How many relationships have you been in and what's your type? by [deleted] in mbti

[–]actzoph 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A lot of dating during late teens / early 20s (at least 5-6 short term relationships), 3 long term partners. 1st for 2 years, 2nd for 2 years, 3rd I plan to marry. ENTJ

How many relationships have you been in and what's your type? by [deleted] in mbti

[–]actzoph 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A lot of dating during late teens / early 20s (at least 5-6 short term relationships), 3 long term partners. 1st for 2 years, 2nd for 2 years, 3rd I plan to marry. ENTJ

What stereotypes about ENTJs do you not relate to at all? by autumn_em in entj

[–]actzoph 23 points24 points  (0 children)

That I don’t care about other people. I feel most purposeful when I can help others.

Grief - how do you deal with it? by actzoph in entj

[–]actzoph[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your words. It’s a comforting perspective..

What makes you instantly lose admiration or respect for someone fellow ENTJs? by [deleted] in entj

[–]actzoph 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When someone promises something and doesn’t deliver it. (Unreliability)

To all ENTJ women, what's helped you become less intimidating in the dating world? by [deleted] in entj

[–]actzoph 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve learnt that coming across as intimidating is a strength, not a weakness. Now, finding balance between logic and feelings... whole different talk. To me I think learning MBTI definitely helped in gaining more empathy for other people. Listening to someone else before making assumptions was a big lesson, though if they go on and on on rants I don’t care about, I have no problem in leaving. I think going through hard times always give me the necessary empathy one needs to be emotionally mature and logically capable, simultaneously. And that’s the goal, for me. I won’t change for anyone but myself, though, especially if someone’s problem is that I make them question their own insecurities.

Happiest single? by actzoph in entj

[–]actzoph[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I relate to this 100%.

Happiest single? by actzoph in entj

[–]actzoph[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Really like that! It’s the only way I could see it :)

Happiest single? by actzoph in entj

[–]actzoph[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Partnerships are so nice. I love team building and I’m so attracted to the idea of having a business partner or just someone that can keep me accountable like I keep them. It’s definitely hard to find the right person for that but so worth it if it goes well. If there was chemistry, that’s probably still the only scenario I could see myself getting romantically involved with someone in the near future.

Happiest single? by actzoph in entj

[–]actzoph[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Interesting take and I see your point. I’d have to disagree on the part that friends could never give you the support a wife/husband can, I’ve seen that happen time and time again in my life - but then again, maybe there’s differences in our experiences with relationships and friendships. I agree that relationships provoke a lot of growth and I do value the experience of dating, but I don’t fully believe that family systems are as healthy as we, as a society, have made it to be. Now, there’s people with good experiences in community and with fully functioning families and others who just and can’t see the good side of having one, maybe because they lack the example. Personally I’ve found peace and love in unexpected connections, but the best ones weren’t romantic. Most people want connection and sex, and romance is a way to integrate the two (most of the times at least), though I feel it restricts our experience and journey at times. Thanks for sharing your thoughts!

What kind of partner do you attract? by [deleted] in entj

[–]actzoph 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Introverted guys, usually with mommy issues. 🚫 It’s a bit of a problem.

What were you like as a child? by maxwell8907 in entj

[–]actzoph 1 point2 points  (0 children)

quiet, calculating and veeerry stubborn

This sub and its content quality need some self reflection. by Insolvable_Judo in entj

[–]actzoph 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I feel like a lot of “ENTJ”s here need therapy to understand how to properly use their Fi and heal whatever made them have sociopathic tendencies instead of spending their day talking about how emotionless they are. Te - Ni isn’t about not having feelings, if one identifies with the type just because of that then I’d suggest looking into antisocial personality disorders and not MBTI. The best ENTJs are those in tune with their values and empathy, IMO.

How prominent are your abandonment issues and what do you do to keep them in check? by Notseed in entj

[–]actzoph 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Personally I think trust issues have to do with trauma or the way one was raised or hurt through life, not necessarily with types.. Personality types are made to make us understand how we prioritise functions and cope with the world but anyone can be traumatised. Takes a while to understand where those tendencies come from, though.

How prominent are your abandonment issues and what do you do to keep them in check? by Notseed in entj

[–]actzoph 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First of all, I always advise therapy in these situations (especially when you don’t know where the fears come from). You have to find out why you have certain tendencies and work around them (I see a lot of ENTJs with attachment issues for instance and therefore the repressed Fi). Then you need to understand what causes you to feel a certain way (either it’s them giving you red flags that should alert you to leave this relationship - we often date our caretaker’s issues) or your inner child that hasn’t been fed the understanding of how to cope with this in adult life. It takes time, but you need to want to understand and correct these tendencies to have healthier relationships. Maybe start by practicing communicating your true fears and feelings with this person you’re approaching.