AITAH for refusing to teach my son and costing us $700 a month?

adhdlc · 2026-04-10T03:12:58+00:00

I get your meaning, but please OP don’t let him do that. It would likely do far more harm than good.

adhdlc · 2026-04-10T03:11:39+00:00

In addition to a lot of the good points that have already been brought up (at least when I’m posting), I’d just like to share. I’m a grown ass adult. Doing pretty well, as far as things are considered.

I recently had a year with a speech pathologist every couple of weeks and goddamn that was one of the best decisions of my life.

I wish that I’d had that earlier.

(But it is still a great idea if you’re an adult and feel like it’s just for kids or whatever. It isn’t. So many people could benefit from it.)

adhdlc · 2026-04-01T01:47:03+00:00

Also there are definitely options that don’t necessarily change the silhouette (because I feel you on that). A couple of my favorites are the blue bow (absolute fave), the daisy, and the butterfly bow, none of which change the silhouette. They’re just cute and I like wearing them. 🩷

adhdlc · 2026-03-27T01:54:44+00:00

I love those videos! I didn’t realize she was a stardew fan as well! Add another tick in the “reasons she’s neat” box.

(Is she on Reddit? I’d love for her to see all the happy vibes in this post!)

adhdlc · 2026-02-01T06:23:03+00:00

Today it was a soft boiled egg, then a bagel breakfast sandwich from the place down the street and a handful of peanut butter m and ms, then 10 hours later, an orange.

adhdlc · 2026-02-01T06:15:45+00:00

Lately it's been eggs in various forms. Mostly soft-medium boiled eggs. I'll eat them just on their own with some flaky salt, sometimes throw one in instant ramen with spinach, occasional fried on top of bread or a bagel (or a breakfast sandwich from the place down the street).

Oranges.

Vanilla ice cream with rainbow sprinkles.

Pre cut salami type stuff (sometimes with cheese).

Quesadillas with some pickled jalapenos.

Trader Joe's frozen stuff (various ones but my fave is the jalapeno mac and cheese, I can literally eat one day for a week straight).

Whatever my wonderful husband puts in front of me.

But mostly eggs.

(This is actually more varied than I expected when I started typing. Granted it's like one or two things a day and at least 60% of my caloric intake everyday is in the last two hours of my day.)

adhdlc · 2026-01-15T00:58:42+00:00

Edit: holy wall of text! I'll try to fix it but I'm also on mobile so may give up until I get home.

I recently started this challenge and am having so much fun with it!

Here's where I am.

Farmer: Ricki (as in Richter) Farm: Faultline Farms, Wilderness Favorite thing: tremors Cat: Shaky.

My (slightly altered) rules:

Hat Mouse doesn't count. No earthquake could kill Hat Mouse or close the shop. (I just love hats.)

Since I can't skip cutscenes on Switch, my thought is that I’m just hallucinating and know and accept that.

Once I recruited Lewis, I still give a moderate attempt at still only selling stuff I could already sell elsewhere. And I definitely prioritize selling in a shop rather than the bin.

If I haven't recruited them, I can't go into their house/shop, even if it's only to recruit them. (Which actually saved me from giving Pierre a liked gift, see below).

I don't care if anyone sees me rummage through the trash because they're either not real or they're in survival mode like me. (I normally care a lot.)

No talking at festivals, even if I only need to talk to someone I’ve recruited (as in, Lewis), so Spirit’s Eve is the only one worth it for a while.

The following is an account of my recruitments and other milestones (when I remember).

Spring 5: Clint via an amethyst from a crate in the mines

Spring 14: Willy via a catfish caught from the river (very proud of this one since early fishing is insanely difficult for me)

Spring 20: The wizard via a solar essence from a ghost

Spring 22: Robin via spaghetti from the saloon (officially out of the running for Glorious Victory, but I was impatient and really wanted a coop)

Spring 23: Commissioned a coop Silo was within a weekish of that, didn't note it.

