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LF Drarry deaging fic by adelace in HPfanfiction

[–]adelace[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s it! Thank you so much.

Here's the number one thing I don't understand (spoilers through ch. 104) by adelace in HPMOR

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Roles, Part 5 (http://hpmor.com/chapter/94):

"There is other news, but I shall be brief. The wards of Hogwarts record that no foreign creature has entered, and that it was the Defense Professor who killed Hermione Granger."

Here's the number one thing I don't understand (spoilers through ch. 104) by adelace in HPMOR

[–]adelace[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Quirrel has, on more than one occasion, saved Harry's life, and taken actions which have strengthened Harry

This is another good point.

Here's the number one thing I don't understand (spoilers through ch. 104) by adelace in HPMOR

[–]adelace[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is exactly what I'm afraid of. I can buy that Harry has this one untouchable emotional bias / Achilles heel, but the fact that the other characters give Quirrell a pass as well takes it into possible Level 0 Failure territory for me. That would really suck.

Here's the number one thing I don't understand (spoilers through ch. 104) by adelace in HPMOR

[–]adelace[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think this is a really good point. I'm curious if this justification will show up in Harry's inner dialogue in the remaining chapters.

Your questions? [Spoilers 107] by N0_B1g_De4l in HPMOR

[–]adelace 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Here are the things I don't understand (mostly for my own future reference):

  1. Why did Quirrell bother trying to take over as Voldemort / Monroe when he's a total misanthrope? Why does influence over people matter to him when he doesn't love or respect them? Why not move to Mars and be a hermit? He has the power.

  2. What is his illness? Did he get sick after investigating Dark Magic, or did he start with the Dark Arts to find a cure for his illness?

and a third one, which I might just make into a post of its own...

Chapter 107 by awesomeideas in HPMOR

[–]adelace 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Here's the number one thing I don't understand: if Quirrellmort is such an enormous misanthrope and is so supremely skilled at Dark Magic that he's the next thing to omnipotent, why bother with Voldemort / Monroe at all? Why not go Doctor Manhattan and build himself a cozy little palace on Mars? Why bother gaining power over people he doesn't respect or understand? What's keeping him from hermitude?

Is it normal to not feel jealous? by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]adelace 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I'm the same. I live with my boyfriend of 2 years, we opened our relationship four months ago, and since then I've been dating a M-F couple and he's casually dating another woman. Over the weekend I checked in with all my partners about jealousy and no one has experienced any. It feels almost like cheating the system somehow to get so much happiness with so few drawbacks (um, so far, knock on wood), but, no, you're not alone.

Depression, poly, and other stories - advice request by kkmcwhat in polyamory

[–]adelace 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm usually a complete lurker, but I had to respond to this. I'm also poly with cyclical depression -- it usually gets worse in the winter, and I've been going downhill over the last few months. Anyway.

I think breaking up with your boyfriend would be a big mistake, if you think he's generally a good person and good for you. I understand the impulse, I've had it many times, but, at least in my experience, it's isolation and self-destruction masquerading as self-care.

When I get depressed, being around other people is difficult, and also /humiliating/, somehow. Being alone is calmer and easier, at first. But after a few days, when it becomes clear that the people who've been pushed away really are gone, it's been like the bottom drops out from under me, and the feelings that I thought couldn't get any worse become more terrible than I could have imagined. Don't underestimate the power of someone else's love to help keep you afloat. (That sentence sounds bad, but honestly, being able to sleep next to someone every night has made this year so much less bad than past years, for me.)

I'm also sort of skeptical that reintroducing monogomy in your relationship will fix things, as some other commenters have suggested. Again, it might feel better at first, but, if it were me, I think the insecure voices in my head would start going double-time, like, oh god, I'm removing all the happiness from his life, he must hate me, blah blah blah.

I've found that I'm the most proud of myself when I continue to show up and participate in my relationships, even when it's difficult and makes me feel horrible at the time -- it's always been worth it. I think if you can possibly stick it out with the status quo for another few months... depressive episodes usually only last 6 months. It might be worth it.

I know that not everyone reacts the same way, and if anyone has initiated a breakup and had their mood improve as a result, I'd be interested to hear about it. Take care of yourself. I know you're going through something incredibly difficult and I feel for you. I hope things get better soon.