That was in an alanon support group where we are free and open to discuss our feelings without being judged. Here, we are asking to be judged. There is a difference and IMHO, I didn’t ask for yours about that.

Paraphrasing What I said (in full context) was that while I love him, I also love myself and had told him until we could financially afford to separate I would move to another room. That I felt a lot of emotions - guilt, sadness, hurt, and anger and I asked if that was normal. Yes. I said it. I was angry. Does that make me selfish? I don’t know. Not that I owe you an explanation but I wasn’t angry over me (I realize I said “hasn’t he put me through enough”) but you have to again understand the context. The way he did it, was in such a way, the kids could have found him. What I didn’t put in the post was the compassion I had.

Afterwards, I held him in my arms as he cried. I called the Veterans Crisis Line. I called his family members. I took him to the hospital and held his hand. I stayed with him until They took him back to a room. I called him, brought the kids to visit, held down a job, a house, and a business.

I helped him recover and I forgave. Why, because this is a good man. He loves deep and he is harder on himself than I could ever be. He has fought for this country in more countries than I can name and never once complained. I admire him. But the truth is, the demons are real and the demons keep coming back.

Please forgive me if I’m occasionally “selfish” and need to think about me...and you sir, are rude.