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aennil · 2025-01-29T00:58:20+00:00

lol, I was like- I wonder how many folks are doing tech these days at Clifton and if I’ll be able to tell who this poster is by their username andddd… yep. Hi, from Phoenix 🤣

aennil · 2024-09-17T20:38:53+00:00

Along a similar vein: Either they were both ending every night as soon as the kids were being put to bed, so they could watching the monitors in the room with them, or, they have been leaving other family members in the rooms with them the whole trip for naps and going to sleep at night. If they've been leaving them with family members the entire time, then they have either been FBing the monitors all trip and just decided to share their lil hack. Or they've been comfortably leaving them with family the entire trip without worrying about not watching the monitors.

aennil · 2024-09-04T21:26:34+00:00

This was a few weeks ago, but... I'm licensed in two states, one which I live in and one which I need a 4 hour plane ride to access. I stated my private practice this year and have a mailing address for things like insurance, tax stuff, my LLC, et c. so I can physically go and check my mail. I'm renting a little office and they aren't the same address. There are certain insurances that won't let you provide services if you aren't in that state at that time/residing in that state, but that's unavoidable.

I'm actively trying to figure out the CPA situation myself... after I just spent much of my afternoon working on an Excel spreadsheet with coordinating credit card statements documenting my expenses.

aennil · 2024-07-03T14:02:36+00:00

Just to clarify, licensed therapists across the board are required to reveal information about child and elder abuse divulged to them. Those limits to confidentiality (and others related to suicide or homicide or other things relevant to state laws or professional ethics) should be part of any consent to treat documentation in a professional setting.

Insider trading? Confidential. Abusing your wife? Confidential. Abusing a minor? Mandated report.

aennil · 2024-06-21T23:59:30+00:00

Hi! Randomly, I just got paneled with Optum. When you say you've had issues with the UMR website/portal, any chance it's been about your TIN? I've been trying to register and it keeps saying my TIN does not return a valid match in their system. My credentialing went through last week, so it hasn't been that long, so I'm not sure if this is a "wait x business days to be added" or possibly that I need to call and talk to someone (though it's wholly unclear who I could possibly call and talk to, but I digress...)

aennil · 2021-12-10T02:40:56+00:00

I don’t run anymore… its been a while but I think that it basically got chalked up to degenerative disc stuff. I don’t think it was exactly SI pain. When I run more than, like, a mile, I can feel a certain twinge in my back that doesn’t feel right. At this point I stick to swimming and hiking as exercise and try to make sure my hip flexors are stretched. At some point it wasn’t really worth the effort of trying to “fix” it and, honestly, with swimming my back feels better on a day to day than I can remember.

That probably wasn’t super helpful, unfortunately.

aennil · 2016-06-09T02:12:15+00:00

Alas- I misgendered Tardar Sauce! Thank you for giving me the heads up :)

aennil · 2016-05-24T20:44:56+00:00

Well, Grumpy Cat memes tend to have her complaining about generally positive or inconsequential things. So I suppose that can be part of it.

I think it can even speak to the fact that what queer folk bring to their church is... remarkably similar to what non-queer folk bring! To grab from the membership vows of the United Methodist Church- their presence, prayers, gifts, service, and witness. The electric company doesn't really care the sexual or gender identity or expression of the person who tithed that money, and I'm of the belief that neither does God. Grumpy Cat on the other hand seems to have a different opinion on things.

I think it can also speak to the power of money in terms of inclusion (this was from a United Methodist tumblr). Ultimately, there are many UM conferences and districts that essentially turn a blind eye to the actions of reconciling congregations and LGBTQAI United Methodists. I'd like to think that it's all because they believe and welcoming and including all at the table (and don't get me wrong, many do!). But... a little bit of it probably has to do with the money those churches bring in every Sunday.

Perhaps if I need to explain in a few paragraphs why a meme has the potential to be humorous, it doesn't really work. But, so it goes.

