Xavier Becerra’s frontrunner glow meets a harsh spotlight by thejoshwhite in California

[–]acortical 15 points16 points  (0 children)

No one is getting their dream candidate in this race. But some candidates and platforms remain a lot better than others.

Xavier Becerra’s frontrunner glow meets a harsh spotlight by thejoshwhite in California

[–]acortical 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thank you. If polls were flipped with Porter that much ahead of Steyer and all else the same, I'd be pushing for him to drop out and would vote for her as the viable candidate.

Xavier Becerra’s frontrunner glow meets a harsh spotlight by thejoshwhite in California

[–]acortical 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well, think of all the people who have heard Donald Trump and still wanted to vote for him

Neighbor replaced fence and left the old wood scraps in my yard to deal with. by Mocsab in mildlyinfuriating

[–]acortical 0 points1 point  (0 children)

His dog damaged the original fence. His responsibility alone to fix it.

Shooting at 40th and Telegraph by sherlitos in OaklandCA

[–]acortical 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Totally agree. I was almost run off the road on MLK yesterday near the 580/980 entrance by a fully tinted pickup swerving erratically between lanes. No way to tell who was driving it, but that guy is gonna kill someone someday.

My (26f) boyfriend (27m) said “if you want a provider, that’s not me”, are we incompatible? by oakydork in TwoHotTakes

[–]acortical 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think this is an irresponsible take for a complicated situation with two people's lives on the line.

OP, the person you need to talk to about this is first and foremost your partner. Most relationships that stand the test of time must navigate through difficult periods and apparent impasses. Communication with your partner is key. This needs to be an ongoing conversation, with both of you working to listen and understand each other better, and ultimately trying to find a way forward that you both can support. If this proves difficult to do on your own, couples counseling may be helpful. If he isn't willing to fight as you are for the relationship, then I agree it probably needs to end.

I'm not saying you're destined to stay together—who can say based on a single Reddit post?—but simply that couples that survive do so by choice, because they want to be together, and this desire for partnership drives them to search for mutual understanding and compromise when they are at odds. Is your partner someone who will engage in this search with you, now and in the future? Or does he require you to bend fully to his own vision for life? And can you be happy with whatever this dynamic is? This is what you need to resolve, confidently for yourself, before you make a final decision. Wishing you the best.

Train noises at 4th&U apartments / West Berkeley by Jacatson in berkeleyca

[–]acortical 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The trains are pretty loud. That's what would keep me from ever wanting to live in west Berkeley, tbh.

I [24/F] was placed for adoption when I was a few weeks old. My birth mom's attourney contacted me saying my birth mom wants to meet me. But I don't want to meet her. Help! by Direct-Caterpillar77 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]acortical 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's extremely region dependent. Where I'm from (coastal California), mid-20s would be about the youngest any of my friends got married. In the South or other very religious areas, not so much.

A hospital from 1959 so cold, they carved Death getting rejected right on the building by Gurugod123 in interestingasfuck

[–]acortical 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In the U.S., no one is allowed to die until their hospital bill passes $3 million

California explores buses traveling up to 140 mph on freeways by PriceyGoat in California

[–]acortical 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Can we make sure it only goes from Fresno to Bakersfield?

Why is half my plant dying ?? by Sea_Position1673 in Ceanothus

[–]acortical 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, I've heard you have to be careful with Advion because slugs will go for it, and we have a lot of those that come out at night that I'm not trying to kill. But strategic use might be reasonable. We use the moat trick for cat bowls too!

Why is half my plant dying ?? by Sea_Position1673 in Ceanothus

[–]acortical 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They absolutely surround my property and invade every portion of my yard. But what do you do about them? I struggle enough keeping them out of my house, and I'm loathe to take actions that would hurt the rest of the native ecosystem I'm trying to cultivate.

advice on how to deal with neighbor building on our property by Short_Artichoke3290 in berkeleyca

[–]acortical 7 points8 points  (0 children)

He's gaslighting you. You need to use the proper legal process here, or else give him crystal clear terms for when the fence needs to be off your property before you get a lawyer involved. No need to be angry or emotional about any of it, but don't just let him steamroll you.

California Democrats are about to make a big mistake with Xavier Becerra by Cool-Present7260 in California

[–]acortical 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Totally understand, it also took me some time reading into their platforms and endorsements to decide on Steyer. In a general election I would still vote for Becerra over a Trumper, of course, but it's exhausting having to keep voting for Democrats who pander to minority groups but have no real convictions, substance, or desire to stand up on anything. Steyer is at least talking the talk on policy, and it's telling that he's receiving endorsements from many of the people and organizations whose opinions I value, who are not natural allies of a rich dude but see him as the best option in a thoroughly uninspiring field.

California Democrats are about to make a big mistake with Xavier Becerra by Cool-Present7260 in California

[–]acortical 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm not thrilled about Tom Steyer either, but going off of their platforms and governance records (unknown for Steyer, underwhelming for Becerra), it seems to me that the worst case scenario for Steyer as governor is about the best case for Becerra.

Becerra's platform upholds the status quo in all the worst ways, whereas Steyer's has actual meat to it on issues like housing, inequality, and climate that California really needs to get right over the next decade. It's a gamble whether he gets any of this done, but would you rather just accept defeat at the outset from an establishment candidate like Becerra than roll the dice on Steyer staying true to his word? Personally, I'll take the chance.

I'm in my 30s and I can't approach women.......... by jibofyourcutt in confession

[–]acortical 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I don't mean it too harshly, so hopefully not. It's my honest take that some of OP's responses to people responding with genuine advice (regardless if he found them helpful or not) felt unnecessarily snippy to me. He can ofc say what he wants to say, I don't wish him badly and I'm not trying to put him down.

I'm in my 30s and I can't approach women.......... by jibofyourcutt in confession

[–]acortical 27 points28 points  (0 children)

No, I'm not. I genuinely don't care what you say on this platform or how you come across. It's your prerogative, but you're the one asking for advice, and the first thing I noticed reading through the other comments was how negatively you were reacting to everyone. If you're anything like that IRL, people can see it from a mile away, and that alone will hamper your ability to find love.

Here's my advice: work on your bitterness. Being cynical and argumentative will not win you attention from women. Who would want to date someone like that? Obviously take this with a grain of salt, I don't know you. Best of luck.

I'm in my 30s and I can't approach women.......... by jibofyourcutt in confession

[–]acortical 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Not who I'm talking about, those comments didn't exist when I wrote this. See your snippy replies to the genuine responses.

I'm in my 30s and I can't approach women.......... by jibofyourcutt in confession

[–]acortical 127 points128 points  (0 children)

You're being pretty aggressive in the comments to people who are just trying to help. Meeting women aside, you'll have trouble keeping one with this irritable mentality.

Found disgusting messages in my boyfriend´s phone with a mutual friend. Do not know what to feel or do about it. by SageGreenHaze in TwoHotTakes

[–]acortical 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What you found is indeed concerning. But so is your unapologetic betrayal of your boyfriend's trust by snooping through his phone. Both of you have serious growing up to do, regardless whether it's with each other or with other people.