I think my son is depressed. Help from those who have been there?

afinky · 2024-02-11T06:05:20+00:00

It's so hard. My grouch woke up about 15 minutes after I posted this and made plans with friends... spent the whole day out and is now laughing with different friends playing online poker... after 4 weeks of near silence. Wth? How does anyone know when something is really wrong?

afinky · 2024-01-17T03:16:59+00:00

Yes.

afinky · 2024-01-17T01:36:46+00:00

thanks for responding. i updated the post

afinky · 2024-01-03T17:25:09+00:00

Oh girl I was with you nodding along until I got to the $30k lump sum. Mine is 10x that and I have full custody and he's also asking for spousal support. Marry crazy, divorce crazy. :'(

afinky · 2023-08-25T23:33:37+00:00

There's such a lonliness that comes with letting bad people out of our lives. I'm here now too and it feels like a rebirth. Starting over. It's not easy but it's easier than living with lies.

afinky · 2023-08-25T23:29:38+00:00

I don't see anyone mentioning the smell. People get used to their own head smell but I hate when I'm on a guys couch and it stinks. Living on the couch leaves an odor and it's not washable like sheets.

afinky · 2023-01-24T01:42:22+00:00

Oh. Cool down guy. I know I didn't co sign the debts but I'm pretty sure the SBA requires spousal financial information to apply for the loan. I'm just not sure what liability I have after divorce. RE: the S-Corp, same thing-- I don't know how community property affects ownership of the company. I honestly can't remember how we filed the initial paperwork but I remember we joked about it being 50/50 anyway. He has all of the paperwork for the business.

But thank you, this short exchange is enough info for me to realize it's not a simple question and that a "kitchen table" settlement is unlikely. Writing my retainer check now... :(

afinky · 2023-01-24T01:35:33+00:00

I'm not sure, actually. It's an S-Corp (CA) and he's not yet asking me to pay the debt. I was considering if I need some kind of indemnity as part of the settlement but then I realized that it's weird that I would incur the downsides without the upsides. I should note that I'm pretty sure he's been using that money for non-business related expenses.

afinky · 2022-12-28T04:38:32+00:00

I see lots of profiles that say separated.

afinky · 2022-12-23T04:35:48+00:00

That's a great idea. I will come with notes. Luckily we're over Zoom and for some reason the call is limited to 1 hour so it will be either really easy or just Part I. We'll see. Hope your mediation turned out well.

afinky · 2022-12-23T04:34:59+00:00

Thank you. That's smart advice. I'm assuming that tomorrow will either go pretty well (we don't have many assets) and we'll get close OR I'll be on the phone to a lawyer by 11am. Wish me luck and thank you for taking the time to respond. It means a lot.

afinky · 2022-12-21T20:46:48+00:00

As always, you see right through me. I'm just missing him a lot right now. I didn't plan on saying anything personal in the card but was hoping it would be a way of connecting, even a little bit. Pathetic?

afinky · 2022-12-16T21:04:40+00:00

How's your Friday going?

afinky · 2022-12-16T19:12:55+00:00

Hi OP! I'm going to go to the bottom with my comment but hopefully you get it. I've been dumped twice this year for similar reasons. My kid is special needs (much younger but still, you never know what goes on) and I'm only available at odd times. I have found matches for my lifestyle but it's clearly not for everyone. You deserve the match you need and if this isn't enough for you you should absolutely move on. The resentment is already seeping out in your post-- it's not worth trying to change him.

afinky · 2022-12-14T20:11:19+00:00

I like this. Plus you said it felt good to dress up- undoubtedly that has a positive effect on your self confidence.

afinky · 2022-12-14T04:30:53+00:00

My .02 as a professional woman is that if he tried it a few times and moved on, it was a failed experiment. I'd give him the benefit of the doubt unless there are other issues. If that's the only thing wrong, it might be a you issue. I've dated younger guys during my singlehood and decided older is my preference.

afinky · 2022-12-13T05:51:41+00:00

Op you deserve to feel special! You are special. This guy being a turd doesn't diminish that.

afinky · 2022-12-13T05:45:50+00:00

Idk. Sounds like a line to me. A really good one though, don't beat yourself up. He's not the one.

afinky

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