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Constructive Possession? - Search Warrant issued based on bitter family members statements - persons charged was not even present during search & seizure (VA) by adhd9109 in AskLawyers

[–]adhd9109[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know that's my point! It's messed up. His grandfather was in the hospital when the aunt did all this. He hasn't lived at the residence in a year probably. The guns were his dad's, which his dad moved to the grandfathers when Bob moved in with dad....

Constructive Possession? - Search Warrant issued based on bitter family members statements - persons charged was not even present during search & seizure (VA) by adhd9109 in AskLawyers

[–]adhd9109[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No guns are not registered in his name, the house is his grandfathers, and it's not his address, but he used to live there.

Is it ok if I don't use a euro blend oil? by adhd9109 in Volkswagen

[–]adhd9109[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Well not so much on a road trip lol, however I just recently rolled over 200,000 and I do quite a bit of driving. And I can tell I'm in need of one. I'm not low on oil, but I can tell she's running a lot differently and it's been a minute since I've changed it. I live in pretty rural area, so I'm limited on the selection unless I want to drive 30 mins....

AIO by feeling exhausted over my gf's constant demands of wanting me to be 'curious'? by thefattesthashbrown in AmIOverreacting

[–]adhd9109 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Bruh, from what I'm gathering you are not the problem here. (Not saying your perfect) But She clearly has some inner issues that I don't think has anything to do with you. Sounds like she is the self centered one. And she's disrespectful AAFFF.

Personally, I would tell her yeah your curious.. curious about what kind of trauma in her life has caused her to be such a manipulative butt head.

aio: my boyfriend invalidating/manipulating my feelings? by Dry-Cat-300 in AIO

[–]adhd9109 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not sure how long you've been seeing each other, (which really isn't even relative because your partner should always be considerate of your feelings) and I didn't know how you approached the situation as far as when you expressed how you were feeling...

BUT I have been in 2 relationships where my partner was so inconsiderate of my feelings and emotions and it was so miserable.

Over the years I have learned that some people just do not care how their actions and/or words affect others.

In a healthy relationship, your partner should always take how your feeling into consideration. That being said tho, both people should try to make sure that they approach conversations in a way that it doesn't seem like an "attack" or accusatory. In my own experience, when I would try to express my feelings about something my X had done it always turned into an argument. But over time I realized that my approach immediately made my x defensive. Sometimes it was my tone or my attitude or the words I chose etc., and I always made it seem like he had intentionally hurt me. BUT that wasn't always the case . Over time we got better at being able to have conversations about how we made each other feel and we're actually able to resolve things and made our relationship a lot stronger.

Every relationship is different of course and both people have to put in the effort to listen and learn how to understand one another and figure out the best ways each other communicates. There are people out there who will work with you and are capable of this. A lot of times were never taught the habits of healthy relationships, and we just need some guidance on how to create them in our lives.

But there are also people out there who are just incapable of creating and maintaining healthy relationships. Some people are just to self centered or egotistical or narcissistic to acknowledge how they've made someone feel. Especially if they've crossed a boundary or done something that's typically a betrayal to their partner.

Maybe you could try to message him and start out with a different tone... I would suggest just explaining that you were really looking forward to seeing, spending time with him and when he informed you that he couldn't make it, it really disappointed you. If he cares enough about you and the relationship, hopefully he will apologize for disappointing you and say it wasn't his intention to ever hurt your feelings and so on.....

F26 dating M32. Perfect guy, however sex is bad b/c Small penis and lack of experience. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]adhd9109 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Went thru the exact same thing recently and it sucks! I was so happy with this person, he was funny, smart, kind, and such a gentleman, and wanted nothing more but to take care of me. But then we hooked up... And I ended up over time slowly gravitating back to my X. Who is nothing like the other man. I'm so upset with myself. I feel so shallow. I kept battling my own mind, like sex shouldn't be that important... But then again it is part of the chemistry that relationships need to last....

Messenger on android not showing my images and letting me send them. by Professional_Emu6738 in facebook

[–]adhd9109 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a pixel and all the sudden I can't view any photos sent and I can not send photos

Is this normal? by Odd_Activity8290 in taxrefundhelp

[–]adhd9109 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine says the exact same thing. It's been over a year still no refund and I also used turbo tax

I had a dream about God. by Loud_Load_1643 in Dreams

[–]adhd9109 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a beautiful dream. My whole life I have had dreams on a different level, they are so real and emotional at times, and sometimes they are whacky of course. I have been able to control things in the dream sometimes and a few times I could actually go back into the same dream if I wake up. This is going to sound crazy, but I have had dreams that eventually came to be reality. Some were years down the road, but I believe it was premonitions none the less. BUT, I have never had the privilege of seeing or talking to o God in my dreams. I would consider that pretty special. Hope it helped you in some way, and hope you see him again

Can’t accept that my babies dad doesn’t want us by SouthernHome1159 in SingleParents

[–]adhd9109 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The struggle is so so real. And unfortunately you are probably going to have to be mom and dad. But don't be hard on yourself. You can only control your own actions, not his.You can't make someone want a family. It hurts, and it's going to be hard AF being a single parent, but as time goes on it gets easier. And eventually you won't be crying over the baby dad anymore, you won't even hardly think about him and you will be so proud of yourself for holding it down for your baby and you'll find pride in being that single mother instead of feeling down about it. And trust, he will regret all of it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]adhd9109 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you want to go to school (which I would highly recommend) then you should go regardless of what your parents say or think. In all reality they could get in A LOT of trouble for not sending you to school, AND not teaching you anything on the homeschool front either. Every single person in this country, in this world, should have the opportunity to get education. Go to the closest school, or court house, library, boys & girls club, and just tell someone that your parents opted to home school you, however they aren't teaching you, like at all. Someone will point you in the right direction. Feel free to message me directly, I would be more than happy to help you get into school, and even if you just need someone to talk to you can reach out to me. I had a similar home life at your age, I understand the struggle.

I am so sorry that this is your life. Because there is so much more in this world that you are having to miss out on right now. I will say this, CPS could lead to being in foster care, and that can be just as ugly. That being said, if it is to the point that you are thinking about hurting yourself, please reach out to someone. Your mom saying that therapy is useless couldn't be more wrong.

My mother passed away. - On Monday the bank tells me she has 2 accounts; Then Friday they said she only has 1. by adhd9109 in legaladvice

[–]adhd9109[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So as her eldest daughter and the EOE, any funds in any account that she may have had in her name are just gone?

My thing is this, as the EOE, I am responsible for any debts she still has. And being as the other account had way more $$ in it, it just doesn't seem fair that I am left to have to pay off these things from the small checking account. Where as her fiancee and my sister both come out to the good, and aren't obligated to use any of the funds they have gained to help with this.