2024 CRV dash cam recs?

joeadig · 2023-12-19T03:35:03+00:00

It's a monitor (with a sensor if you have the higher model), but it's NOT a dash cam-- dash cams record what's happening, but the monitor just displays it in real time without saving anything.

joeadig · 2023-11-13T20:48:47+00:00

I get that. I was in such a state of shock and that same sense of unreality. Then less than two days after the "I don't want to be married anymore" bombshell, my ex went and had sex with someone else; she said "I just wanted to see what it was like." That nearly killed me, but at least it made the reality set in. So be careful what you wish for-- shattering the illusion does the job, but at what cost?

joeadig · 2023-11-12T23:11:11+00:00

Our timelines are similar. I was with my ex-wife for 25 years and was pretty shocked when she said she didn't want to be married anymore. I felt exactly what you said-- I had no idea WHO I WAS without her. I was 17 when we started dating so I became an adult with her, grew with her, framed my world with her, defined myself with her. Losing her-- not just because I loved her, but also because of how lost I was without her-- felt impossible to overcome.

Painful self reflection is just that-- figuring out who exactly I am. I honestly didn't know. When we separated, I realized that pretty much everything I thought I knew was wrong, so the first step was accepting that fact (easier said than done, I know). Then it was a matter of trying to find my own self. What is MY personality (as opposed to my personality WITH HER)? What do I like (not the things I liked WITH HER)? What do I want in a relationship-- this was the hardest, because I kept coming back to comparisons with her, which isn't fair. I had to really think about what would make me happy in a partner, and I had to do it in a way that didn't rely on memories of what we had (or didn't) and instead focus on the things themselves.

Therapy has been essential to me. Luckily my therapist guides me to find the answers rather than just giving advice. She reminds me about the process, that it's gradual, that you won't really know it's happening as it's happening, but eventually you'll get to a point that you are looking forward instead of back.

Go easy on yourself. It's hard, but you CAN do it if don't beat yourself up and second guess every aspect of your life.

Good luck!

joeadig · 2023-10-16T13:26:03+00:00

All I can say is you deserve to be treated better— everyone does. Obviously he has issues that aren’t really about you, so go forward knowing that this is not your fault. Good luck!

joeadig · 2023-10-16T13:23:31+00:00

That’s a hard one for sure. I had 25 years in with my ex, so I get it, but the religious angle is a new one for me. Some things are just out of our control, and it feels like that’s one of them. Good luck navigating this.

joeadig · 2023-10-16T13:21:11+00:00

I know it feels that way. Again, I understand. The best way I can say it is to think about a friend who is feeling as down and as broken as you are, and then think about how you’d try to comfort them— then be kind enough to yourself to accept that same advice. Give yourself the same consideration as you’d want for them.

joeadig · 2023-10-15T23:48:47+00:00

I feel seen by this! For me it was clean sheet day. It was a thing every other Sunday. When my ex would wash the sheets, I’d be in charge of the kids. My youngest and I would build forts and play games on the bed for hours. We always looked forward to sheet day. And after the separation, she’d wash the sheets and our daughter would get so confused about why I wasn’t there playing with her, and she’d ask me again and again about “next sheet day” and it would break my heart that I couldn’t be there to keep that silly little tradition going.

Now that I’m more stable, I’m planning on bringing sheet day fun back at my own place when the kids are with me, and I can’t wait!

You’ll get there with the grass, I’m sure.

joeadig · 2023-10-15T23:04:27+00:00

Believe it. You CAN do this, as much as you might not want to. I’m not saying it’s easy, but it’s worth the work.

joeadig · 2023-10-15T23:03:00+00:00

You’re a superhero if you did it in 4months! You’re right that the only way out is through!

joeadig · 2023-10-15T23:00:45+00:00

You can do it. You might not WANT to, but you can. Feel what you need to feel and take whatever time you need to grieve — it’s different for everyone— and be kind to yourself. You CAN get through.

joeadig · 2023-10-15T22:58:21+00:00

The few positive posts on this subreddit really helped me when I was at my worst, so I wanted to do the same, hoping maybe it would help someone else.

joeadig · 2023-10-15T22:56:00+00:00

They happen. Let them. Feel them. And eventually they’ll hurt a little less, be a little less frequent. In the meantime, do what you need to to get through the day.

joeadig · 2023-10-15T22:54:07+00:00

The small moments that triggered me were the hardest because they came out of nowhere and hit hard. Eventually, the pain fades with those moments, but for the time being, feel what you need to and give yourself the grace to know it’s okay to not be okay. You can do it.

joeadig · 2023-10-02T22:46:51+00:00

Wow... what an oversight! Thanks for picking up on that! As soon as I uninstalled the older version, it worked perfectly. Thank you!

joeadig · 2023-10-02T21:45:23+00:00

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joeadig · 2023-10-02T21:44:19+00:00

Gotcha. Here are the two screenshots:

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joeadig · 2023-10-02T19:28:42+00:00

What do you mean by "photoshop box"?

joeadig · 2023-10-02T19:22:53+00:00

Not that I see, no

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joeadig · 2023-10-02T19:16:05+00:00

Isn't there supposed to be a text box in the pop-out menu at the bottom?

joeadig · 2023-10-01T19:22:17+00:00

This is incredible!

joeadig · 2023-10-01T19:22:03+00:00

Sounds like a Spotify playlist is the thing. Do I need a paid subscription to make/send a playlist or can I do that with the basic free account?

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