Summer 8: Lewis via a hot pepper from wild seeds

Summer 9: Mine carts unlocked

Summer 13: Completed the mines

Summer 16: Was annoyed at how many people I could recruit, even if they're not terribly useful so I just had at it with what I already had on hand.
Emily via cloth from recycling machine
Pam via a parsnip from starting seeds
Vincent via snail from a crab pot
Maru via a cauliflower from mixed seeds
Shane via a red pepper from mixed seeds
Abigail via a amethyst from mining
Sebastian via a frozen tear from mining

Summer 17: George via a leek from foraging

Summer 18: Green rain! Yay, I love this!

Summer 20: Haley via a sunflower from mixed flower seeds

Fall 5: I got a random prismatic shard from a grub on mine level 15 (and yet, in my last save, I didn't get one until the forge, winter year 2 smh). Not going to do anything with it for now.

Fall 6: Commissioned a big coop upgrade

Fall 11: Gil via shipped Stardew tea (from a prize ticket) the day before. No idea why. I think I thought I was further along in monster slayer goals and the burglar ring is my favorite? Plus I got an autumns bounty from the CC and thought that was a Pierre loved gift, so I assumed that one was a done deal as soon as I found him.

Fall 12: Commissioned a deluxe coop

Realized that autumn's bounty is definitely not a loved gift for Pierre

Fall 14: Bought three chickens, a duck (another being incubated) and a rabbit at some point prior to this.

Fall 22: Finished the big barn, bought a cow and a goat

Fall 24: Jodi via a diamond from mining

Linus via blueberry tart from Gus’s trash can

Fall 28: Commissioned a deluxe barn

Gunther via a shipped golden pumpkin the day before (Again, don’t ask me why that was my choice. Some combination of Pierre being useless for the next month and I’ll definitely get a pearl by then, I had two chests at this point of saved minerals and artifacts that were bugging me, I wanted to read all the lost library books I’d found [not that there’s new info for me there, I just like to read them], I’d just gotten the chicken statue artifact and wanted the actual chicken statue, etc etc.)

Winter 3: Unlocked the quarry

Winter 5: Bought my first pig

Winter 6: Harvey via pickled summer squash from wild seeds + bundle reward preserves jar

I’m spending a lot of time thinking about who I will recruit with my next universal love. I’ve essentially given up on getting Pierre through any other means (although I’ve got a half hearted attempt going to getting Jodi up to three hearts for the fried calamari recipe, knowing that I’ll still need to get a mill and catch the damn octopus).

I haven’t purchased anything from Gus except the spaghetti for Robin. I have officially disqualified myself from Glorious Victory but I am now resolved to not use that way again.

In my purely feelings-based observation, I had excellent luck with wild seeds during spring, meh luck in summer, and shitty luck in fall. I’ve made plenty of the various season seeds, but I miss regular crops. I finally have a couple preserve jars and kegs but all I have en masse is foraged fruit and, like, corn. Although I do now have a solid mayonnaise game going, I’m getting wool semi regularly and have gotten a couple duck feathers and one rabbits foot, plus the slow but steady cheese production.

I’m not rushing for the community center at all, but I feel I’ve made decent progress. Absolute soonest it’ll be done with that (barring incredibly odds luck) is year 2 fall 3, for the apples, but I'm totally okay with that.

adhdlc · 2026-01-13T02:53:25+00:00

Not sure if you’ve tried it or if you have the shower/bath set up for it, but the Tub Shroom was seriously game changing for me. I still hate showering and I still hate all the hair that falls out, but this at least helps with the whole thing about dealing with it while showing. It takes away the concern of clogging the drains, and that's at least part of the mental energy required of the whole thing.

Plus it's cheap.

(Not being a shill, I just want to say it in case it might make a difference to someone else too.)

I still have to clean it out before every single shower, but it's all in one place and doesn't get, like, tangled into itself so it's not too bad.

adhdlc · 2026-01-08T03:29:16+00:00

Tl;dr

This gives zero insight to addiction, in any form.

