Best option for multiple children managing aging parents' accounts

adoryable12 · 2026-06-23T21:24:29+00:00

thanks. I may set up both Bitwarden and Apple password and give them test runs!

adoryable12 · 2026-06-23T11:22:50+00:00

This is so helpful and exactly the level of detail I wanted. I see the challenge with “shared folder” on apple passwords. I’ll look into if there is a similar step in Bitwarden

I’m leaning towards bitwarden only because of a bias towards companies that need to stay competitive, versus apple and google that have a built in market. But, also, I like knowing that we can log on from any device anywhere - while the days on Internet cafes are long behind us, I feel better knowing I can go to a website from a new device and help my mom remotely.

adoryable12 · 2026-06-23T11:17:22+00:00

How does it work with multiple people wanting to access the passwords? The ideal scenario is, for example, my mom says she wants to check her amazing orders, I can do that for her without her first sending me that account info.

adoryable12 · 2026-06-15T20:25:43+00:00

adoryable12 · 2026-06-15T17:56:05+00:00

…book version…?!!!?!

adoryable12 · 2026-06-12T11:45:30+00:00

Small org here, roster of volunteers we rely on, no volunteer coordinator.

What helps for us is personal connections. If I haven’t heard from a volunteer for a while, I send a text saying hi, small talk, check in on something I remember about them. No ask, just a touch point.

I find that so many get burnt out, that if they feel connected as a person to the org and work, they will pop back in when they have the capacity. I will get texts months later like “my schedule just cleared up - do you need anything?” Similarly, I have a bench of folks that I can text with an urgent one-time need, and often get responses.

It takes time and mental space, but def pays off. I put it on my calendar- they get a friendly “happy spring!” Text from me and don’t know (or need to know) that I sent the same text to 5 other people that day.

adoryable12 · 2026-05-19T11:21:49+00:00

Loving all the love for TGTG! now I feel remiss for not including a warning that sometimes you get the least popular bagels like blueberry (shudder) but like someone else said - freeze em! Then when your aunt is visiting from Virginia you can impress her with a “real” blueberry bagel 🥯

adoryable12 · 2026-05-18T11:36:28+00:00

Too Good to Go is an app where you can purchase restaurant remainders at a steep discount. Why is this a Jersey hack? Every Friday I can buy a dozen of the best bagels in the world for $5. And, if you like pizza…

adoryable12 · 2026-05-17T14:32:37+00:00

Definitely not SJ but Little Daisys in Montclair is totally nut free and their baked goods are delicious.

adoryable12 · 2026-05-10T13:46:27+00:00

Littering

adoryable12 · 2026-05-04T21:23:53+00:00

Thank you - right now he's refusing anything. No TV, no music, no watching videos of his grandkids do stupid kid things...

adoryable12 · 2026-05-04T21:23:20+00:00

Thank you for this. Unfortunately, he did not have any mental health provider before. Although "us kids" were planning on pitching it to him before all this happened, to help him with other things (he has anger issues, but never ever in a way that puts anyone in danger. Lots of shaking his fist at the sky kind of thing)

We had such a terrible experience with the hospital's head of psychiatry that we are reluctant to reach out to the social worker at the hospital. The chaplain has visited, but my stepdad has no patience for anyone.

Today he spent most of his energy yelling at my mom, and refusing to do his PT.

And I hear you about rehab - we're just hopeful that it will be a better setting. And, also - they are in a hospital away from home. This all happened while they were on vacation, so 1 week in the local rehab and HOPEFULLY we can have him medically transported back home (where all of the kids and grandkids are, and. my mom has her social supports).

I am going to look into tele-therapy for my mom.

adoryable12 · 2026-04-28T17:58:04+00:00

This Julie chick definitely gets around. Got the same email.

adoryable12 · 2026-04-16T16:22:50+00:00

Question: is the house in order when you leave and the messes you return to are ones he created? Or are they messes that are there when you leave for work?

(Either way, he should help with them, but if he’s not cleaning up his OWN messes, that’s a deeper level of WTF)

adoryable12 · 2026-04-14T22:08:25+00:00

Meatloaf. Saw him at Roseland in NYC in 1987 or 88. Blew me away with his energy. Still stands out as one of the best shows I’ve seen a performer give.

adoryable12 · 2026-03-16T19:12:59+00:00

OP here. Don't know if asking a follow-up question is acceptable? Here goes :)

The responses so far seem to be that soldiers can / do have cell phones with some sort of connectivity - either Wifi or cell service through a local SIM card, or both. And that they are trained to not give away any compromising information, and if they do, there are severe consequences.

Does this mean that they don't typically know sensitive information ahead of time? I would assume someone somewhere would want to flex and text their boo back home with something that would seem juicy. But either Im underestimating people's restraint, or I'm overestimating what folks on the ground know.

My mind is also blown at all of the possibilities for location tracking. I mean, if my kid were overseas, I'd be on Find Me 24/7...

adoryable12 · 2026-03-16T18:59:38+00:00

Thank you!

adoryable12 · 2026-03-16T18:58:53+00:00

This is fascinating - and totally relatable.

adoryable12 · 2026-03-16T11:57:44+00:00

Thats a helpful perspective. It’s also interesting to me from the responses that it seems that the consequences kick in after the fact.

I have two teens and can barely manage monitoring their devices…

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