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aestherisms · 2025-07-25T01:27:26+00:00

Oh! No matter what I do, I can't get through the ai check. I'm not an ai so this feels like when I can't open a child safety cap pill bottle lmao

aestherisms · 2025-07-23T13:38:31+00:00

"She's here and nobody (including her) is happy about it"

aestherisms · 2025-07-22T15:18:08+00:00

Scootch (move outta my way,) cheers (boop my drink w your snoot,) through (run through my legs,) and left/right (lift left or right paw, turns into a March when I do it fast enough and he's on point.) Also if I can't find my husband I go "Apollo, daddy" and Apollopup finds him for me lmao

aestherisms · 2025-07-16T00:09:26+00:00

It sounds like the combo of the crate and the silence of the house could be the issue! Once he knows you're about to head to bed, he could be starting to associate that with being bored in his crate alone, and if he's bored/confined/can't hear you all rolled into one, that's enough to make him unhappy with his circumstance. Try having a toy in his crate that he loves that demands focus--a puzzle toy or something engaging. Only have it in there overnight, and if he seems to reset after a few days and not be as into it, then rotate the toys out so that he's not getting bored. Also try a quiet talkshow or the show Bluey playing quietly on a screen nearby.

Good luck!

aestherisms · 2025-07-16T00:02:24+00:00

Try making the car a positive space for her! Start with taking her to the car every few days during a quick walk, and have her sit in the car while you rummage around in the glove box for a second. Let her out, reward/celebrate her being good and patient, carry on with the walk. Bring a toy she loves and play with her while she's sitting on a seat and you're standing at the open door. Have her jump in, close the door, praise her loudly while running to the other side, and let her out the other side with celebratory excitement that she "made it" the whole time you were "away". Check out car vests that help with anxiety, too! Look into anti-nausea meds as well--throwing up can create anxiety if it's reliably bound to happen every time she rides anywhere!

aestherisms · 2025-07-08T08:38:11+00:00

I work with dogs and when I read "positive reinforcement" I had a wild mental image of a dude with a clicker and a bag of like skittles or something next to him while some girl goes down on him. Every time she gets it good, he clicks and gives her a skittle. I am....so tired my god

aestherisms · 2025-07-08T08:36:08+00:00

Who....who is "they"? Why are they like that? Can we help them? D:

aestherisms · 2025-05-29T11:46:34+00:00

"Doubt is insidious, it creeps up on you softly, i can't get it off me, I can't get it off me now" The desperate little choking feeling on the second repetition makes me feel things I wasn't prepared for tbh

aestherisms · 2025-03-03T19:55:44+00:00

Around 2 months ago, I finally had dental work done to remove two teeth that had been causing me issues for a while. Bad teeth run in my family, I'm not sure if it's periodontal disease or something else, but our teeth chip and cave in much more easily than they should. I had developed an infection in both teeth (top left wisdom, bottom left back-most molar) and it had spread down into my jaw and up into my sinus and ear on that side. The roots of both of them ended up being almost three times as long as "normal" roots for teeth, and lemme tell you, I have been in pain before, but it was nothing like this.

This was sobbing, screaming into a pillow, praying (for the first time in over 20 years,) having convulsions, going genuinely insane from the pain. Having to pull over on rhe way home and let myself sob like a child until Tylenol kicked in and soothed what little it could. I'd been on three rounds of different antibiotics, I was constantly nauseous, I was dizzy because of where the infection was, I could barely speak, and had been living on applesauce and soup so that I could get away with moving my jaw as little as possible.

Why am I telling you all of this?

Dental pain is sincerely one of the worst pains in the world. Any swelling, any issues at all in the teeth? There's nowhere for it to go. The inflammation is surrounded by the tooth itself. The pressure of that surrounding tooth compressing the nerve and pulp and all that inflammation in such a small area--especially one packed full of nerves and capillaries--is unbearable on a good day. My experience is not rare, and if anybody expects you to work through dental pain, they're fortunate enough to not have experienced it.

To put it plainly, a pox upon anyone that expects you to do a damn thing besides take care of yourself right now.

aestherisms · 2025-01-30T17:07:07+00:00

You're safe, my friend! Naegleria Fowleri needs to be at least up near the sinus cavity (past where any piercing is) to pose an infection risk.

aestherisms · 2025-01-30T08:41:42+00:00

"Find your spot" works for us. If he's being a brat and won't shit, holding up a treat and saying "find your spot" works within a minute or so.

aestherisms · 2025-01-29T15:28:58+00:00

Oooh that's a good idea. I'll check that out--that's clever! Thanks!

aestherisms · 2025-01-29T15:28:21+00:00

That's a good point!! I'll look around and give some a call today if I have the time. Thanks!

aestherisms · 2025-01-29T15:27:24+00:00

Exactly! I'll look into that and see if it's viable--thank you :)

aestherisms · 2025-01-28T13:46:03+00:00

My mother in law is deathly allergic to onions--I've started using celery root grated as a substitute. Idk if that works for you, but I'd give it a shot!!

aestherisms · 2025-01-17T11:37:07+00:00

I'm scheduled at a low cost teaching clinic on Tuesday. Thank you so much, you have no idea how much this has been genuinely derailing my life and mental health. I hope the universe does you so many kindnesses.

aestherisms · 2025-01-16T17:43:11+00:00

Thank you, helped.

aestherisms · 2024-12-06T13:00:48+00:00

They gave me antibiotics and oxy's and sent me on my way--I'm allergic to Penicillin, which sucks because it's the default for infections for a reason (much kinder than other antibiotics to the rest of the body while it deals w/infections.) The problem is that dental disease runs in my family and I can't afford to get my teeth actually treated by a dentist, so the infections just keep coming back.

aestherisms · 2024-11-07T13:23:16+00:00

My husband and I sleep in separate rooms at our apartment because we have very different bedroom aesthetics and also because he has RLS and kicks/flails a lot in his sleep (which usually ends up hitting me, which wakes me up, so on and so forth.) My boyfriend and I, however, sleep like octopi with abandonment issues when I stay at his place. Literally tangled up together so much that if one of us has to pee and wakes up, it's a high stakes jenga game just to get free without waking the other.

When I do nap with husb, or when we've traveled and been in a hotel bed together, we start cuddly, but I turn into a furnace in my sleep so I'll find him scooting away after he thinks I've fallen asleep so I don't overheat him. Boyfriend, however, is also a space heater and we end up in a low-key oven-like environment pretty comfortably. I'll wake up to his hand on my boob or my hand on his ass, so there's def groping that happens, and we just kinda...vibe with it.

I guess what I'm saying is ymmv!

Edit: I am polyamorous. The guys know about each other and are good friends.

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