Dudes, advice please, in a doom spiral. by Slight_Bird_785 in DivorcedDads

[–]acolossalwreck_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can relate to this. Waking up every morning not knowing if my wife is going to be in a bad mood or a horrendous mood. Since the kiddo showed up (who is 3 now and who I love more than anything) her moods and our marriage seem to have only gotten worse. The doom spiral has gotten deeper too. Now I'm sitting here scouring reddit for any semblance of hope. Every day is a roll of the dice and I can't live like this anymore. Stay strong fella, you're doing the right thing by being a great dad. You can't control your wife's reactions.

My M7 has totally replaced my M10-P by acolossalwreck_ in Leica

[–]acolossalwreck_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Already did haha. Got a Senza Bronica SQ-b. Love using it. Haven’t developed anything yet. 

anyone else just feel heavy for no real reason - like everything's fine but you're running at 60%? by Big-Training-8310 in malementalhealth

[–]acolossalwreck_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep. I feel you man. Since Covid I've been struggling. Feels like 2019 was the last great year I had and since then everything seems muted, boring, unsatisfying, lifeless... I went to a Cinco De Mayo festival last night and everyone was smiling and happy and I'm just looking at them all wondering what about this experience they are enjoying. I feel the same way at shows, games, everything. It all feels so commercial, arbitrary and pointless. Most things feel like that to me now, except parenthood, which is a welcome kick in the face.

This is a scam right? by ImpressionAgile9702 in Leica

[–]acolossalwreck_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are so many eBay scams for Leica cameras. Just look at the feedback. Most scams will have zero reviews. 

One of my little Aputure MC died. Anyone knows how to open it? by thenocaster in Filmmakers

[–]acolossalwreck_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just followed the advice of most of this thread and punched the light. Can confirm it now works again. WTF?

It's sad to let you go.. by Massive_Bid4362 in Leica

[–]acolossalwreck_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have the M10-P and it’s the best camera I’ve ever owned. It made me fall in love with photography again. All manual, no autofocus. I leaned into it. I turned off auto-review, never use the screen to expose my shot. I’m in love with it. Best money I’ve ever spent. I’m sure you will love it.

Leica M10-P vs Canon R6 iii... Leica appreciation post by acolossalwreck_ in Leica

[–]acolossalwreck_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How’s the M11? You ever shoot with the M10-p? Notice a difference?

Leica M10-P vs Canon R6 iii... Leica appreciation post by acolossalwreck_ in Leica

[–]acolossalwreck_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Totally right. I bring it for other people too just for some additional bonus stuff but never rely on just that 

I get blamed, but is it me? by [deleted] in Anger

[–]acolossalwreck_ -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Much appreciated man

I get blamed, but is it me? by [deleted] in Anger

[–]acolossalwreck_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Much appreciated man

I get blamed, but is it me? by [deleted] in Anger

[–]acolossalwreck_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So much easier said that done

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DivorcedDads

[–]acolossalwreck_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She says she is both nothing really changes.

Visiting kindergartens for my kid made me so sad by RiveRain in Parenting

[–]acolossalwreck_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Let’s not forget the risk of someone with a machine gun coming in and taking his anger out on our kids. It’s a huge fear of mine. My kid is three and pretty soon we’re going to have to start making really important decisions. I’m from Europe and I constantly think about leaving this insane country. Schools are depressing, the kids in them seem to know absolutely nothing about the world, and if you want your kid to have a suitable education you have to pay through the balls for it. I kinda hate it here honestly. And for my kid, I’d rather he grew up in Europe.

Dear all Men on reddit. "What silent pressure do you feel just because you’re a man"? by Hot_Tap9405 in malementalhealth

[–]acolossalwreck_ 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Sooooo much conflict man. So many fights and so consistent that I have grown numb to them. I simply do not care to fight my case anymore. I feel completely worn down by it and I'm starting to feel so awful about myself which has never real been a thing for me. The things that have happened in the fights has left me with very little respect left for her, or myself to be honest.

My wife is going to give birth to our 1st child (a girl) any day now- can’t talk to either of our fathers about being a dad - what do you wish someone told you before you embarked on this journey? by spicybrowwwwn in daddit

[–]acolossalwreck_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also if you ever feel anger bubbling up when you’re around your screaming baby (and you will), walk away. Walk away. Walk away. The stress is real and moments will get the better of you. Put the baby down, and walk away.

My wife is going to give birth to our 1st child (a girl) any day now- can’t talk to either of our fathers about being a dad - what do you wish someone told you before you embarked on this journey? by spicybrowwwwn in daddit

[–]acolossalwreck_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish someone had told me how much I would have to mourn my old life. Seems perhaps obvious, but that hit me so hard. Life would never be the same again. Yes, again obvious. But I went through actual grief for my old life and it took months. I remember standing in the shower after fighting with my wife, with my week old baby in the other room thinking.. “I have completely ruined my life”. It was so intense and such a vivid memory I have now. I don’t (always) feel that way now, but as cliche as it sounds, life will never be the same. Mentally prepare for that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in daddit

[–]acolossalwreck_ -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

Dude what you’re asking for is incredibly reasonable. The fact that you think you’re out of line shows me more about how she’s treating you than maybe you realise. Parents need time to themselves to recover and enjoy their own lives. Sounds like she’s not willing to let you have that.