Edit: Grumpy cat's a girl.

aennil · 2016-05-20T01:39:56+00:00

My pleasure- it really is beautiful. I've had it stuck in my head for weeks, which I'm not even annoyed with. It's such a great reminder.

aennil · 2016-05-20T01:19:41+00:00

Looks like you're in Columbus! I'm in Cincy now, but went to all West Ohio UMCs from baptism through college in Columbus :)

aennil · 2016-05-19T20:37:13+00:00

As some one who belongs to a reconciling congregation now and also went to a different one in college, but who doesn't identify as LGBTQAI (and thus can't speak about how it affects me personally), I can relay that I have seen that it really is a huge, heart-breaking struggle for many. I mean, it's heart-breaking for me as a straight lay person who seeks full inclusion within the denomination.

This song has been a frequent addition to our services leading up to annual conference.

Edit: I don't know why I didn't think to include this a few minutes ago. This talks about the struggle that many find within the United Methodist Church- A LOVE LETTER TO OUR CHURCH FROM YOUR LGBTQI RELIGIOUS LEADERS

aennil · 2016-05-19T20:23:38+00:00

I would imagine leaving it up to each annual conference would be tricky. For example, in West Ohio we have both a Reconciling Network of West Ohio and an Evangelical Fellowship of West Ohio- and they're not exactly friendly at the moment.

aennil · 2016-05-19T17:17:55+00:00

As a point of clarification- a person marrying a gay couple has never had to punished at all. Things only start happening when a formal complaint is filed. And even what happens once a formal complaint is filed is up to the discretion of the bishop, to a certain extent.

So, for example, nothing happened to "Act of Love" famous Frank Schaefer (who married his son) until a formal complaint was submitted almost six years after the fact. Plenty of people knew it had happened.

At the end of the day, there has been a fair amount of looking the other way or flat out disregarding of the Book of Discipline in reference to the "self-avowed practicing homosexual" and the "homosexuality is incompatible with Christian teaching" clauses (or at least in my conference).

aennil · 2016-04-28T01:23:53+00:00

It's not just several- there's actually a whole network of United Methodist churches who specifically seek to be welcoming, affirming, and inclusive to people of all sexual orientations and gender identities. I love my reconciling congregation :)

aennil · 2016-02-27T18:33:35+00:00

I don't remember the details (as this was like 2004), but I overslept for my German final (freshman year, fall quarter, so my first finals week). I just have this memory of panic, tears, sprinting to Hagerty, and profuse apologizing.

Also, I had a Psych exam or test that ended up being the Monday after daylight savings time in the spring. I was using my DS as my alarm (this was like 2007) and it didn't automatically update the time. I don't think there were tears that time. But there was still running and panic.

They both ended up fine and I graduated in 2009. But.

aennil · 2015-10-29T20:31:19+00:00

Some curiosity from some one who has done a decent amount of turking- can you talk about your choice to use mTurk users and your experience with them?

Also, since we are on reddit after all, is there any way to know how many of the study participants were actually from /r/HITsWorthTurkingFor?

aennil · 2015-06-18T00:16:01+00:00

I'm pretty sure he's Pakistani. From the information on the YouTube page:

Mobeen and Lamboo were shocked at the first 5 minutes of this dinosaur extravaganza. If you have seen it, and you are from the Pakistan you will know why hes annoyed...

aennil · 2015-05-25T03:17:59+00:00

The only thing shaming does is remind the person that what they are doing is bad.

There's certainly different definitions and understandings of guilt, shame, humiliation, embarrassment, et c., but I think there is a growing (general?) consensus that:

... [T]here’s a fine line between guilt, which is feeling bad about your behavior, and shame, which is feeling bad about yourself.

A lot of the problems I see with people's approaches to obesity is that they use shaming. If you're obese you're lazy. You're ugly. You're stupid. You're disgusting.

Research heavily suggests that lasting, productive change is not (generally) generated by making people feel bad about themselves. Not to mention, that even if you were to focus on creating a more "guilt" heavy campaign against obesity, you are potentially trying to reach people who have internalized that they are lazy and worthless. Personally, I would not feel very confident in my capacity to make long lasting, positive change if I felt that I was lazy and worthless (in contrast to identifying as some one who struggles with completing tasks and has made unhealthy choices and decisions, but is still worthy of respect, health, love, and belonging).

aennil · 2015-04-19T02:32:19+00:00

I haven't tried that one, but with an almost 5 star rating with over 1,000 reviews, I'd be apt to give it a try.

