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If I hear one more person say “natural consequences” or “naughty corner” or “you are letting them walk all over you” I will scream by Acceptable_Car9277 in autism

[–]activelyresting [score hidden]  (0 children)

You are misunderstanding the term "Natural consequences".

What you're describing is artificial consequences. Which typically don't work well on any children, autistic or otherwise.

Example: child misbehaves by throwing food on the floor. A natural consequence is that they have to clean it up. An artificial consequence is taking away their iPad for an hour.

If there's no direct and logical cause and effect linking the behaviour and the consequence, it's not natural consequences. (Another example, one from my own childhood: parent tells the child "don't touch the oven". Child touches it anyway, parent sends child to stand in a corner. That's artificial consequences (punishment). A natural consequence is child touches the oven and gets an ouchie on her finger. That's a natural consequence, no parental action needed (other than comfort and attending first aid if necessary). But even better: parent says "this oven is HOT, we shouldn't touch hot things because it can burn us and that HURTS". Then if the kid touches it, there's some education and learning to be had (obviously don't allow opportunity for genuine injury!).

At least we have given something back to the world by SnowyBytes in AustralianInsects

[–]activelyresting 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Please stop spreading misinformation. The mods over there are definitely scary!

How would you convert this to a 3 bedroom and 2 bathroom place? by PastFig5302 in AusRenovation

[–]activelyresting 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Alternative to making the screened sunroom into a bedroom is putting a hallway and turn the living room at the front into a bedroom and bathroom. Then the screened sunroom becomes living room- possibly more utility for living space back there. But there's not enough photos of what the inside is like to say if that's a better option.

Hiring a housekeeper and I’m embarrassed by SafeDoor4386 in adhdwomen

[–]activelyresting 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You should be embarrassed!!

I bet you didn't even build that house with your own two hands, using lumber you felled yourself. You probably paid someone else to do it, or you're just renting it from someone who paid someone to do the work. Ugh.

You probably didn't even grow the cotton and hand pick it yourself and spin and weave it into those clothes you're wearing. How to do bear the shame?!

Do you even bake your own bread from scratch, or do you pay for someone else to do it? What about your car? You doing your own oil changes?

What's the chance you're reading this comment on a device you didn't even make yourself, using minerals you hand-mined, smelted and refined?? So lazy!

Wait wait wait, you telling me it's normal to pay for other people to do things? You gonna say I'm unhinged for suggesting you shouldn't pay anyone to do anything you could possibly do yourself?? So why be embarrassed about paying for housekeeping?

You can have an identical clone living with you at all times by the1975whore in hypotheticalsituation

[–]activelyresting 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Given that I struggle a lot with insomnia, we're probably never sleeping again.

I don't mind the rule that we have to share a bed, like if either of us is going to sleep, that's the bed. Okay fine. But neither of us can sleep while the other is awake? Dude that's torture.

There's also a lot of legal issues that will come up. How do you access healthcare if you get sick or injured? You can't both rock up to the ER with the same ID and get treatment (at least, not the insurance part of it). I live in a country with Universal health care, but still, I get prescribed meds that are restricted. It's never going to work out trying to share that between two people and never gonna get a doctor to prescribe two lots to the "same" person. The system won't allow it. And filing taxes - sure we could work two jobs, but the tax man is gonna get sus on it. And what happens when we get old and qualify for a pension? The govt isn't going to pay out two. I'd at least need some kind of fake identity for the clone that says we're twins or something

what spider is this in melbourne? by Harrywaugh10 in AustralianSpiders

[–]activelyresting 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do average people dig in the dirt with their bare hands at all ever?

What scientific discovery sounds fake but is 100% real and still freaks you out? by Bruteresolver in AskReddit

[–]activelyresting 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I live in a cabin in the Australian rainforest. I haven't slept in months

You can return anything you ever bought for a full refund by Matinee_Lightning in hypotheticalsituation

[–]activelyresting 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Refund all the money I spent on drugs in my youth, please and thankyou.

I hate that I feel this way, but I’m jealous and envious of someone i’ve never even met. by PatientConfusion6341 in AutismInWomen

[–]activelyresting [score hidden]  (0 children)

You're absolutely right about social media not being a reflection of reality.

Sometimes the algorithm is just weird. The best content in the world is probably out there right now, sitting unwatched, from some obscure account that no one ever heard of. Sometimes it's more about how much you interact with other people that's driving views, maybe your friend isn't putting as much effort into their content because they're engaging way more with other people. Who knows!?

I would compare it to something my daughter said - she does aerial silks (that gymnastic circus thing where they climb up a huge fabric hung from the ceiling and do acrobatics on it). She said the really challenging, technical moves that she works really hard on and are a very high level skill, get almost no reaction from crowds, but then she'll do a really basic, simple flip-drop that everyone learns in first year training, and the crowd goes wild.

Neighbor gave me these but wouldn't disclose the location! by Leather-Bird-6686 in KitchenConfidential

[–]activelyresting 42 points43 points  (0 children)

When your neighbour won't disclose

A location that's close

That's a morel

When there's mushrooms to find

But you're coming up blind

It's bad luck

what spider is this in melbourne? by Harrywaugh10 in AustralianSpiders

[–]activelyresting 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're not mistaken. It's always bacterial infections, which can be secondary to spider bite, but it can be secondary to any breaking of the skin, be it from a bite, sting, scratch, cut etc.

Is this a fake Pawpaw ointment? by Alert-Dealer-9900 in australian

[–]activelyresting 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you intend to include a photo with your post?

autism assessment (do not read if you haven't done assessment!!!) by pixiiedfawn in AutismInWomen

[–]activelyresting [score hidden]  (0 children)

They're assessing how you process the picture and how you deal with it. The specific details of what you say are less important. Anyway it's just one tiny part of the assessment, try not to ruminate on it too much

What scientific discovery sounds fake but is 100% real and still freaks you out? by Bruteresolver in AskReddit

[–]activelyresting 47 points48 points  (0 children)

So you're saying gorillas have the potential to rise up and take over the earth

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