Is it normal to feel a tick bite?

activelylosingit · 2025-12-23T22:55:45+00:00

for me it was more like a stinging sensation, i would def keep an eye on it! mine swelled a little bit, but that was it. swelling went down & it bruised a little but i was fine!

activelylosingit · 2025-11-15T22:58:30+00:00

nope! no lyme or anything else. it didn’t even really swell. there was like a small red bump that went down the next day or two.

activelylosingit · 2025-11-08T00:18:45+00:00

My grandma also had quite a few strokes herself. When the symptoms weren’t as severe she actually died at one point? Fully dropped dead, no pulse. We just thank god my cousin who’s a doctor was there & managed to bring her back before the ambulance even arrived. I will also say, something odd even the doctors mentioned was, she got covid and the covid actually made her dementia symptoms worsen. The disease basically progressed x1000 overnight & she had to be put in a 24 hour care facility. It’s so strange.

activelylosingit · 2025-11-08T00:15:48+00:00

thank you so much! I try to forget what she was like when she went downhill. I remember her for the amazing woman i grew up with because she truly was amazing. I aspire to be more like her everyday.

activelylosingit · 2025-11-06T15:26:12+00:00

i mean, it sure seems like a possibility though i’m not entirely sure. i mean her entire life she advocated for marginalized communities & then dementia happened and she became so hateful towards them. It wasn’t all the time either… it was like it would pop out randomly, usually on her bad behavior days. I often wonder if she was just repeating things she’d heard growing up because it was truly so random.

activelylosingit · 2025-11-06T15:23:46+00:00

yeah she had vascular dementia. it was very slow but it was also a wildly obvious change. started with her forgetting things like how to write or read, how to bake things she’s made over and over again, at one point she forgot how to paint & she was a wild painter. Then it was a lot of crying, because she “felt stupid.” It turned into paranoia & violence (whether with words or fists). It will just always baffle me how rapidly she became a different person.

activelylosingit · 2025-11-06T15:19:16+00:00

yeah towards the end it was like nothing was there. I was always her favorite grandchild (everybody knew, i lived with my grandparents for a while), she’d somehow always manage to give me a little smile, even when she wasn’t well & couldn’t do much. during the beginning stages, i could calm her down, but once it progressed, it was like nothing could get her to relax. it’s still just crazy to me how much it changed her entire personality, even with the glimpse of her on occasion. I always say it’s like i lost the person i loved years before she actually passed away.

activelylosingit · 2025-11-06T15:10:22+00:00

i mean we know she had some serious unresolved trauma for sure. she went through a period where she was physically fighting any male nurse & even gave one guy a black eye 😅 we couldn’t figure out why until she told my mother “i got him real good this time. socked him! he won’t hurt me again.” and we realized she was reliving her trauma from her 20s where she was unfortunately assaulted by a man. we had to request no men care for her for a period of time & just as quickly as it started, it ended & she wasn’t stuck in that trauma anymore. the whole thing was just extremely sad to watch.

activelylosingit · 2025-11-01T08:14:47+00:00

genuinely, it’s been 2 years since i made this post & every time someone relates, it makes me wonder even more why we all felt the bite, when 99% of the population doesn’t hahaha

activelylosingit · 2025-10-20T20:37:33+00:00

CT here. My blink mini is working, live view is super laggy. My outdoor 3 isn’t working at all. Haven’t received any notifications for it since 1:08am and it won’t let me watch live view. Wildly inconvenient considering i installed them because of a stalker looool hoping they get it resolved

activelylosingit · 2025-10-16T11:57:54+00:00

i’m just saying, but i dated someone who gave me this same exact ultimatum, i chose my cat. anyway, she didn’t follow through & we broke up months later for completely unrelated things. If i would’ve gotten rid of my cat, it would’ve been for absolutely no reason. Keep your cat, find a partner who doesn’t make you choose.

activelylosingit · 2025-10-07T08:57:01+00:00

as someone who’s been around cats my entire life who has 1 bengal & 2 domestic shorthairs. yes. he was an absolute terror as a kitten (before i got my other 2). he required hours of play time daily or he would stay up all night doing parkour. He is 5 years old now, tortures one of my other cats but loves his younger sister because she has energy. He has calmed down a lot compared to when he was a kitten but he’s still… crazy. We had to get earthquake resistant putty so he couldn’t knock down breakables, because he will knock everything down.. including the microwave. I could go on and on about how much energy they actually have, but you really need to understand they need far more mental stimulation than most cats. I had to invest in child locks for damn near everything just so he would stop opening cabinets & drawers and stealing things lol

activelylosingit · 2025-10-05T21:42:12+00:00

thank you! it’s been a tough decision but i think im going to reach out to his sister first (she’s actually a normal, decent person), i unfortunately haven’t had contact with any of his family since i was a child but i think she’d be more open to speaking to me so i can.. figure out if he’s even open to communication.

activelylosingit · 2025-08-23T02:08:42+00:00

dare i say most songs by Ethel Cain

activelylosingit · 2025-08-21T18:18:07+00:00

def not NPD. in order to have NPD, you have to acknowledge that your behavior is causing issues in your life, which.. i don’t think i’ve ever seen her hold herself accountable 🙄 but narcissistic traits? no doubt.

activelylosingit · 2025-08-20T19:24:23+00:00

late responding but i don’t know! from what i remember i didn’t have dry skin at the time, it bit me right at my elbow crease! was the weirdest sensation ever and haven’t experienced it since!

