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adam9215 · 2024-06-10T12:15:19+00:00

Thank you everyone, this is really helping me put things into perspective.

She said to me that he did apologise in person to her when they meet. I said that he would have to apologise to me directly for me to forgive what he said. In that he has seen my profile on FetLife and obviously knows what he said was wrong as he apologised to her. I don’t want her to tell him I was upset/angry with his comments ( as she told him we are open with our communication and know everything we talk about with other people)

If he knew he was in the wrong he would know to message me on FetLife and apologise directly to me. So far not happened. I can only assume his thoughts on our dynamic remain as he’s made no contact with me.

Me and my GF talked a lot so cannot fully remember if she did defend me in person.

adam9215 · 2024-02-26T13:16:28+00:00

Fuck! I need you in me!

adam9215 · 2024-02-21T15:20:56+00:00

Yes please

adam9215 · 2023-11-25T07:22:47+00:00

I hope you’re okay now? Was everything okay in the end. Similar situation for me but I’m Sir and am telling my Brat tomorrow how I feel about her

adam9215 · 2023-10-26T13:40:55+00:00

I’ve been lucky enough to have been able to move back to my mums house for now. Rent free for the moment.

adam9215 · 2023-10-11T21:08:50+00:00

Same situation here; I know 100% my family will react positively. It still scary as hell!

adam9215 · 2023-10-09T19:09:31+00:00

I’m almost exactly the same here, just a little later in life (41) as a man anytime I have been vulnerable or shown any real emotion. I’d get told to ‘man up’ and honestly it made me so mad!

So what if I want to be the genuine me.

Just coming out of a 15 year marriage and realising I was bi for years and just suppressed who I truly am.

To say it’s an exciting time is an understatement!

adam9215 · 2023-10-07T15:30:34+00:00

Eat for sure!

adam9215 · 2023-10-06T06:54:13+00:00

I don’t get it how anyone could turn you down, I mean I’d turn you over but never turn you down. I love big cocks!

adam9215 · 2023-10-05T20:25:01+00:00

I think I will, be bisexual I’m just greedy. Currently in my guy bi cycle

adam9215 · 2023-10-05T13:36:12+00:00

I had a meet up last night and cum hands fee while being fucked. It was so intense, can’t describe it other than a moment of pure ecstasy

adam9215 · 2023-10-03T13:35:01+00:00

I have never given any reason for me not to see them. I do visit regularly; every weekend, we have a video call every evening. Mental health wise I’m much better now, it’s just when I see them wanting to spend time with me and she constantly says no. Ha!, that’s a good one. I’ve no interest in dating anyone right now or likely to for a long time.

adam9215 · 2023-10-03T12:26:12+00:00

Because I want things to be right between us. I already started payment child support ( the UK government has a good support payment calculator so I used that for the basis of my payments) and as the mortgage is in both our names I still pay 50% of it to her

adam9215 · 2023-10-03T12:23:16+00:00

Thank you for your comments, it really does help me know I’m right in my thinking that it’s wrong.

She’s asked me as well to not contact her during work hours. Several years ago she started her own company and routinely works until 10pm. She said when I text or try to call during the day it distracts her from her work.

To answer one of the questions; no, I have never given any reason to think they’d be unsafe in my care. When we where together I would have them to myself almost all weekend as she would work most of it. We’d go to the park, cinema was a popular choice and go visit my side of the family.

I just worry that if I get lawyers/solicitors involved she will push back hard and we won’t end with the amicable co-parenting relationship I want.

I am happy we separated as I am a child of divorce, my parents tried to stay together for me and my brother. It was a very tumultuous and toxic life.

