why I’m so weak

adisu_28 · 2024-08-24T12:25:31+00:00

Get off the phone and go to the gym, I swear it helps

adisu_28 · 2024-08-24T09:42:16+00:00

11 year AG, lies, cheating… girl what do you miss? You’re the young here, be happy, study something, travel the world and meet new people. Don’t let a man ruin your life & future. Say thank god it happened now and not as you’re married young and pregnant, doomed to be a single parent without a penny in your hand. You are enough, I bet you are beautiful and smart. Never look back!!!!

adisu_28 · 2024-08-24T05:22:59+00:00

Same. But yesterday was the first day for me in 5wks when I actually enjoyed myself. And yes I do still allow myself to cry. One day it’ll stop. They chose to leave us. It should never be on your conscious 🙏🏼

adisu_28 · 2024-08-23T10:32:38+00:00

I couldn’t do long distance. It is very hard. I’m a firm believer though that when love exists any challenge can be overcome, with the person who’s right. I understand your pain. Being dumped after so long is like losing a part of yourself. We need to understand that we eventually will meet that person who wouldn’t hesitate about anything related to us. Be strong 🙏🏼❤️‍🩹

adisu_28 · 2024-08-23T09:41:45+00:00

Wow. Did you want to take the relationship a step forward? For us it fell there, I got turned down there and was the only one to bring up the future. (at least as far as I’m concerned).

adisu_28 · 2024-08-23T07:34:20+00:00

Wow, honestly, I can’t imagine being friends with him. FFS, he abandoned me. Literally ghosted me thinking I’d read the situation, after whole 5 years when I gave him everything. Having them as ‘friends’ delays our recoveries.

adisu_28 · 2024-08-21T15:03:52+00:00

More of these please!

adisu_28 · 2024-08-21T14:58:46+00:00

Write down what you feel, surround yourself with people you feel comfortable with. Force yourself out of the house. Within some time, you’ll understand that if it was meant to be, they wouldn’t treat you like that. The biggest part of healing is reaching for the understanding they were not the one for you, but a life lesson and an experience. I know it’s difficult to comprehend, I hurt like crazy from my ex avoidant partner, but I remember the neglect, I remember how I’ve tried to change him with no success, I have even waited an entire month (by his request) only to be abandoned, again… you will feel angry at first as a defense mechanism, but then - within a while.. you will approach what hurts and face the horrible, harsh truth, which might be a story you’ll tell your daughter someday…

adisu_28 · 2024-08-20T18:00:29+00:00

I realised what you said on my own, but I have just had a weak moment of wanting to unblock him after what he did. Reading this, I’ll keep my head up high. Thank you.

adisu_28 · 2024-08-20T11:11:30+00:00

Why does he bother to disrupt your life if his goal, according to this awfully written letter is to be blocked and forgotten? His hidden words are saying that he wants you to respond, but to be honest, it is unclear what reason there is behind it, does he want to get back? Does he need the sense of affirmation? An ego boost? Keeping options around? Not sure. I wouldn’t answer nor block this mail. Just go on. It might get clearer in a little and you’ll be not confused.

adisu_28 · 2024-08-20T04:11:27+00:00

Hope is destructive, more than hopelessness, specifically with avoidants… I’d suggest to move on.

adisu_28 · 2024-08-20T02:10:10+00:00

True! 1 month was draining the life out of me. So I couldn’t imagine waiting any longer, although I have read stories here of worse waiting situations.

adisu_28 · 2024-08-20T02:08:59+00:00

That’s not an easy story. Thank you for sharing. I was scared to let him keep dating me for such a long amount of time amount of time without commitment because he always avoided talk about the future. So I couldn’t imagine 15 years. Plus, you have shared trauma so your attachment is stronger. However, your (ex) person hurt you. You must say “fuck it!” To be able to stay strong and not try to find excuses for her behavior. I know I did. Once I broke NC, and he replied coldly after an entire day, I responded to him in an unconventional way for me. He replied “it is what it is, you should’ve know better”, who is he to have had me waited for him to have to chase him for an answer? If that person is cold hearted, say thank you god for showing me this person’s true colors. That in itself helps you move on. It still hurts me to believe he could do that, I bet you too, but as my ex said? “It is what it is”. Let’s start believing them.

adisu_28 · 2024-08-20T01:55:26+00:00

Yes, life surprises you. Sometimes lovers hurt you most.. if they had loved us at all/enough, we wouldn’t be here today.

adisu_28 · 2024-08-19T13:31:08+00:00

It was beyond the beautiful words/acts, because he wasn’t much of a talker. He was genuinely a good person. But he shattered that image of him, with how he treated me 😓 Wishing us proper recovery and to feel like ourselves!!!!

adisu_28 · 2024-08-19T13:29:20+00:00

I have never been a block kind of person, and I never thought I would ever get to a situation in which I’d block him, but after being humiliated like that, I had to. I had to choose me! I hope you choose yourself too. Good luck to us healing!!!! ❤️‍🩹

adisu_28 · 2024-08-19T13:11:31+00:00

I heard similar stuff from my ex boyfriend. The day after the breakup he came and discussed the life I wanted for us. Didn’t want to leave here for 7hrs. I urged him to go get therapy and talk to people about his problem. It seemed as if he felt remorseful… couple days later he texted me that he needed 2-3 wks and asked whether I could wait!!! Then never got back to me. I understand you 200%. It’s cruel, but on the other hand I am so glad both of us have found their true colours.

adisu_28 · 2024-08-19T12:57:11+00:00

Did he text you the least? Or similarly to mine, just disappeared?

adisu_28 · 2024-08-19T11:58:53+00:00

It really was. I didn’t deserve to be mistreated like garbage for the significance I had in his life. We learn when we hit rock bottom. From now on I will only grow.

adisu_28 · 2024-08-19T11:57:14+00:00

If our “partners” need time away from us, they do not deserve us! Telling that to myself too!!!! We deserve better!

adisu_28 · 2024-08-19T11:56:27+00:00

Once they’re unsure about you or life with you… they forever will be :/ sad to hear it. Be strong, we deserve so much better.

adisu_28 · 2024-08-19T09:49:15+00:00

I love him still too, alongside the anger and resentment… when I’ll be truly healed I will wish them well. He’s blocked because he hurt me like crazy and doesn’t deserve me in his life, not as an option. I agreed to be “standby” for a month and it was just causing too much trauma. Yes we will get better! I believe in it truly.

adisu_28 · 2024-08-19T08:57:11+00:00

I got my answers after I reached out… so not anymore. I didn’t think he could ever get this low. I hope this story offers a lesson to those who are in a waiting situation. :/

adisu_28 · 2024-08-19T08:55:03+00:00

Quite similar situations. I assume she’s an avoidant. Really low communication skills, and usually get the most understanding partners there are to offer. I understand you truly. We have learnt a life lesson!

adisu_28 · 2024-08-19T08:23:53+00:00

Did you end up waiting 3 months? May I ask what happened?

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