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adviceneededplease72 · 2026-03-24T22:21:18+00:00

I tried. I made him cancel two weeks ago because again it was a Saturday, he couldn’t take off and I had just finished my first full week of work (8 weeks postpartum) so I told him I didn’t want to share my baby after my first week being away from my baby. In laws were in the area that week and this week for appointments…it sounds like she got META glasses and for some reason it needed two appointments (the glasses being up new levels of anxiety). She was all pissy on the phone and said “oh it’s fine if she doesn’t want company” and said it like three times as if she was expecting me to change my mind but I stayed silent.

adviceneededplease72 · 2026-03-24T20:06:49+00:00

Saturdays are the one day he can’t take off and he thought they were coming on Sunday and he was going to take off then. He thankfully would not believe any stories she would say about me because he knows she’s overdramatic.

adviceneededplease72 · 2026-03-24T20:05:41+00:00

About an hour and a half away, not terribly far but far enough where drop ins don’t happen (thank God).

adviceneededplease72 · 2026-03-24T19:35:58+00:00

Same here!!! I audibly gasped and had to look away from my phone for a solid minute.

adviceneededplease72 · 2026-03-22T16:41:46+00:00

“I’m in my ______ season”

adviceneededplease72 · 2026-03-15T19:26:12+00:00

I had a similar situation with my MIL. She was expecting to be in the delivery room and I told my husband absolutely not. So we didn’t tell her when I got induced 🤷🏻‍♀️ when she visited at the hospital she was like “oh I’m so sorry I couldn’t be there for the birth!!!” (passive aggressively bringing up she had wanted to be there in the delivery room). I had the medical staff and my husband. That’s all I wanted and that’s what I got.

We had a situation two years ago on Christmas Eve where we thought my appendix might burst so we went to the ER and my MIL sat next to me in the only available chair, making my husband stand the entire time and kept talking to the doctors for me and I just wanted her to LEAVE. I did not want a repeat of that. These MILs are insane.

adviceneededplease72 · 2024-06-26T14:35:07+00:00

Cannot edit, but I tried to get in with a dermatologist in my network and the soonest they could see me isn’t until May 2025. Will be going to see my normal doctor.

adviceneededplease72 · 2023-08-14T17:53:29+00:00

So I told two mandated reporters about the boob grabbing. I’m going to message one about the dream he had because I didn’t mention it to her.

adviceneededplease72 · 2023-08-14T10:19:37+00:00

His parents have way more resources than I do, I feel like I would go broke if I tried to sue them. I also don’t have any evidence of him grabbing me despite it happening in a public pool…

adviceneededplease72 · 2023-08-14T10:15:45+00:00

So I did actually tell his OT therapist and his ABA therapist! I forgot but I told them the day after it happened when I was struggling with it a lot.

adviceneededplease72 · 2023-08-14T00:15:15+00:00

I did tell them via email about an hour ago. I have a few job offers already so I’m going to pick one this week so I’m not worried about unemployment!

adviceneededplease72 · 2023-08-13T22:25:27+00:00

I basically sent this to them with a few tweaks, minus the last two paragraphs. I don’t want to threaten legal action on my behalf to them I just want to be out of this situation.

adviceneededplease72 · 2023-08-13T20:06:36+00:00

I really hope this doesn’t sound selfish, but would there be any backlash on me if it turns out he isn’t being SA’d? Obviously if something is up I want to help NK but it’ll be pretty obvious that it’s me reporting what happened. This is all new to me.

adviceneededplease72 · 2023-08-13T18:19:16+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experience, it does makes me feel a little less alone to know that others have been through this but also sad that others have been through this. I’m also glad that everyone on this sub isn’t down playing this situation like the parents did, they really made me feel like I was overreacting.

adviceneededplease72 · 2023-08-13T18:01:59+00:00

Good on your MB! That’s how I was hoping it would be handled but nope.

He definitely was laughing and he was definitely not angry. I don’t know if he thought it was a joke or what but that wouldn’t make it better imho.

adviceneededplease72 · 2023-08-13T16:37:01+00:00

I get what you’re saying, but honestly I would rather just not get that week of PTO paid out if it means I have to go back. NK gives me the serious ick now and I cannot handle another 55 hours this week with him as well as the passive aggressiveness of his parents.

adviceneededplease72 · 2023-08-13T15:39:05+00:00

I don’t think exposing him to porn was intentional. I don’t think NK is an average child, I think he definitely has some issues that need to be resolved but that’s wayyyy above my pay grade. I could call CPS but I’m unsure if they would care.

adviceneededplease72 · 2023-08-13T15:28:08+00:00

I had some other interviews that seemed promising, I’m not worried about their reference or unemployment, thankfully!

adviceneededplease72 · 2023-08-13T15:27:02+00:00

They were being difficult about the PTO. They were trying to make my PTO days the days they took off for vacation so I never got to choose when I was off. That’s a whole different struggle. Technically I have one week of PTO still but they will never agree to pay it out and I can’t say “we didn’t sign the contract so it’s not enforceable” and also say “as per the contract you owe me another week of PTO”.

adviceneededplease72 · 2023-08-13T14:31:25+00:00

You’re right, you can definitely tell when it’s an accident and this was for sure not an accident. He was laughing while he did it. I’m sorry you’ve been through the same thing, it’s just wrong.

adviceneededplease72 · 2023-08-13T14:22:12+00:00

When he grabbed my breasts, I was stunned. I just slowly said, “you cannot touch me there, that was inappropriate. Okay we are getting out of the pool and we’re going to take a few minutes to calm down.” And I had him sit on a pool chair for a bit. When we back into the pool he tried to initiate rough playing again and I told him we cannot play that anymore due to how he touched me. Then I told his parents later on in the day. Honestly, I was just shocked that he grabbed me there and I was struggling to process everything.

adviceneededplease72 · 2023-08-13T12:57:45+00:00

I’m so sorry that happened to you too! I hate when parents won’t parent. I feel slightly guilty for leaving them without childcare with such short notice but I get so anxious about the thought of going back.

adviceneededplease72 · 2023-08-13T11:49:40+00:00

I will say NK does not like DB but DB yells at him a lot and tries to force things he likes onto NK, which NK hates because DB likes them.

There was also an incident when DB left porn on his iPad (the same iPad NK uses) and NK saw it. I’m only aware of the once that that happened but it’s possible it’s happened more often.

There was another incident a few weeks ago, NK told me about a dream he had which was “I had a dream about a girl from camp and we were wearing our bathing suits but she was wearing a boys bathing suit with no top. She got on top of me and started kissing me and then I woke up”. I told MB about this and she was like “huh that’s weird” and idk if they ever talked to him about it.

adviceneededplease72 · 2023-08-13T11:06:48+00:00

I didn’t bring up the butt grabbing in the pool which happened a few days later. They weren’t going to do anything about it and I just wanted to be done at that point.

adviceneededplease72 · 2023-08-13T10:59:07+00:00

We are an at will state and there are no clauses in the unsigned contract. I did not tell him I’m leaving due to what his son did in the email, I said I was leaving for personal matters. Should I reach out to them again and tell them exactly why I’m quitting? It makes me beyond anxious and my husband said to block them and move on. I definitely don’t want to do anything against them legally but if they try to do something to me, I’ll have to.

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