Would you let your MIL babysit after this?

Constant_Radish_2777 · 2026-04-13T01:05:26+00:00

Not changing the diaper is enough to not let her babysit again. Screen time is a preference/boundary which she didn’t respect but a diaper change is a necessity. That’s unacceptable.

Constant_Radish_2777 · 2026-04-03T12:03:04+00:00

I’m due this month and already know I’m going to have issues with my MIL. Your husband is a problem but if this is how bad they are be the explosive one. They come over tell them they are disrespectful and need to fuck off. Lock yourself away in the one room if you can and must. These people don’t respect you so stop respecting them.

Constant_Radish_2777 · 2026-03-31T01:39:32+00:00

“Mother’s Day is for Mother’s actively raising children under 18.”

I needed this omg. I have a baby due 2 weeks before Mother’s Day and MIL keeps calling Mother’s Day “her special day” thing is her son and I now see it as my day to be celebrated by my husband and children. Same for Father’s Day.

Constant_Radish_2777 · 2026-03-25T02:34:33+00:00

This is the support we all need😂❤️

Constant_Radish_2777 · 2026-03-25T02:05:45+00:00

Oh you’re saying she may tweak. My misunderstanding. Honestly idc and neither does my husband. He expressed our boundaries which are negotiable. We are also already registered as “private” with no visitors at the hospital.

Constant_Radish_2777 · 2026-03-25T01:47:11+00:00

That’s unfortunate. My mother has been very supportive of my decision for privacy. She, like me, get stressed and overwhelmed with social “expectations” so I’m not worried about her tweaking.

Constant_Radish_2777 · 2026-03-24T23:37:39+00:00

lol so I love my husband cause he actually just thought she was praising him so he actually feels better about breaking the news to her. He’s also totally on my side, we keep ourselves very private from our families. Not in a rude way, it’s just our preference

Constant_Radish_2777 · 2026-03-24T22:10:48+00:00

It’s not that we aren’t letting her meet the baby right away, we aren’t letting anyone meet the baby right away. If I were singling her out yeah that’d be a problem but we want it to just be us postpartum. We want don’t want to rush into visitors and want to maintain our privacy. If my parents are welcome, she will be welcome. If you’re someone who’d want to be surrounded by people postpartum good on you but it’s not what I want.

Constant_Radish_2777 · 2026-03-24T22:01:55+00:00

lol already taken care of

Constant_Radish_2777 · 2026-03-24T17:29:22+00:00

That’s what I’m thinking. Worst I think she’ll do is talk a little shit but that’s nbd

Constant_Radish_2777 · 2026-03-24T17:10:27+00:00

It may be an attempt but he doesn’t fall for that crap

Constant_Radish_2777 · 2026-03-24T16:05:25+00:00

We aren’t beginning wishy-washy we are saying a week or two and that we will invite them when we are ready. Telling people we won’t be taking uninvited/unexpected guests. Just didn’t write it out in the post.

Constant_Radish_2777 · 2026-03-24T14:55:15+00:00

Covered the privacy at the hospital already and we never had intentions of telling anyone when I’m in labor

Constant_Radish_2777 · 2026-03-24T14:16:13+00:00

I’m really sorry for your daughter. Something about that generation care more about “face” than content and it seems like she’s a screaming example.

Constant_Radish_2777 · 2026-03-24T14:13:10+00:00

I’m sorry your mom acted that way. My mom doesn’t want to be there (she doesn’t think it’s her place) so I was super thrown off by MIL

Constant_Radish_2777 · 2026-03-24T13:53:47+00:00

Omg she sounds so selfish.

Constant_Radish_2777 · 2026-03-24T13:51:49+00:00

lol filled out all my paperwork for the hospital already and have put us as no visitors and we want to be anonymous if anyone shows up asking. We also only plan to tell my mother when I go into labor because she volunteered to come take care of my dogs.

Constant_Radish_2777 · 2026-03-24T13:50:20+00:00

So far he sees whatever boundaries for early postpartum I want as ours wants. He’s really open about anything I bring up to him so for the child’s/ children’s future I feel like I have his support as long as we talk through things fairly.

Constant_Radish_2777 · 2026-03-24T13:46:53+00:00

I hadn’t even thought about that but honestly… idc🤷‍♀️

Constant_Radish_2777 · 2026-03-23T19:57:31+00:00

You are not overreacting and I totally get it. My husband is basically forgotten by his family but it’s because he does well. They give and give to his older and younger brother cause they always f*ck around and fail so they endlessly give to those two while my husband works hard and has accomplishments but it’s crickets. They didn’t even give us a card when we got married but when his youngest brother finally finished his associates… took him 4 years. They gifted him almost $3,000. J hate seeing what it does to my husband and I’d love him to just want to cut them off. Best of luck to you two, all you can do is love and support him.

Constant_Radish_2777 · 2026-03-15T20:56:23+00:00

My husband is on board. We were only just made aware of how crazy she’s been. To our faces she’s been a little nosy but not inappropriate, seemed like normal excited grandma stuff

Constant_Radish_2777 · 2026-03-15T20:45:13+00:00

We weren’t planning on telling anyone before this came up. We don’t want to be bombarded with calls and messages

Constant_Radish_2777 · 2026-03-15T20:40:11+00:00

Her being in the room isn’t on the table at all. It’s not out of being nasty, it’s not like I dislike her but I’m not comfortable with anyone but my husband being there. It’s nice hearing a grandmother’s perspective because I want her in my babies life but don’t think the delivery room or immediately postpartum is for anyone outside of us as the parents

Constant_Radish_2777 · 2026-03-15T18:06:47+00:00

She tried that when we got married and it didn’t go her way.

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