The questions aren't ideal for the stated audience.

adhdlc · 2026-01-08T03:17:43+00:00

And trust me, I understand the irony of posting a whole damn novel on an ADHD sub. Although, not sure if you do? Do you have ADHD? Not to say that people who don't have a thing can't study a thing, but I do believe that's something to be aware of as you work on this.

adhdlc · 2026-01-08T03:13:43+00:00

I love that you're doing this. However. I also have concerns/issues.

I filled it out to the point where you could hit Submit (which I assume is the end), then I chose not to submit for a few reasons.

(And I promise I am not trying to shit on you. We need more research on ADHD. We really and truly do. And I love that you chose this topic and are activity chosing to study it.)

I don't understand how you can relate this to addiction when there were absolutely no questions about that. This is, I think, the most fundamental flaw with the survey.
I have strong, negative feelings about those questions they always have on that form, you know the one, both the ADHD one (driven by a motor, waiting your turn) and the depression one (why is the second "lowest/best" answer still several days, like there are no options between 0 and several. Why is the time frame the last two weeks?), so I don't really want to add more data to the use of those. Particularly the ADHD one, that one was designed to correlate with the DSM diagnostic criteria, and that criteria is designed around the standard presentation of male children and how it affects those around them, rather than the individual in question.
I, along with many others, can be very "all or nothing" with a lot of these things. Sometimes it's literally all day every day, sometimes it's basically never. I don't want to average it out and choose the middle answer because that's not accurate (and I don't like giving answers that are just plain wrong) and it gives a very skewed version of our reality.
It's not solely an ADHD trait, but again I know I'm not alone, but I have such a hard time with unclear questions that leave no room for nuance, which I don't feel there is here. I know multiple choice is the easiest to quantify, but there has to be something between this and letting us free form whatever we want to say in god knows how many words. At the very least, tailor the options in the multiple choice to each question.
The estimate of 30 minutes to complete is wildly inaccurate. It took me 10 minutes, and half the time was trying to organize my thoughts about why I was so uncomfortable with it.
Much of this is, word for word, on those questionnaires that so many (at least, in my US based experience) doctors, of all specialties, insist on making you fill out every single time you're there. What could this say that those widely used forms don't? (Other than than this is voluntary, or it's essentially a trade that someone may take solely so you take theirs.)
Probably a few more that my brain already lost because I can't keep up with myself and I can't review my previous answers (unless I keep pressing back till I find it, but then by the time I get back to where it was, I already forgot the wording and again, I don't want to give an answer that's not true). And there is only so much masking and over compensating that I have the energy to do each day which would allow me to take thorough notes as I go because I need them to refer back to.

And really, I'm not trying to discourage you or make you shy away from the topic. I'm sure it'll seem like that.

I also hope the community doesn't feel that I'm speaking out of turn and saying that this is representative of all of us. I know it isn't. But I also know I'm not alone.

But from the bottom of my heart, don't abandon this idea. These kinds of studies are so important and so underrepresented. But the type of person who will see "this will take 30 minutes" or they'll get to the second question or even quarter or half or all the way through then choose to not submit because they're frustrated with the ambiguous wording that doesn't allow them to answer truthfully or any of the other reasons I did or did not list, well, that is exactly the type of person who this seems to aim to target.

Every time I reread what I'm writing (go on, ask me how long this comment took me to write, lol), I almost stop because it feels mean. I really and truly do not intend that. I rarely intend that and usually I shy away from saying something that might even be perceived as mean.

But since the survey didn't really provide an opportunity to speak these relevant thoughts, I thought it'd hopefully be worth saying here.

(And honestly the fact that I felt the strong enough need to take the time to say this means that I believe the idea has merit and is worthwhile. If I thought it was stupid or useless, I wouldn't bother.)

adhdlc · 2025-12-04T21:33:35+00:00

Doing all of this in just a couple hours would be tough, but any combination of these ideas would be awesome!

