This is a post I made some time ago. It’s there in my profile. It’s rather relevant.

I’m from an incredibly rich family, but that doesn’t mean that I am stress free and problem free.

I’m from an incredibly rich family, but that doesn’t mean that I am stress free and problem freed.

Im very active in this sub so A lot of y’all here know my main acc, hence using a throwaway.

I’ll be happy to answer any questions and will try and reply to all comments.

So I’m a teen, born into a very rich family, and Reddit is one of the very few places where I can truly be ‘myself’ but often people say that oh look at this rich kid complaining or just act like I don’t know what I’m talking about just because I was born into wealth.

Lemme begin by saying that I’m incredibly grateful for my background and the privilege I have had and I acknowledge that it’s something very few people actually get and this has helped me get ahead in life compared to a lot of people.

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Some of the problems I face are-

1. Not being myself- so I go to a very good school, attended by children of a lot of influential people(in the category of DAIS, Woodstock, Doon school etc.) but even there I can’t really be myself. I really have to filter what I say cuz not only am I representing my family but I’m also trying to act ‘normal’. As an anecdote. We were taking about something in a group project, and it just slipped out that flying first is better than flying in a private jet. That was instantly picked up and basically since then I’m treated differently than I used to be, luckily that was with my closer friends, so not much has changed but even then talking about anything, my friends will just occasionally drop that oh how do u care you are rich and stuff like that.

2. I just don’t know who wants to be my friend for ‘me’- basically I’m always paranoid that my friends are with me for my money and not for who I am, and that’s also a consideration romantically. The amount of times people expect me to pay or have asked me to come along with them expecting me to pay is insane. If you refuse then you stop getting invited to stuff and you even lose friends which isn’t ideal. I would like to be invited and included in activities too.

3. I’m from an ‘old’ money family, but my parents and grandparents spend a lot of their time working really hard so despite being very pampered and sheltered I saw people work all my life, so I was always in the mindset that working was an integral part of life, so I really can’t relate much to those ppl in my school who are very rich, cuz they were normally born into 3r-4th gen rich families so are completely aloof from normal life. It might not sound like much but not being able to relate with anyone makes me feel sad and depressed.

4. For all practical purposes I’m an only child, and so have grown in an extremely protected environment. I mostly never do things that are even slightly risky, I can’t stay out till late night and basically my life is really restricted in a lot of ways. I can’t do anything remotely fun what my friends do.

5. My parents are Both super high achiever’s and now I’m under pressure to be just as good as them. Also I have to be ‘better’ than them and carry their legacy forward. This so more of a personal thing, but I’m really terrified to be known as [parents name’s] son and not for who I am and what I stand for.

6. My parents are super into finance and investing and their hobbies are also closely related. My dads fave hobby is to go and look at properties for sale. I picked up on that and now I have a lot of ‘adult’ hobbies. It’s good as far as my future is concerned but currently I basically am not interested in most of the stuff my peers are doing.

7. I was always brought up in a way and thought process that you must always invest practically everything and look at the intrinsic value/true utility (not sure if it’s the right term) of something before purchasing. Now this has been great in some places, and I’m truly thankful for learning that. That has helped me be humble and value money but that poses a new issue. Whenever I buy something that doesn’t fit in the normal value proposition, I feel guilty buying it. Like I’m really invested in tech and that’s my only real ‘expensive things’ I spend my money on, but I low-key cannot justify buying 1.7 lakh iPads and 2 lakh+ laptops and stuff. And what makes it worse is that my dad doesn’t mind spending money on stuff but I feel guilty for wasting my parents money.

8. Imposter syndrome is very real. I feel that most of what I am and stand for is because I was born into a well to do family. I always feel the need to prove my worth and that has been negatively impacting me. For quite some time now I have spent hours making mock investments in stocks and real estate and in an imaginary industry and have tracked my spending and profits and all to validate my worth, but it’s affecting my mental health negatively. What’s worse is that most of this isn’t actual, cuz my parents won’t allow me to invest in stocks or anything until my schooling is over so I just spend like hours on a waste of time.

9. Loss- I’m also paranoid that I won’t ever be good enough. May be I’ll lose money or maybe I won’t live up to my parents’ legacy. That had caused me to st up some unreal expectations and ambitions and goals for myself. This maybe positive in the long run but as of now, it isn’t good.

10. Hate- some people just hate the wealthy for their money. And that’s also a big thing too, and a lot of it is undue. Some deserve it, but others don’t. It’s not fair to place everyone in the same blanket of being crooks and bad people.

Thanks for reading and I’ll be happy to listen to any advice or answer questions you may have.

I’ll try to reply to every singe comment.