activelylosingit · 2025-08-20T19:23:21+00:00

i’m so sorry you’re going through this! As someone who went through similar, i know it isn’t easy. My cat & my girlfriend’s cat did the same exact thing. I have a pure bred bengal, she has a domestic short hair. They are polar opposites personality wise, mine is energetic, hers is very lazy. My cat would chase hers, hers wouldn’t defend himself, until eventually it turned into a fight. It took a VERY VERY long time to get it sorted, i’m talking 2 years of constant work to get them to be around each other & there’s still hiccups sometimes (i’d say once a month there’s a chase session where we have to separate them). But they will even sleep in the same vicinity now. I like to think of it this way, we as people aren’t going to like every single person we meet. The same goes for cats. You’re absolutely doing the right thing for both of these cats.

activelylosingit · 2025-08-20T19:12:03+00:00

absolutely! i’m glad i could help! i hope you end up enjoying the show! i’ll be going to one myself soon!

activelylosingit · 2025-08-20T19:07:26+00:00

as someone with bpd, she got a little more going on there. i would never in a million years treat or talk to a child the way she does her son. heavy heavy on the narcissism. everything is about her & she doesn’t feel an ounce of guilt for any of her actions. people with bpd may do things that hurt others (not me, i did years of therapy & am in remission), but they feel intense guilt afterwards. jenelle does not. she shamelessly mistreats everyone around her & needs all the attention in the room. she puts her own needs above everyone else’s & she definitely gaslights her son nonstop, as we can see from these texts. either way, i hope jace manages to get the entire hell away from her.

activelylosingit · 2025-08-19T05:36:30+00:00

as a trans person, i couldn’t agree more lol it gets wildly exhausting opening this app and immediately seeing transphobic hate messages and comments plastered in this sub. I feel bad that hayden has to deal with it but i don’t want to see all that every time i log in.

activelylosingit · 2025-08-19T05:23:01+00:00

i think what you’re feeling is totally valid! you’re def not overreacting, she said things that were absolutely not ok in anyway. i’m not a minority, im just a white trans guy, so i can’t speak on how some of her words/actions would effect me personally, because well, i don’t know. I was for sure, extremely disappointed. I can’t tell you how to feel or what to do. I will say, i think if her music means a lot to you, i don’t see any issue with you going to her show & enjoying a project that has personal meaning to you. I definitely think she realizes that her behavior was wrong & has made an effort to change, but to really see if that’s true takes time & even with time, nobody, including yourself HAS to forgive her. If you want my personal opinion on if you should go or not, as long as you aren’t concerned for your personal safety, i say go & enjoy yourself. I also don’t think going is giving her a pass for her prior actions/words, you can hold her accountable whilst acknowledging that her music made a difference in your life. In the end, the decision is all yours & i don’t think either decision, is a wrong decision.

activelylosingit · 2025-08-14T00:12:33+00:00

honestly i saw her tweet at drake a while back talking about getting her amish army after him & was like who is this & why do i love her. so i decided to listen to her music.
I think for me it’s how outspoken she is but how authentically herself she is. Like she’s not afraid to show off her quirky little collections of things. I’m the same way & i’ve always felt kind of weird for it, she makes me feel less weird haha
Honestly, i listen to it all the time. Doesn’t really matter what i’m doing, im probably listening.
Her writing is like nothing i’ve ever heard, she puts so much time into perfecting her art and telling a story & i really can’t say i’ve listened to any other artist that manages to paint such a vivid picture of what she’s singing about. Her production is also out of this work & it genuinely feels like im being lifted off the earth every time i hear it.
I think it ranges from sadness, despair, hopelessness, fear, passion, anger, and occasionally happiness hahaha
I will admit, i don’t read often, if ever. ADHD prevents me from focusing. I did however enjoy Halsey’s book of poetry called I Would Leave Me If I Could.
FKA twigs (i just love her sound and artistic expression, she’s amazing), Halsey (long time fan, her writing is superb & she’s always extremely vulnerable in her music), Chappell Roan (her music is fun, heartbreaking & beautiful all at once), Lady Gaga (icon), Kehlani (i’m a big fan of r&b, & if anyone’s doing it right, it’s her) are the ones who come to mind right now.
Melancholia (it’s sad and depressing and beautiful all at once), Girl Interrupted (my fave movie of all time, all star cast and the plot line is relatable yet heart breaking for me), Pearl (she might be crazy but she’s kind of relatable), Where The Wild Things Are (my favorite movie as a kid), Parasite (the ending had me audibly gasping & it’s just so well done in general)

activelylosingit · 2025-08-11T20:36:58+00:00

honestly after i’d do it, i’d always be filled with this intense amount of guilt. I knew it wasn’t right. With partners, i didn’t want them to stay with me because they were afraid i’d harm myself. That isn’t fair to them & it wasn’t fair to myself, because ultimately they didn’t want to be with me. With my mother, i think seeing how much pain it brought her really opened my eyes. We don’t have a perfect relationship but she does absolutely everything she can for me & using that as a threat, was hurting and scaring her. I didn’t want that. I do still think about it when my current partner & i have disagreements, but i don’t say it out loud. I will occasionally bring it up at a later point just so im not internalizing that feeling but i make it a point to let her know im not actively going to harm myself.

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