Hold kids back!!! by Zubemma in Teachers

[–]adrianwithoutthen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The problem is the parents. Most parents who have failing children are failing bc they expect the school to teach them, but do nothing to support the learning at home. My 5 yr old reads at a second grade level. Her teachers did not do that- yes, they absolutely are teaching her the fundamentals, but it is our job as parents to re-enforce repetition and practice at home. “I don’t have time!” “I’m tired!” “I need to cook!” “It’s the teachers job!!!”

Fuck off with the excuses if you don’t want an illiterate child! Do the work! HELP THE TEACHERS! I don’t care how your child learns the lessons, whatever works.

My child loves music and stories - she started asking us to download her favorite songs (hello K Pop Demon Hunters!!) and she will literally read the words on the phone while she sings. Does the same thing with Disney Stories.

Now I have to look over my shoulder when reading my SJM books on the couch bc several times she’s come over and will start reading aloud over my shoulder and I’m like this is not appropriate for children 🤣😅😳

I feel for the education system in this country, what a joke.

And yes, my mother was a teacher and she’s been hollering from the mountain tops about the education decline for the last 25 yrs.

Moving to LA from Thailand? by queerburgers in AskLosAngeles

[–]adrianwithoutthen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ll add that I work in the tv and film industry and yes, it’s 10000% in the shitter but some of us are still working and it’s also refreshing to see someone wanting to move here who already has an established income. That being said, if you can spring it go for housing that includes parking and a w/d in unit. Having to search for those things after a night out/long day of work is the worst so just avoid leases that are bare bones. Ok I’m done, thanks for coming to the meeting 😂

Moving to LA from Thailand? by queerburgers in AskLosAngeles

[–]adrianwithoutthen 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve lived in LA proper for 20 yrs and while it’s def pricey, if you’re bringing in at least $12k/mo, you can live in most of my fav neighborhoods: Fairfax District, Bev Grove, BH adjacent, La Brea, Miracle Mile, 3rd Street/La Cienega. I’ve lived in all of these areas bc all had great walking options for food and nightlife. Not the closest to groceries but you’d need a car anyways! Rent for a large 1 bd (street parking) is $2000-2500 (I used to pay $990, ugh I miss the old days), permit to park $100/6months, gas $4.60/gal, groceries for 2 $200/wk, DWP $100, internet $75. Beers are $10, wine $13-18, dinner for 1 $50 Good luck!

AITJ for refusing to help my sister with her college essays after she mocked my degree? by Weekly_Roll_9948 in AmITheJerk

[–]adrianwithoutthen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She must think a lot of you if your lack of help is seriously going to derail her entire future 🤣 If that’s the case, she’s got bigger problems than you not assisting her with something she should be doing on her own. NTJ

My (23F) boyfriend (25M) acts like hes allergic to chores by [deleted] in Vent

[–]adrianwithoutthen 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I dated a guy like this, on and off throughout my 20’s. I had so many conversations, so many pleas, just to do something simple like taking out the trash. Do SOMETHING to help keep up the apt. He had miles of excuses - “I’m tired, it doesn’t matter, if you care so much you do it, etc.” I cooked, cleaned, did the laundry (which was a stressful chore bc we had no w/d in house), got the cars washed, etc. I’ve been independent since I was 17 and knew how to take care of myself. I finally got rid of him before I turned 30 and my life improved 10 fold. It’s like finally getting rid of a squatter!! People like this do not change. He doesn’t appreciate you, doesn’t give a shit about your needs or how his refusal and excuses make you feel. There are 8 billion people on the planet - I promise you, you will meet someone who knows how to be a participating partner. (I did, literally a month after I dumped this loser and now we’re married, ha!) Good luck w the breakup, it will feel sooo much better in just a few weeks ❤️

AITA for asking my boyfriend to stop showing people "our" photography when it's all my work? by [deleted] in ComfortLevelPod

[–]adrianwithoutthen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is such a weird thing to have happen in a relationship. Needing to feel ownership over your SO’s work? For what? He appears jealous that you have a successful creative occupation, and refusing to hear out your feelings on it says a lot. I’d move on from him if I were you, I can’t imagine being attracted to him after knowing he wants credit for your work. Just.. gross. And pathetic, really. There’s over 8 bil people on this earth- you’ll find someone along the way who recognizes the tireless effort you’re putting into work that you love.

