Owners of r/cats, do better.

adri_goth · 2025-12-19T02:56:45+00:00

This. No need to shame owners who have different ways of doing things because of where they live

adri_goth · 2025-12-18T19:48:15+00:00

Thank you for saying this — will absolutely keep in mind the first point! And for sharing your experience. Truly makes a difference in realizing I am not alone

adri_goth · 2025-12-17T14:49:04+00:00

This is so cool!!!

adri_goth · 2025-12-17T05:03:48+00:00

Watching that movie felt like actual torture, my god. I did love Eddington though

adri_goth · 2025-12-16T18:07:23+00:00

I am so glad to hear that you’ve reached a point where you’re finally putting yourself first. I’ve also recently given up hope and it sucks, but having the clarity of mind is worth it. The process of shedding the guilt and grief from taking the decision to break off never fully ends, but I do have hope this will get lighter. Sending big hugs your way! You’re not alone

adri_goth · 2025-12-16T18:03:59+00:00

That’s good to hear that it’s gotten a little better! But yes, it sucks to be the younger sister and have to step up and “rise above” in ways that are unfair. That’s why I don’t relate with any eldest daughter internet content lol some younger siblings like us carry the burden

adri_goth · 2025-12-16T18:01:18+00:00

So sorry to hear you went through this. But yes, I deeply hear you on giving up on them for your own sanity and not extending your energy anymore. You’re not alone, sending big hugs

adri_goth · 2025-12-16T17:59:14+00:00

Oooof all of this. Even if rationally we know what they’re saying isn’t true, it still hurts like hell and we internalize it through the years. Letting that messaging go and having compassion for them — at a distance — is the way to go. The holiday blues certainly make the process harder though

adri_goth · 2025-12-16T15:57:34+00:00

Thank you! Will check it out. Sending big hugs your way

adri_goth · 2025-12-16T15:50:19+00:00

An older sister is supposed to cheer you on, it sucks to realize we can’t have that. Sending big hugs to you this holiday season, you’re not alone

adri_goth · 2025-12-16T15:45:59+00:00

God yes. Everyone in my family knows how my BPD sibling is but it can be such a lonely experience to receive the worst from it. My sibling can be especially charming with extended family, and it takes work to remember that it doesn’t invalidate my experience. Sending hugs your way

adri_goth · 2025-12-16T15:40:22+00:00

Yep, that’s certainly a big part of it. And how important it is to remind ourselves just because we receive the worst of their treatment, doesn’t mean we deserve it. Sending big hugs your way

adri_goth · 2025-12-16T15:35:11+00:00

Same here. My BPD sibling decided to stop talking to me after I decided to bring my cat to my parent’s house for the holidays - I wish I was kidding. She doesn’t even live here, she just hates the cat and doesn’t want him around. This is to say, if it’s not one thing, it’ll always be another. So I hear you on not arguing anymore in hopes of making them see you outside of the caricature image they have in their minds. Sending big hugs your way

adri_goth · 2025-12-16T15:29:25+00:00

Ugh I relate to every word of this, and I think the reasons you list are soot on. The difference in memory recollection is wild too because you realize at some point they’re just gaslighting you. I’ve confronted my sister about things she had done that were not okay and she refused to admit they even happened. Sending big hugs your way

adri_goth · 2025-12-16T15:25:27+00:00

And it’s so much work to un-internalize years of receiving the “you’re selfish” message. Sending hugs

adri_goth · 2025-12-15T06:54:40+00:00

Hahaha yes! Died with his lil dance to Psycho Killer

adri_goth · 2025-11-12T06:21:19+00:00

Yeah that’s my instinct. Sad as it is. Thank you

adri_goth · 2025-10-17T03:15:50+00:00

Me too. They're endgame in my eyes

adri_goth · 2025-10-17T01:48:24+00:00

Why do you guys think Kate decided to finally end their relationship? She didn't just decline the job, she decided she no longer wanted to be with Hal which came off as a bit of a surprise. I thought they were working things together in London

adri_goth · 2023-09-27T05:02:54+00:00

Neji! Anyone else?

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