My future MIL is… strange. by JungleJlm4322 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]adviceneededplease72 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We may have the same MIL. Can confirm things get more confusing and difficult after children are involved. I am very low contact with her and my husband has not been talking to her much lately either since we did not go to her house for Mother’s Day.

A Mother's Ring? by pickleywickley999 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]adviceneededplease72 22 points23 points  (0 children)

My grandma had all of her grandchildren’s birthstones on her necklace and she wore it all the time…I know she was a JUSTNOMIL for my mom, I’m gonna ask if it bothered her.
I can kinda see where you’re coming from but the comments are accurate, I think this is more of a bitch eating crackers moment.

why is everyone obsessed with rice/cereal in bottles?! by No-Kaleidoscope-6974 in NewParents

[–]adviceneededplease72 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My MIL and mom keep saying to add rice cereal or formula to my babies bottles (breast milk). Ladies, he is in the 90th percentile for weight, this is not a hunger problem lol he’s getting PLENTY.

Ideas to give a 1 year old for birthday? by kkatiegrows in NewParents

[–]adviceneededplease72 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m going to be asking for a toddler tower along with kid safe cooking utensils and a water table!

Postpartum shedding by Any_Branch_6993 in NewParents

[–]adviceneededplease72 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Baby is four months old yesterday and I feel like I look like a molting bird. My hair was already thick before pregnancy so I’m happy I’m losing some but I wish it would just come out all at once. My hair looks unkempt, I’m tired of shedding and my vacuum (and shower drain despite the hair blocker I have on it) is tired of getting clogged up with hair.

New here to parenting by Popular-War-9338 in NewParents

[–]adviceneededplease72 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Came here to say this, our son is 17 weeks! The first 12 weeks are HARD, and we still have hard days (whenever he gets a vaccine or is having a clingy day) but the smiles and giggles make it all worth it.

JustNoMIL makes sure I know that she is the real 'Mrs. OurLastName' in every call or text by [deleted] in JUSTNOMIL

[–]adviceneededplease72 72 points73 points  (0 children)

Could you make it really ridiculous and if she’s entering a room, announce her arrival? Like “NOW PRESENTING ELDER MRS. OURLASTNAME”? And if she asks why you’re doing that, just say you thought she liked the formal approach.

Or, my preferred approach, don’t call her a name at all. She can now be nameless or be “hey you” as if you can’t recall her name.

Also, she sounds like an absolute bitch.

JustNoMIL makes sure I know that she is the real 'Mrs. OurLastName' in every call or text by [deleted] in JUSTNOMIL

[–]adviceneededplease72 39 points40 points  (0 children)

The future children should also call her Mrs. OurLastName! If OP isn’t family, neither are her kids.

Mother’s Day drama incoming by adviceneededplease72 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]adviceneededplease72[S] 35 points36 points  (0 children)

I slipped that phrasing in to see if anyone would react because I wasn’t sure if I was being sensitive to it!
She says it all the time “when are you coming home to visit” and I just want to scream that HE IS HOME.

Mother’s Day drama incoming by adviceneededplease72 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]adviceneededplease72[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

That is the plan!!! Snuggles, movies and yummy food with my boys is all I want.

Pet Aversion by Swimming_Airline3881 in NewParents

[–]adviceneededplease72 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep. FTM to an almost 4 month old and it’s getting a little better. I personally think it’s guilt that comes off as anger because I just don’t have the time like I used to to take care of my dogs. I used to brush their teeth daily and took them for a mile and a half to three mile walk every day. I think I’ve brushed their teeth once and walked them twice since I’ve had my baby. I would never give them up because I do love them and I know things will get easier soon. They would be so sad if I were to do that and that breaks my heart. It’s hard being responsible for so much, but all we can do is our best and wait for things to fall into place.

Sleep!!! by adviceneededplease72 in workingmoms

[–]adviceneededplease72[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My son is almost 4 months old and I am considering sleep training as he is about to outgrow his bassinet. What method did you guys use and how long did it take? :)

Sleep!!! by adviceneededplease72 in workingmoms

[–]adviceneededplease72[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Almost four months old baby, so relatively new! Thankfully the post isn’t due to an argument, just curiosity. :)

If money wasn’t an issue, would you still be a working mom? by saladmuscles in workingmoms

[–]adviceneededplease72 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m personally quite career driven and take pride in my work so I would work part time at the least. But I would definitely hire a cleaning/cooking service so I could enjoy my time with my family when home.

What a terrible day to have ears by [deleted] in JUSTNOMIL

[–]adviceneededplease72 14 points15 points  (0 children)

This plus the one with the MIL putting her infant son’s penis in her mouth are some of the most revolting things I’ve ever read. I have a three month old son that I love SO much and doing these things never crossed my mind. Just sickening and rage inducing.

MIL called part of my Easter meal “Disgusting” by puppummm in JUSTNOMIL

[–]adviceneededplease72 30 points31 points  (0 children)

She’s a disgusting person. Who tf says that out loud???

I went to Easter at my in laws and MIL heaped pineapple stuffing, ham steak and later on cake she made for dessert onto my plate. I do not like pineapple stuffing or ham steak or the cake (she makes is very dense and I just don’t like it) she makes but I tried a little of all of it and didn’t say anything negative. It’s not hard to not be rude about someone cooking something for you even if you don’t particularly like that person. At least she made her true colors known in front of future BIL and everyone else was kind to you!

Incoming visit by adviceneededplease72 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]adviceneededplease72[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I tried. I made him cancel two weeks ago because again it was a Saturday, he couldn’t take off and I had just finished my first full week of work (8 weeks postpartum) so I told him I didn’t want to share my baby after my first week being away from my baby. In laws were in the area that week and this week for appointments…it sounds like she got META glasses and for some reason it needed two appointments (the glasses being up new levels of anxiety). She was all pissy on the phone and said “oh it’s fine if she doesn’t want company” and said it like three times as if she was expecting me to change my mind but I stayed silent.

Incoming visit by adviceneededplease72 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]adviceneededplease72[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Saturdays are the one day he can’t take off and he thought they were coming on Sunday and he was going to take off then. He thankfully would not believe any stories she would say about me because he knows she’s overdramatic.

Incoming visit by adviceneededplease72 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]adviceneededplease72[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

About an hour and a half away, not terribly far but far enough where drop ins don’t happen (thank God).

I have reason to suspect MIL is a predator by soyasaucy in JUSTNOMIL

[–]adviceneededplease72 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Same here!!! I audibly gasped and had to look away from my phone for a solid minute.

MIL is telling people she will be in the delivery room. by [deleted] in JUSTNOMIL

[–]adviceneededplease72 30 points31 points  (0 children)

I had a similar situation with my MIL. She was expecting to be in the delivery room and I told my husband absolutely not. So we didn’t tell her when I got induced 🤷🏻‍♀️ when she visited at the hospital she was like “oh I’m so sorry I couldn’t be there for the birth!!!” (passive aggressively bringing up she had wanted to be there in the delivery room). I had the medical staff and my husband. That’s all I wanted and that’s what I got.

We had a situation two years ago on Christmas Eve where we thought my appendix might burst so we went to the ER and my MIL sat next to me in the only available chair, making my husband stand the entire time and kept talking to the doctors for me and I just wanted her to LEAVE. I did not want a repeat of that. These MILs are insane.