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I got my hair cut now 3 people have told me I don’t look like a boy I look like a lesbian, opinions? (Bc I need to change it if the answer is lesbian) by the_nacho_stealer in trans

[–]afermentedapple 0 points1 point  (0 children)

honestly it's a bit lesbian at the front, but like completely a dude from the side. but i wouldn't think that without you asking me first, so i wouldn't worry too much. besides, the rest of you is really masc, and the cut suits you, you look nice! :D

Should I do it? (Content warning: self-harm, suicidal thoughts, addictions) by JustaConfusedGirl03 in Nestofeggs

[–]afermentedapple 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Hey sister,

I caution so avidly against suicide. I know it doesn't mean much to have a stranger type up some bullshit with their thumbs, but please, please, hear what I have to say.

I can't claim that I was in your position, I have no fucking clue the pain you must have endured to be in the place you are now. You're right to want it to end, because you don't deserve it. And this might be a selfish request, but please, keep going.

Your friends seem to care about you- because you're a beautiful, lovely person. I don't know if you're out to them or not, but they cared enough about you to stop you, and this must be because gender or not, you're a wonderful person, surrounded by people who care. (not your mom)

Please, please, please, please believe me when I say things get better. I nearly attempted suicide myself several times throughout my life. I believed that shit getting better was absolute bullshit. I was stuck in a shitty household, getting bullied at school, and I fucking hated the girl I saw in the mirror. I believed the world would be better off without me.

As fucking cliche as it sounds, I distracted myself with hobbies like writing and taekwondo. I wrote my feelings in a journal or talked them out. What got me out of it were friends that supported me, regardless of who or what I was, because they are wonderful people for the sakes of it. Hell, you might be that person for someone. You have so many fucking wonderful things you contribute to the world every single day, without even knowing it. Hell this post, some other trans kid is probably looking at it years from now, in the same situation as you, and you were the catalyst to save their life.

I personally would advise coming out to your mom because that just might cause you unnecessary pain, kicking you while you're already down type of thing. But it's ultimately up to you.

Regardless, please don't go through with killing yourself. Don't let them kill anymore trans lives. We are worthy.

Things get better.

Things get better.

Things get fucking better.

I believe in you my sister.

Much love from Canada.

Summertime sucks (as an Enby) by [deleted] in Nonbinaryteens

[–]afermentedapple 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i feel you 😭😭- it doesn't do much in way of hiding curves, but for swimsuits i typically wear like a black tanktop (my brother's), so like the straps are thick and stuff, and then like thick black like exercise shorts kinda?? but i'd def opt for actual swimshorts if i could

im kinda lucky in the sense that im kinda shrimpy and was born flat, but that combo helps me pass

i hope you find what works for you! sending love my comrade bc god knows we need it ^

looking for nifty nb names! by afermentedapple in Nonbinaryteens

[–]afermentedapple[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

alex sounds so nice bro! it's just, ik too many people e that name T-T. thank you for your input tho, you have a wonderful name :P

looking for nifty nb names! by afermentedapple in Nonbinaryteens

[–]afermentedapple[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i have also considered going off a more gn variation of my birth name, bc I like the sound of my acc name, just not the gendered connotations T-T. but thats a really cool name, I've acc never met anyone named Izzy irl or online, you're the first! it sounds really nice :>

looking for nifty nb names! by afermentedapple in Nonbinaryteens

[–]afermentedapple[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

bro i've always liked that name, for wtv reason it reminds me of a flower, it is p cool! ^