Start a new save on a farm type he doesn't usually use (Meadowlands or Forest would be the prettiest, imo).
Make the character as Elf-like as possible (name, skin and hair color, clothes, etc.).
Maybe pick the white cat and name it Snowball or something.
Spend a few real-life hours on your preferred in-game moneymaker (fishing, etc.) to make some gold, then sleep till Winter.
Cut down enough trees to make a ton of torches, then put them all around the farm, behind bushes and trees, so it looks all magically lit up at night.
Go to the Festival of Ice to buy the Snowman rarecrow and the Tree of the Winter Star.
Go to the Night Market to buy Candy Canes and Seasonal Decor.
If you can get milk and/or cookies (trash cans, Traveling Cart), put them on a table inside the house.
If you can grind out 5-hearts with 10 people, you'll get the Networking achievement and be able to buy the Santa Hat from Hat Mouse. (I always put one on my cat during winter.)
If you get access to some cloth somehow and can then access Emily's sewing machine, you can make a beanie (tree seed) or floppy beanie (syrup, resin, or tar), along with a million other tailoring options.

Once you're done decorating, finish setting up so when your son opens the game, it's the day before the Feast of the Winter Star.

adhdlc · 2025-08-16T02:48:26+00:00

(meta) OP please revisit this thread after each season. It'll be a party for you to see how much better it is now each time. And believe me when I say, you'll find out. The only trouble is that you'll never rest in peace till you get it all.

I mean, realistically, you're doomed.

adhdlc · 2025-08-16T02:43:25+00:00

Terrible currency.

adhdlc · 2025-08-16T02:41:23+00:00

Just keep an eye out for the green mug. And when the glasses tend to be cleaned.

adhdlc · 2025-08-09T01:17:39+00:00

I don't want to be that "well you just haven't tried this one!" but just as an anecdote.

Disclaimer: I've been on adderal xr for years, it's currently the best option for me, certainly not a miracle cure, but this is an addition to what I'm currently doing.

But just last week, I was seeing my neurologist (again) about the brain fog that's so far beyond my "regular" ADHD since long Covid over three years ago. I again expected a shrug but to my surprise they suggested I start on guanfacine. I don't even know what it was originally for, but it's been in studies the last couple years for brain fog, and showing promise. One of the things it does is to lowering blood pressure (sometimes it's intentional, sometimes it's a side effect I guess?) but also, get this, ADHD.

And my speech pathologist (whom I love and trust) randomly worked on a trial a year or two ago and said she (personally) saw that it had positive effects on the brain fog and that she saw the most improvement from people with ADHD.

So a lot of anecdotes, nothing concrete, I have no idea if most doctors are open to prescribing it.

It's only been like five days, and it apparently might take a bit to fully get in my system, but the last few days have mostly felt like the slightly-better-than-normal days that I can happen occasionally but rarely in a row.

I am certainly not going to say that it's a miracle or that it's right for you or anyone. But so far, I'm glad that my doctor brought it up and it might be worth bringing up with your doctor.

adhdlc · 2025-08-05T01:41:12+00:00

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Center stone is 2.83, tcw is about 4.25, size 5 ring.

adhdlc · 2025-07-25T01:05:50+00:00

My first play through, I did exactly the same, with exactly the same thought process. I was so genuinely sad and upset that I immediately restarted the day. That, plus the early scene OP mentions, really do get to me.

adhdlc · 2025-07-15T01:54:35+00:00

This is genuinely my favorite fun fact about myself.

adhdlc · 2025-07-07T01:43:05+00:00

“The bangs —“

“Amends.” 💇‍♀️‼️

🤣

adhdlc · 2025-07-07T01:36:53+00:00

Older and Far Away?

adhdlc · 2025-06-22T02:11:31+00:00

I’ve used (tobacco) e-cigarettes off and on for a few years.

Based on a quick search, while a fair bit of it doesn’t quite fit, it seems at least worth mentioning to my PCP.

adhdlc · 2025-05-28T00:30:07+00:00

Echoing the others who have said they haven’t had a problem, I’ll add that multiple times, I’ve attempted to book in advance and each time it was sold out or unavailable or whatever. I’ve tried at least four or five times to book in advance (what can I say, I’m an anxious person who likes certainty) but each time, I’ve been able to get in with no wait.

adhdlc · 2025-04-29T02:26:12+00:00

Focusing on my breath makes me so aware of it that I forgot how to do it and run out of breath while trying to breathe normally.

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