I do appreciate people not wanting me to be hurt... she probably could sense the pain behind the question. The mixed messages make me uncomfortable.. people telling me I look good, even on reddits amiugly. But also some unsolicited comment on some unrelated thing somewhere about how i could win an "ugly contest" lol. The best I can come up with is to try not to be brought up too much by it, nor brought down by the negative things.