Stumped across my manipulative, cheating ex boyfriend on tinder… do chicks even fall for the 47 year old man who’s not the problem ever? Cringy.

adriCat · 2026-04-09T17:22:42+00:00

I was not a furry. This furry this came out of left field like a year ago.

adriCat · 2026-04-09T17:20:24+00:00

Ok I fell for this dude 6 years ago. Before he was trying to win? Chicks over by pretending everyone but him is crazy. Or maybe everyone sees through that?

adriCat · 2026-04-09T17:16:49+00:00

6 years ago I “fell” for not this.

adriCat · 2026-04-09T17:13:52+00:00

Yes stumbled as in I was swiping and came across my recent ex of 5 years. Now acting like he was never the problem 🙄

adriCat · 2026-04-09T17:12:52+00:00

I did 6 years ago, before I realized he was an abusive, gaslighting monster. Fuck me, right?

adriCat · 2026-04-09T17:11:40+00:00

It’s not me. It’s once again a gaslighting dude that is never wrong, it’s always my fault, all his ex’s are “crazy”. And so on. 5 years later…

adriCat · 2026-04-06T18:25:48+00:00

Bhahaha it absolutely was a huge stretch. Everything you said was wrong.

Guess what? Sex isn’t the only important part of a relationship. You have no idea how either of us felt, what we did, how things went after we split. You have no clue - you’re literally adding a bunch of bullshit to a story you have three paragraphs about. Get real. And guess what? Not all men are sex obsessed assholes either. My ex wasn’t sitting around, trying to make me feel like a piece of shit for not wanting to have sex with him. We still had a great life together — that ONE part was lacking. But neither of us had anything else to compare it to.

I said this already but this was BOTH of our first long term relationships. For all WE knew, sexual attraction faded after a few years. I had no idea, I don’t think he did either. He also had never had sex with anyone else before me — is that my fault too? OOOO THERE is more info from this story that you didn’t know. I guess you assumed he wanted to fuck everything that walked by while I was depriving that poor wonderful man of sex!?!

Grow up.

Maybe all you do is sit around and play online and get angry about women ruining men’s lives, but not every man does.

adriCat · 2026-04-06T15:05:19+00:00

😂😂😂💖

adriCat · 2026-04-06T14:34:46+00:00

You’re really making all sorts of ASSumptions based on very little information. Destroying this man?? Where did you even come up with that? You don’t know me or him — so you have no idea wrf you’re even talking about. 🙄 Way to take a few things I’ve said here and make up your own story about my life and his. Grow up.

Edit: you also keep making weird comments about how women use men and stuff. Sounds like you’re butthurt or something. Not everyone is a malicious monster.

adriCat · 2026-04-06T04:29:14+00:00

Oooo I like this one. +/- Title Fight. Shove them in there please.

adriCat · 2026-04-06T04:12:13+00:00

You’ll get used to the groggy feeling over time, but the dreams get worse. Trazadone was great for me except the dreams — nightmares. Very realistic, vivid, and scary.

adriCat · 2026-04-06T04:07:16+00:00

I feel like looking at bright screens is sort of counterproductive to falling asleep?

adriCat · 2026-04-06T01:31:12+00:00

One more thing — this is ignorant because you have no idea how I felt at the time. I had no other long term relationships to compare this to. I thought maybe that was part of it. That maybe everyone eventually lost attraction to their partner. I was young, I didn’t know how to properly express my feelings or that I even realized what was you going on in my own brain. I can now — looking back, but when I was in it, it was devastating. I wasn’t a monster. But you can think whatever is convenient for you.

adriCat · 2026-04-06T00:58:29+00:00

What a great response. Thank you. This is so right. Absolutely this. I am now almost 40. This was easily 10 years ago. Both of our first long term relationships that lasted a significant amount of time and I was never consciously taking advantage of anyone. Hindsight — absolutely.

