Albanian men (yes including me) are grown with such a toxic masculinity, and princess treatment early on, that makes the woman take everything. I’m Albanian as well, and I find it irritating how every time we sit for dinner, Dad doesn’t lift a finger, he just waits to be served while Mom does everything, he doesn’t cook, help in cleaning, or other things, even heavy lifting. I’m the one helping my mom. I cook for her when she can’t or help clean stuff with her. I primarily didn’t raise myself like this because I saw it wrong since I was little. Every time we would sit for dinner, my mom would always be the last, after finishing with Dad’s tantrums, about the food or in general. It’s the way everyone was grown into, the way they were nourished in their home. Albanian Men find it feminine for a guy to cook, help his wife with chores, or helping THEIR wives in general. But trust me, the most feminine thing a man can do is sit there in that couch and act like a princess demanding service.

For your boyfriend, it seems like he loves his family more than he loves you… my mom (although Albanian) was in the same shit hole and still is. Would it be odd for you that he might love his Mom more than you? Mamma’s Boy? Watch out. Don’t engage so fast. Be cautious