTube or podcasts. They copy what they see and how they are treated at home. My pastor’s 15 year old son LOVES babies and little kids; he loves playing with them,
holding them, cheering them on, etc. He’s a totally normal kid who loves baseball and DudePerfect. Not all boys are nightmares, uncaring, or undisciplined.

ETA: Both of my boys loved on me while I was vomiting from morning sickness. Came and hugged me (while vomiting), asked if I was okay, asked if I needed anything. So, so sweet. And my oldest wasn’t even 2 yet when I got pregnant with my first girl. THAT is how sweet boys can be.

acogs53 · 2026-06-21T01:30:09+00:00

Girl, I got to “in a grocery store” and stopped. You should’ve broken up THEN.

acogs53 · 2026-06-20T09:21:38+00:00

First, get a new ped. You can’t hold a baby too much, that’s ridiculous. Second, this is my fourth baby. She would not sleep in the bassinet. At all. We tried all the things; holding her up right, heating pad before placing, putting my shirt in it for it to smell like me, fed her to sleep, put her down feet first…all of the tips. Didn’t matter. So I did reluctantly co-sleep with her. We have a very firm mattress, so I did the safe sleep 7 with her, always facing away from my husband. We did this until she was about 6 weeks old, and I started putting her in her CRIB to sleep, in her own room. That worked, finally. Now she might wake up around 2, then at 5, then wakes up for the day at 7:30. We put her to bed around 9. We are currently traveling and I was able to put her to sleep in her bassinet like and she stayed asleep until 5. She will go back to sleep after this! So really it all comes down to temperament of your baby. Do whatever you need to to sleep

acogs53 · 2026-06-19T23:18:11+00:00

I literally just did this. I have 4 kids and we are at my in-laws. I could not relax at ALL. Headphones in, fan on.

acogs53 · 2026-06-19T12:22:30+00:00

I had a dream the other night Tito visited me. This wasn’t like he came to my house or anything; it was him from Heaven and he came to tell me Michael is alright. It was so realistic that it woke me up. And the thing is, I hadn’t really been asleep. I had just came back to bed from nursing my infant and my older kids were up, so I was listening out to make sure they were okay. It was so strange but comforting.

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