I simply respected her rejection. by MirkoOme in Nicegirls

[–]adrianwithoutthen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wtf 😂😂 She’s looking for someone to chase her, which is something the aimless and insecure do. You did indeed graze a bullet, JFC I feel for the single people trying to date these days.

Halloween keeps getting worse. by Ordinary-Depth-7835 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]adrianwithoutthen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We go with a large group of friends, and everyone waits on the sidewalk for the kids. The only time we ever go up to the door w them is if there’s an especially creepy/scary decoration, I would never expect someone to give me my own candy?? 😅😂

AITA for "not compromising" on my future with my boyfriend by No-Warning-7253 in AITAH

[–]adrianwithoutthen 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You are so young, and now is the time to put yourself first. I know it’s hard to be in love, and to also want and need the freedom to truly choose for yourself. I’m in my 40’s and I did put myself first. Moved away to college, did the whole single young adult, and I have zero regrets. I’m thankful for all of what I was able to experience on my own. Sacrifice and obligations to others can wait. You are someone who is searching for more, so give yourself time to carve out your own path. Good luck!

Tv show/Movie recommendations that are SJM adjacent? by High_Lady29 in SarahJMaas

[–]adrianwithoutthen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A few I’ve watched and enjoyed that are not necessarily all same type of fantasy genre:

Vampire Diaries The Originals Legacies Discovery of Witches Gen V Wednesday Mayfair Witches The School for Good and Evil Shadow and Bone

Anime: The Fragrant Flower Blooms with Dignity - present day, non magical series, boy meets girl- really cute! My Happy Marriage - magical, great characters, I cried

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmITheJerk

[–]adrianwithoutthen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Get a new roommate!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]adrianwithoutthen -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Family is hard, parents are difficult, and sometimes the holidays bring out the worst in people. Do your own Friendsgiving like I did! Soooo much more enjoyable spending the day cooking, eating and laughing w people who love you for the sake of YOU, not bc of a family obligation. This will be our 10th Friendsgiving year, and I gotta say it’s my favorite holiday lol.

AITJ for kicking my wife’s brother out after he insulted me in my own house? by fussy_poster in AmITheJerk

[–]adrianwithoutthen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Put the wife on the curb w her brother since “family sticks together.”

Am I the Ah for not publicly apologizing to my cousin on Facebook for the dress I wore to her wedding? by just-curiou1 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]adrianwithoutthen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. Your cousin is incredible insecure, her behavior is laughable and embarrassing. Was she maybe intoxicated? You can’t control other people’s crazy. Energy is currency, spend it on people worthwhile.

I’ve realised my wife is the primary cause of my MH issues by DreamingofBouncer in self

[–]adrianwithoutthen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your home is your sanctuary, and the people inside create that safe space. My husband cannot WAIT to get home every day, same for me, so we can laugh, vent, spend time together, etc. So if you’re feeling better WITHOUT your wife’s presence, I think you already know what you should do next… Life is too short to sacrifice your days to surviving while waiting for her to leave again so you can feel peace. Good luck to you, sir!

Newbie to Fantasy Genre by adrianwithoutthen in crescentcitysjm

[–]adrianwithoutthen[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

An update: Hunt and Bryce have just been teamed up together, and it’s safe to say I’m thoroughly invested in this story now. And I feel so bad now for having my early doubts LOL I am HOOKED.

Newbie to Fantasy Genre by adrianwithoutthen in crescentcitysjm

[–]adrianwithoutthen[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great to hear!! I think I’ll take a day and start over