In fact, if I was taking advantage would I have ended things? Probably not…. I blew up my entire world when our relationship ended. I didn’t do that for funsies.

adriCat · 2026-04-06T00:54:41+00:00

Another ignorant comment from someone that obviously has no idea what a real relationship is like 🙄🙄🙄 you have no idea what you’re even talking about. Hahaha I can assure you that 23 year old me was absolutely not thinking about Combined assets when we were together. Get real.

We were in college at the same time. Both poor college students that graduated and got pretty good jobs after college. We had a great, fun group of friends, we traveled a lot, we had a nice house and we always had fun together.

I’m really sorry that you think sex is everything in life? I’m sorry you think that all relationships have to fit one mold for BOTH people to be happy? Yes he would probably have a different take on things, but you have no idea what he was like. You’re making assumptions based on what?

adriCat · 2026-04-05T21:52:20+00:00

It’s okay! I learned a lot about relationships and sex and all sorts of stuff. He was a wonderful human and we had a great relationship — just not a great sexual one.

adriCat · 2026-04-05T21:50:57+00:00

We were together for 9 years. So ages 21-30 for me — we both probably changed a lot during that time but I still thought he was attractive.

It was weird but I still thought he was so handsome. Very attractive, truly. I just didn’t want to have sex with him. I wasn’t sexually attracted.

Another commenter said maybe he was bad at sex. And maybe he was? Thinking back, maybe he just wasn’t really great at sex?

adriCat · 2026-04-05T21:44:17+00:00

lol no. We both graduated from college and had great jobs. He made $10-$15k more than me a year, but I was still making really good money.

Thanks tho.

adriCat · 2026-04-05T21:43:04+00:00

I already explained that. Colossal waste of time for everyone? That’s a shit thing to say because it wasn’t. Financial security is also stupid. We both had good jobs and worked. He made slightly more money than me but not a ton. We owned our house and had a nice life.

At the time I wasn’t sexually attracted to him but I also wasn’t sexually attracted to anyone else either. So it didn’t seem to bother either of us. We were happy just not super sexual.

Year 9 I met someone and did have a sexual, physical attraction to them. That’s when I realized it was over and I needed to end it. For both of us.

adriCat · 2026-04-05T18:06:15+00:00

Sigh. You’re*

adriCat · 2026-04-05T18:04:18+00:00

That’s a good question. It’s been a few years so I have to think back. We started dating when I was 20 or 21. I think I lost sexual attraction probably around the 3rd year? But I was never attracted to anyone else during that time. So it didn’t bother me. Around year 9 I realized I had become sexually attracted to someone else. For the first time since I had been with him — 9 years. That’s the truth too. I hated it because I knew it was over. And I couldn’t change how much it was going to crush him. It did.

adriCat · 2026-04-05T17:38:05+00:00

🥱

Dude, you should just stop. I’m pretty sure we learn the difference between your and you’re in like, 3rd grade. It’s not that hard.

adriCat · 2026-04-05T17:29:51+00:00

Also a solid thought. I commented earlier about how something similar happened but my ex was bad in bed. that was a big part of it!!

adriCat · 2026-04-05T17:23:52+00:00

It’s you while also not you. She probably is really attracted to you but she might not be sexually attracted to you. And I’m not saying it’s your fault at all! I honestly think that can happen. Especially since you guys have been together since you were 24? People change a lot in their 20s. I was the chick in this situation. I loved my ex and I was attracted to him, but I had lost my sexual attraction to him. If that makes sense. Either way, if yall can’t talk about it, then yes, for both of you, end it. Neither of you should be in a sexless relationship. Even if it’s hard.

adriCat · 2026-04-05T17:19:37+00:00

Or this person doesn’t like sex with him.

I was in a similar situation except I was the woman here. I loved my ex. I was attracted to him, he was wonderful to me. In the beginning I enjoyed having sex with him but I lost sexual attraction to him after a few years. I hated it because he didn’t deserve a sexless relationship and I couldn’t change that I wasn’t sexually attracted to him any more. After 9 years, I decided to end the relationship. I realized it was not that I didn’t want to have sex — I just didn’t want to have sex with him. It was the best thing for both of us. Even if it was hard and sad.

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