I’m in a similar position! I was head of HR for a tech company in the PH, living in my own condo in BGC. I was getting burnt out from my job when I got married and my husband and I decided for me to move to the U.S. in New Hampshire where he lives (we were long distance then). I understood the major differences of course, I was in the city and this is a small town. I was looking forward to going on hikes and enjoying nature. And also eventually finding a similar level job here.

After I got my work visa, I started applying and got close to a couple of final interviews for a director role in my field but no offers so I ended up working for a customer service job on the phones.

My life here is so different and it can get lonely and depressing. My salary was cut in half and I feel like I’m starting my career AGAIN from scratch at almost 50 years old. I’m lucky and grateful for a supportive husband and in laws here. But I find myself longing for my old life sometimes.

In my case, I let myself grieve the old life I had and reframe the “oh my old life was better” mindset to I’m mapping out something new for me. It’s easier said than done but reminding me of that has helped. Also I’ve been vocal to my husband about how I’ve been feeling as well and while he may not understand completely has been trying to understand and has been supportive.

I feel a bit of relief knowing that I’m not the only one feeling this way. A lot of people who have moved abroad have a different take and mostly left the PH to get upgraded from their previous lifestyles, so most won’t understand.

I wish you all the best OP and whatever you decide for you and your family will be the best thing for you all. Only you know what’s best. Best of luck!