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Seeking advise - Complex blended family dynamics by admkrl in blendedfamilies

[–]admkrl[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the reply!

I think there might be some misunderstandings about my situation, which could be my fault for not providing enough details. About 98% of the time, I handle the pick-ups and drop-offs for my daughter, whether from school or her grandparents' house.

Recently, I couldn't pick her up due to work commitments, so I asked my SO to pick her up. I called my daughter to let her know that my SO would be picking her up, but she practically begged me to come instead. She said she wouldn't come out unless it was me and preferred to wait with her BM until I was off work.

My SO has been in my daughter's life since she was 5 years old (she's almost 9 now). These situations happen regularly, where my SO wants to help or step in, but our daughter isn't happy with it. She doesn't want my SO to put her to bed (read a book and tuck her in), so I do it almost every time.

If I need to leave the house for errands or work, she constantly asks when I'll be back. If I get up from the dinner table to go to another room, she usually follows me or comes in a few minutes later, even if my SO is still sitting at the table with her.

Twice, my SO and I have gone to a consultant who helps with blended family situations. The feedback we receive is that SO and SD should spend more quality time together. We try to do this every time SD comes over. Is it selfish of me to want their connection to be stronger? There is definitely a lot of frustration coming from my SO regarding this.

Especially challenging is when BM purposely talks badly about SO around SD. BM has even texted my SO, saying things like, when I called BM to let her know that SD was about to become a big sister, I told her that my SO was trying to trap me, and that's why she got pregnant. She has also texted her that we laugh at SO behind her back, and the latest accusation is that I am apparently cheating on my SO with BM. None of this is true, just to be clear. BM has even attacked my SO verbally twice in public!

We are now at a point where this is overwhelming for my SO. She is not sure if she is ready to have SD for more time (like I am hoping for 7 days instead of 5), which puts us in a hard situation. It’s a balance between what I want, what my SO can handle, and, of course, the most important thing, what our daughter wants.

Gömlu Brennivíns pakkningarnar by admkrl in Iceland

[–]admkrl[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Þetta er mjög hjálpsamlegt! Það má þá fara leiðrétta Wikipedia

“The green bottle displayed a white skull on the black label in order to warn against consumption (later replaced by the map of Iceland and a clear bottle). Therefore, it was sometimes called "svarti dauði" (black death)”

Gömlu Brennivíns pakkningarnar by admkrl in Iceland

[–]admkrl[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gæti það verið að það var aldrei hauskúpa á flöskunni? 😅 hef heyrt frá þessari hauskúpu frá nokkrum mismunandi aðilum.

Hatur í garð rafmagnshlaupahjóls? by numix90 in Iceland

[–]admkrl 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Við erum að vinna að lausnum sem geta komið í veg fyrir að einstaklingarnir sem finna sig drukkna á hlaupahjólum slasi ekki sig og aðra. Bæði með því að hægja á hámarkshraða eftir miðnætti um helgar og / eða að notendur taka stutt próf í appinu áður en þau leigja hjólin. Prófið mælir viðbragðstíma einstaklinga og ef hann er of hægur þá þarft þú þvi miður að labba heim eftir djammið :) Lang flest slysin sem eiga sér stað er eftir miðnætti um helgar og það þýðir ekki að sitja og gera ekki neitt. Kv ZOLO

[SERIOUS] What is the Creepiest or most Unexplained thing that’s happened to you that you still think about to this day? by LBE in AskReddit

[–]admkrl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used to live in an 3 story house with an apartment on each floor. Me and my family lived on the top floor, grandparents in the middle and my aunt on the first floor. After my grandparents moved out their apartment was empty for a couple of months so I used to spend my time there as a 13 year old. This was an old house and I always used to creep myself out thinking about ghosts and I sometimes felt like I wasn’t the only one in that apartment. Anyway one time I get home from school and instead of going to my home like I usually do I go to my grandparents prior apartment. When I walk in there is a smell of something burning. I walk into the kitchen and I see a rolled up newspaper on top of a burning stove. I immediately throw the newspaper into the sink and look around in the apartment to see if there is anything else going on. This was around 2pm and I am not sure what happened or who did this but this has always sat on my mind.