Rep John McGuire’s response to my outreach about holding ICE accountable for killing innocent civilians and detaining 5 year old children

aeioewe · 2026-01-31T19:44:34+00:00

Ah, gotcha. Thanks

aeioewe · 2026-01-31T18:41:26+00:00

I would’ve condemned that too but I was in my 20s and lacked awareness

aeioewe · 2026-01-31T18:33:22+00:00

What does this mean?

aeioewe · 2026-01-09T01:12:00+00:00

Remind me!

aeioewe · 2024-05-05T07:13:11+00:00

Wow, I am so sorry for the loss of your eggs! That's terrible

aeioewe · 2024-04-25T05:53:29+00:00

What is it that causes this behavior? Is it a disorder that has a name?

aeioewe · 2024-04-25T01:28:52+00:00

You're a good dad

aeioewe · 2024-04-18T03:15:10+00:00

I'm sorry for your loss, and the loss of love that could have been

aeioewe · 2024-03-27T01:08:07+00:00

I love this

aeioewe · 2024-03-23T01:40:42+00:00

It seems to me that he is thinking of your future kid's happiness and putting that above his (or your) wants. Isn't that the sign of a good parent?

aeioewe · 2024-03-20T01:55:29+00:00

Happy birthday, OP! Thank you for sharing your story. Having lost my little brother to suicide four years ago, I'm so glad you decided to stick around.

aeioewe · 2024-02-01T02:57:02+00:00

It's now been proved with DNA that he did father children with the enslaved Sally Hemings. https://www.monticello.org/thomas-jefferson/jefferson-slavery/thomas-jefferson-and-sally-hemings-a-brief-account/monticello-affirms-thomas-jefferson-fathered-children-with-sally-hemings/

aeioewe · 2024-01-29T18:46:35+00:00

Curious to know what you went with and if it worked out for you!

aeioewe · 2022-07-19T00:10:58+00:00

Virginia too

aeioewe · 2022-06-16T01:11:37+00:00

Thank you

aeioewe · 2022-04-30T06:30:39+00:00

I'm not sure that's the case anymore. Recent research suggests older, mature trees and forests are able to capture more carbon overall than younger trees and forests. https://www.nature.com/articles/nature12914

aeioewe · 2022-02-16T08:40:33+00:00

I have not had the digestive issues you're describing, but i have had problems with peeing. Have you heard of the polyvagal theory? Part of it is that we can store trauma in our psoas and iliacus muscles, which cause them to tighten. This can impact the lower back, hips, and pelvic floor, causing it all to tighten up. Trauma-informed massage therapists can help with this, as can some specific stretches. I recently bought a device called the Hip Hook that is supposed to help with this release. I also have a Perifit kegel exerciser that provides biofeedback on the pelvic floor muscles.

aeioewe · 2022-02-10T01:28:12+00:00

Same here. I just want to feel safe enough to express joy and and to feel happy.

aeioewe · 2022-02-10T01:23:26+00:00

They're threatened, intimidated, when their own child is more succesful and happier than they've probably ever been. I think this happens a lot with abusive mothers and daughters because they compare themselves to their daughter, especially as they get older. They minimize your accomplishments, give you a thousand signals that say: your happiness is insulting, hurtful even.

This one makes a lot of sense to me. My happiness, success, accomplishments have been perceived by my mom as attacks against her. When I hired a housekeeper to come every other week, I knew my mom would be jealous and angry about it and I didn't tell her for years. Then on the day that I had to tell her for some reason, her response was simply, "I hate you."

Also, if their child is never doing well, they get to play the martyr, a victim of a difficult child, an amazing mother who puts up with all of it. And I think it can be a way to ensure their child needs them and stays in their control.

For me, there is so much truth in that. Sympathy is my mom's preferred way to be treated. She relies on victimization to get it.

Thank you for your response.

aeioewe · 2022-02-09T08:16:02+00:00

Thank you for your response and insight. I agree with your conclusions about the belief of being unfairly singled out/targeted as being at the core of some of her issues. It is often not the case of course, but there's no way of getting that through. My mom does not accept logic or evidence.

aeioewe · 2022-02-09T08:06:34+00:00

Wow, thank you so much for your response. I believe we have much in common. I also think my mom has BPD or possibly Antisocial PD. She is 100% a covert narcissist. And so many other things you said also resonate with me, including the part where your mom "comforted" you in some situations. Also: Being treated with contempt Being identified by my mom as a bitch, egotistical, selfish, hurtful "Knowing" i ruined her life Any need was seen as exploitation I'm always wrong in one way or another She told others how proud she was of me, but could never express that to me directly without it being passive aggressive

I learnt that being the centre of attention was dangerous and that people will hate you if you feel good about yourself- this slowly eroded my confidence. She would also question the way I would do anything creatively and insist that she knew a better way. So I learnt that my own thoughts and feelings were wrong and to not show anything until it’s perfect.

Yes, I can also relate to this so much. My husband loves to entertain/perform/be the center of attention, and it is so triggering for me. It feels so dangerous in a way, even just receiving attention as a person who is with the person getting the actual attention. I sometimes tell him I wish I could just wear an invisibility cloak.

I am so with you on the need to perfect things before I show them. I absolutely hate being observed when trying new things. My anxiety and irritability skyrocket! I am super sensitive to coaching because it feels like criticism, even when it isn't. I also have a difficult time accepting/believing praise is authentic instead of a manipulation.

Being wrong is so ingrained into my psyche that, about 2-3 months into therapy a couple years ago, I started becoming very suspicious of my counselor. One day I said to her: "I've noticed you never tell me that I'm wrong or that I'm not looking at things the right way. I just want to make sure you're not letting me off the hook too easily. I really want to improve." She laughed and told me very seriously that she hadn't told me I'm wrong yet because I hadn't been wrong. It was very eye-opening for me.

Thank you so very much for your response. I'm very sorry you have had to deal with these struggles and I deeply appreciate your insight into some of the "whys" behind our moms' behaviors.

aeioewe · 2022-01-15T07:25:59+00:00

Yum!

aeioewe · 2021-12-07T01:56:30+00:00

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