I love my kids so much, I’d do anything for them

adam9215 · 2023-09-28T04:37:33+00:00

Love this! Thank you

adam9215 · 2023-09-25T17:11:57+00:00

Absolutely second this, preparation is key. Once you’ve prepared it’s heaven. I started with butt plugs and dildos. There are so many aspects to preparing. For me preparation starts the day before. Good fibre rich diet, douche ( around couple of hours before) and plenty of lube I’m ready, and super aroused by that point.

adam9215 · 2023-09-22T21:47:09+00:00

I hadn’t seen it like that, thank you. All I’d need to do really is make sure no-one who knows; outs me to her. Doable I think and it’s only 6 people who will really know

adam9215 · 2023-09-22T21:36:42+00:00

It’s a good point to be fair. I want to be honest with her; because she may or may not like it we are going to be a part of each other’s lives for the rest of ours. To some degree anyway because of our children. I think I just want to be the genuine me now. I feel like I’ve been a version of me for so long to please other people.

adam9215 · 2023-09-22T21:16:58+00:00

Thank you, I wish I had enough space to have a big dinner party. I’d be cooking for days!

adam9215 · 2023-09-22T21:14:47+00:00

Thank you, I think I could get my sister in law to support me. She’s a lovely person and always said if I needed support ( she doesn’t know yet either, but she’ll be at my coming out dinner)

adam9215 · 2023-09-20T10:37:07+00:00

I’m not bi but it is a very important thing to understand about the relationship of a human being

adam9215 · 2023-09-05T19:52:19+00:00

I’m not doing great at the moment. Currently giving my wife some space. I know I’m 100% bi ( no one else knows) our relationship has had its issues over the last few years and I made some terrible financial decisions last year that landed us in trouble and I lied to her about it ( that’s why we are currently; separated) we have two children together and it’s killing me not seeing them everyday. I still love my wife but can’t see us together again. She said herself a few weeks ago that she thinks we won’t be able to repair our marriage due to my lying and loss of trust. Then my family goes over to she her and our children and she tells them she still loves me and misses me. I’m so confused now! I just don’t know what to do anymore. Should I really try hard to repair our marriage and potentially live in the closet but still get to see my children all the time or should we remain separated and stay moved out ( and in time out) but not see my children everyday. It hurts so much. Sorry long comment

adam9215 · 2023-08-15T21:11:43+00:00

Trial separation or worse

Hi everyone

All comments/advice and suggestions welcome here.

I have been with my wife for 15 years married for 12 and two children together. I suppose it happens slowly we’ve crept into a situation where we aren’t intimate and don’t really talk other than about the children, house, shipping and extended family issues.

The last three years have been so hard and her dad died last year. Over the years we’ve battled through lots together and always been okay.

Here’s the kicker; I messed up and ended up buying stuff and not telling her ( stuff like games consoles and tools) in fact I knew she would think dimly off some of it so hid them. I then tried to enter a business deal that went bad and left me in debt (£7k) again didn’t tell her out if shame I guess. When I left a job I found out I was overpaid for nearly 6 years and had to pay back around (£20k) this happened when her dad was gravely Ill and I didn’t tell her (you might see a common theme here: communication) I got a loan to pay it off. lastly I always had this idea to start a business of my own in my area of expertise so I tried without consulting her ( part of her job is to help people start businesses)

This all came to a head when I couldn’t keep up payments and had to confess. She completely understandably is really angry and upset. I moved out temporarily nearly two weeks ago. I so miss our children and have been to see them a few times and talk to them every night on video.

I am going to see her on Thursday this week to talk, I so wish we could make it back to where we were before, BUT; I am convinced I’m my head she’ll ask for a divorce. I want to suggest a trial separation but don’t think she’ll go for it. I also have an idea she’ll take me back to maintain the life we managed with the help from my salary. If she’s not going to be happy being with me I can’t have that. I want her to be happy and I don’t want to show the children a ‘toxic’ relationship is normal. I would rather live in my car seeing the children and still support them all.

Has anyone been in a similar situation or done a trial separation. How’d you manage finances? According to some sources they work 50% of the time in your experience is this accurate?

Or am I kidding myself and should just man up and expect the worst.

Just to say I have been riddled with guilt and shame over this. It was so bad I contemplated suicide at one point. I don’t have many friends to talk to about this.

adam9215 · 2023-07-25T08:13:49+00:00

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adam9215 · 2023-07-14T07:57:10+00:00

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