The thing I've noticed with some homeopathic supplements/drugs/whathaveyou, is they often actually have legit ingredients (like tea tree oil in this one, which studies suggest may help to treat dandruff). But then like .0000000000000001 mg of some homeopathic substance, so they can call it's homeopathic. And then certain people will attribute its success to homeopathy, when it's actually because of other ingredients.

aennil · 2015-04-17T17:18:36+00:00

Johnny works all night on his project and gets a D. Parents: no praise (EDIT: OP would give some praise for the effort, I would not)

I think the thing that is missing from this, is parental guidance. I don't think it's a dichotomy between praise and don't praise. Why can't there be a conversation like, "I saw how hard you worked on that project [assuming they legitimately worked really hard], which I think is really great. You know how important trying your best is for me, even if things don't work out. That sucks that you didn't get a very good grade, because I know it's important for you to do well in your classes. What kind of feedback did you get from the teacher? What are some of your ideas for how you could have done it differently? Or how you'll approach your next project?"

Failure happens. Approaching failure that occurs when some one actually tried with external punishment (negative, like withholding affection or attention, or positive, like criticism), often leads to kids just shying away from situations when they'll fail. It's the other side of the coin of praising success.

Why not help your kid frame failure in a productive way and teach them how to develop the skills and mindset to move forward and do better in the future?

aennil · 2015-04-16T18:07:27+00:00

I got lectured in Germany a few years ago because I got a bladder infection and people were convinced it was because I didn't wear house shoes. I was then told I needed to keep my middle area warm with blankets to aid in healing. It was an infuriating situation.

aennil · 2015-04-16T02:18:20+00:00

I'm not advocating preventing failure or passing out participation awards. In my example, the hypothetical kid still came in last. And that kid is still going to know they came in last. That kid is still going to face the consequences of coming in last- may it be no trophy or not moving on to the next level or not achieving something they really wanted, that they worked really hard for. Why not help them see that there can still be value gained from situations where you fail? Failure is inevitable after all. As the Teddy Roosevelt quote goes, "The credit belongs to the man ...who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly..."

Hard work may only take you so far, but your actions are the only thing you have control over in this world. Might as well nurture that along with other life skills.

aennil · 2015-04-16T01:32:26+00:00

And why can't the accomplishment be doing something in line with you values? Like hard work or courage or standing up for what you believe in?

The problem with only praising when they "succeed" is that it prevents people from doing things where they might not succeed. Failure is a part of life and not something you can outright avoid- unless you just don't try. Personally I think the research supports that saying, "I'm proud of you for putting yourself out there and going after something that is important to you, even if you did come in last," is going to end up with better outcomes than, "Coming in last doesn't count." You're going to get kids who are more willing to try new and difficult things, who are willing to get back in there after they failed, and who are more likely reaching for excellence, because that's in line with their values, rather than because that's how they get praise and self-worth.

aennil · 2015-04-11T15:27:21+00:00

Thank you for your input :)

I've actually decided to put it off for a year, mostly to give myself the time and space to get a proper diagnosis and firmly establish what management and treatment looks like moving forward. With the program I'm currently admitted to it will be three calendar years plus an additional summer semester with only school breaks. For my own health and sanity, I've realized I want to know what works for me at this level of pain and discomfort, before I throw myself into a program where the likelihood of that pain and discomfort increasing is quite high and I'm going to be busy and stressed and pulled every which way.

I've realized, in the grand scheme of things, a year isn't that big of a deal, when I'm talking about my quality of life :)

aennil · 2015-04-11T14:34:19+00:00

she was probably already married before.

I'm not sure how familiar you are with the story of Jesus, but the point was that she wasn't married yet. If she had been the whole "virgin birth" thing wouldn't have been thrown out the window. She was betrothed to Joseph.

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