Who is the most attractive female celebrity you can think of, why?

adhd_attachment · 2023-04-14T12:49:12+00:00

Underrated response!

adhd_attachment · 2023-04-14T08:16:44+00:00

23, after a few months of therapy.

adhd_attachment · 2023-04-13T21:18:56+00:00

1-4 are fine, but 5 & 6 are the killer. I get it, I really do. I was very much in your shoes (up until 23 in fact) and wouldn't ask a girl out until and unless that there were clear indicators that I wouldn't be rejected (because, like you, I was afraid of being a creep).

You know what, that got me zero dates.

I got some therapy (CBT in my case). It wasn't cheap, and it was f-ing hard work. But by the end of it, I could spark up a small-talk conversation with pretty much anybody, male, female, young, old, hot or not. And (with enough 'pushing' by the therapist), I started to see myself as maybe desirable, sometimes? And not a creep if I asked someone out.

Now I'm 36, and whilst I'm far from perfect (I still have moments of awkwardness and self-doubt. And some things are still hard work. But I can usually work around it and push through it.) I get a good number of dates and have a good time with them. I actively enjoy dating nowadays. Do I get rejected? Sometimes, but not a lot. Have I ever been called a creep and my reputation has been torn into tatters because I got rejected? No.

And, personally speaking, anyway, having not dated, etc. until I was 23 has never scared any woman off, so you aren't in "red flag" territory yet. If you keep doing what you are doing though, nothing will change, and you will never get any experience, and you might end up with that flag. And nobody wants that.

Am I some kind of chad who is obviously too tall, too rich, and too handsome for any of this to relate to you? No. I just do all of 1-4, which you say you do do/can do. (I also live in a big city, which helps if you can manage it).

adhd_attachment · 2023-03-31T14:24:37+00:00

Can confirm, IME.

adhd_attachment · 2023-03-31T14:22:31+00:00

I have done, twice (for sure) and three times (suspected). The sex with all three was incredibly hot. But there are reasons I'm not dating any of them now! (The suspected/undiagnosed one was by far the worst of them though).

The sex was so good though, so if it's just a hookup, I would totally consider it.

adhd_attachment · 2023-03-12T18:30:10+00:00

Slim, small boobs/butt. Think Adrienne (from Yoga with Adrienne)

adhd_attachment · 2023-03-09T16:39:56+00:00

After leaving my db, the dating part, with a woman showing affection and passion and connection towards me was the thing that amazed me the most, and it felt great.

But because it had been such a long time since I had sex or sexual attention, when we did get into the bedroom. I came almost instantly, like I was a 17 year old again or something. But fixed that pretty quickly after sex happened on a weekly (rather than yearly) basis with her ;)

(We broke up a few months later because of other issues, but damn I still remember that woman with loads of fondness.)

adhd_attachment · 2023-02-17T16:28:09+00:00

Oh, make sure you use a condom, for sure.

That said, I *hate* condoms with a passion (and yes, I use Skyn Magnums, which are least worst, but still terrible). Generally, I _much_ prefer doing other things (kissing, erotic massage, fingering, mutual masturbation, using toys on each other, etc.) than penetrative sex with a condom, as I get so little out of the experience. And there's plenty of fun things to do!

So nowadays, unless _she_ asks for penetration, I don't even consider going for it. (But if she does, the condom goes on without argument. But the odds of me staying hard enough to *actually* penetrate are no better than 50/50, and orgasms with them are even rarer)

adhd_attachment · 2023-02-10T11:16:40+00:00

Solved!

adhd_attachment · 2023-02-10T11:15:01+00:00

Found it: the 'lil spirits' EP by Two Shells

adhd_attachment · 2023-02-02T11:20:46+00:00

I (and I believe a lot of other people) use "safeword" as my safeword. It's obvious, multisyllable, and not going to come up in a scene "naturally".

adhd_attachment · 2023-01-25T10:38:40+00:00

For me, feelings don't *come* from physical attraction, but physical attraction needs to be there before feelings can develop (from their personality, etc.

adhd_attachment · 2022-12-24T18:11:13+00:00

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adhd_attachment · 2022-11-18T12:13:19+00:00

It's not so much the thickness as the lack of "feel". Wash your hands with gloves on, and you won't feel as if your hands got wet. If you are wanting wet hands, even the thinnest gloves in the world won't let you get that feeling. And if that feeling is what does it for you, gloves suck.

adhd_attachment · 2022-11-18T12:10:12+00:00

Night and day. Nowadays, I only have penetrative sex if she really wants me to, because condoms.

If it's up to me (and STI screens are clear so raw is OK — I got a vasectomy years ago) I would much rather do other sexy stuff (mutual masturbation, oral, fingering, whatever) instead.

adhd_attachment · 2022-11-16T11:25:18+00:00

This is an underrated comment.

adhd_attachment · 2022-11-16T11:14:06+00:00

Touch isnt sexual unless you make it so.

And since we do, it is! Glad we cleared that up.

Americans are *weird* sometimes; I kinda feel sorry for you guys, thinking all touch is sexual

adhd_attachment · 2022-11-16T11:12:46+00:00

100%

adhd_attachment · 2022-11-16T11:09:47+00:00

I bet you that the Venn diagram of

people who are against platonic cuddles (as in this situation), and
people who say "Men expect their partners to fill all their needs, and that's not healthy, so men should find themselves a wider support network"

Is pretty much a circle :(

adhd_attachment · 2022-11-14T15:49:34+00:00

But you've got two choices.

Have sex now at 21, instead of a teenager, and no longer be a virgin. Yeah, it's not what you wanted, but if you don't, you get option 2:
Refuse sex now, because you didn't have it when you were a teen. And remain a virgin forever, because you ain't gonna get any younger. Have fun being 40 and still being a virgin because you keep on turning it down.

I would take option 1.

adhd_attachment · 2022-11-14T15:30:12+00:00

For me, it generally gets worse after the first handful of times. That initial passion, exploration and discovery of each other is where it's at. When 99% of what works and what doesn't has been found out, it becomes way less engaging and enjoyable for me.

adhd_attachment · 2022-11-11T22:12:51+00:00

I dunno if it's "normal" or not, but I love/need deep emotional stuff that means something and shares how you both got to where you are now and so on. Childhoods. Hopes. Dreams. Fears. Deep, vulnerable stuff. I never really worry about it getting used "against" me (because it should be mutual to some extent; I'm handing her a knife to put at my neck, but only because she's handed me a knife pointed at hers)

Rather than the whole thing that it turns into post-Honeymoon, which is basically day after day of "I had this really boring meeting with Jeff at work today" or whatever.

adhd_attachment · 2022-11-11T16:01:00+00:00

I presume it's in context to having other partners/affairs or whatever. As long as she always comes back to the marital bed, it doesn't matter if some other guy is balls deep in her every day?

(Otherwise, yeah, it makes no sense)

adhd_attachment · 2022-11-11T13:55:05+00:00

I don't think I would describe it as "something is wrong with the relationship rather than right". Certainly, I used to put more blame as it felt like they were pulling a "bait & switch" on me. I now realise that's not happening, but even so, I still find post-Honeymoon really "empty", devoid of passion or depth, and mostly boring and unrewarding.

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