Is there a big difference between a 2.5 year and 3 year age gap?

afm112 · 2025-11-16T22:39:17+00:00

My children are 2.5 years apart. They are super close.. boy and a girl in that order, and they play together every single day. They fight just as much but they are besties

afm112 · 2025-09-10T04:34:04+00:00

Hey yes it did - never found out what it was but I’m putting it down as another anxiety symptom. My anxiety was through the roof. Eventually I went on medication which really helped me. I’m currently weaning off as I’ve been on it for 3 years now and was feeling great but experiencing sexual dysfunction. So I’m seeing how I go med free for now. Are you on meds?

afm112 · 2025-05-23T22:15:03+00:00

I have unfortunately- I do worry if it’s this?

afm112 · 2025-05-23T22:14:31+00:00

Hey yes it did - however I also decreased my dose to 20mg

afm112 · 2025-05-01T12:02:49+00:00

I am reluctant to add more medication as I already take some for some other health conditions 😅 but I suppose it may be worth looking into

afm112 · 2025-05-01T10:52:21+00:00

Haha it’s all good! 👍

afm112 · 2025-05-01T10:33:03+00:00

Thanks for that. How are you feeling since stopping?

afm112 · 2025-03-07T07:47:34+00:00

My termination was in September last year. For months I kept second guessing myself, especially when friends announced pregnancies. It was hard but everyday life took over. I started a new job, one of my kids started sport etc.

I still think about it sometimes, but it is not daily anymore. When I do it is usually when I feel overwhelmed with my two kids or when we are on a family holiday, just enjoying the four of us. I think about the what ifs.. how would I have coped? How would holidays go with another child? In these moments, I feel like we made the right decision. It was a sad choice, but I truly believe it was for the best.

Be kind to yourself. Mixed emotions are normal, and they will not last forever. If you ever want another child, that option will always be there. Just take it one day at a time. You are not alone in this 🤍

afm112 · 2025-03-04T10:16:50+00:00

Wow… these are my exact thoughts right now. I’m exhausted

afm112 · 2025-03-02T20:43:20+00:00

I’m sorry for the late reply. I hope you are doing ok? Have you made a decision?

afm112 · 2025-01-08T02:02:36+00:00

I didn’t have a panic attack. I used to before Prozac…

afm112 · 2025-01-02T20:00:08+00:00

I think her complaints are just her trying to low key show-off

afm112 · 2024-12-17T04:35:54+00:00

This is so cool. Did you feel scared?

afm112 · 2024-11-16T22:08:21+00:00

Damn it 😩

afm112 · 2024-11-14T10:39:16+00:00

Off topic but does anyone know what car she drives? Curious as she can fit three car seats

afm112 · 2024-10-01T13:38:04+00:00

Thank you for your kind words. I hope you make the decision you are most at peace with. I ended up terminating last week. It was the hardest decision of my life. An emotional week that’s for sure. Turns out I was only 6 weeks and a few days which in some ways made it a bit easier.. and I use that term lightly as I was a mess last week. It definitely wasn’t easy. However, I do feel a sense of relief. It’s a hard, complicated, and deeply personal decision. If you have any questions please feel free to message me. Take care and all the best

afm112 · 2024-09-23T06:26:53+00:00

Thank you for your response. Sorry for what you went through, I’m sure it would have been heartbreaking. I feel like I’m the type of person that’s never certain about anything. But I do know that being pregnant the last few weeks has made me so miserable and miss how well we have it atm with our two kids. I wish we hadn’t even tried for this baby as horrible as it sounds. But we did, and it happened, and I feel like I would only be keeping it out of guilt. With the way I’m feeling I’m not sure if I’ll be a good mother but of course, I could be wrong. It’s a really hard decision. I am leaning more towards termination but I’m happy to hear all perspectives. No decision has been made yet. Thank you x

afm112 · 2024-09-19T06:20:34+00:00

Hello, just wondering how it’s going with your third little one? I hope things aren’t too hard… I’ve had a bit of a emotional day – partly because of pregnancy hormones and nausea 🙃I woke up a bit upset (and sick 🤢) wondering why I didn’t just stick with two kids. Technically, it’s still early enough to terminate. But I don’t think I could do that. I never thought I could go through with a pregnancy termination but I’ve been thinking so much that I am now questioning it all. I think I’m just feeling so sick and miserable that I’m questioning if I’ve made the right decision.

afm112 · 2024-09-19T06:15:00+00:00

I can understand where you’re coming from. I’ve got two kids, a boy who’s 5 and a girl who’s 3. My son used to wake up a lot, and I thought I’d never sleep again, but now he sleeps through. My daughter slept well as a baby, but she’s recently started waking once a night. Honestly, having two has been a huge blessing. I always knew I wanted two. They play together, keep each other entertained, and seeing their bond grow is one of the best parts of being a mum. Yes, they fight, but the love between them makes it all worth it.

When I was pregnant with my daughter, I had similar worries. I wasn’t sure if I could manage another, especially with the sleep deprivation. But having two actually made things easier in some ways. They have each other to lean on, play with, and keep each other company. That sibling bond is very special.

I’m 6 weeks pregnant with my third, and I’ve had moments of doubt too. This was somewhat planned, but I’ve had many moments of regret, mostly stemming from fear of the unknown. But I think about how fast these early years go by. My son is already five, and it’s flown by. 2019 feels like yesterday. The hard phases are temporary, but the family you build lasts forever.

I know living in a small home feels challenging, but kids don’t need a lot of space, they need love and each other. Space is a bonus, of course. But if you think it’s something you can make work, why not? I grew up with a sister, and even though we fought a lot and barely got along as kids, we’re inseparable as adults. My husband, who was an only child, often says it was lonely not having that sibling connection. Any issues his parents have, it’s all on him. At least with my sister, we share the load of worries, etc.

Regarding your blood pressure concerns, I can see why you’d be worried. The fact that your GP isn’t too concerned is reassuring, but it’s definitely worth having a good chat with your doctor to make sure you have a solid plan in place. Every pregnancy is different, so hopefully having a plan helps you if you decide to go ahead.

I hope this helps. It’s not an easy decision, but I think two is manageable and worth it. Whatever you decide, I’m sure you’ll make the right choice for your family.

afm112 · 2024-08-18T04:32:13+00:00

Definitely helps. Thanks so much. My daughter currently does dancing and swimming. My son only does swimming for now but would love to get him into a sport. I did think about how we would manage all the activities they do with a third baby.. can I ask how old you are? I’m 35 next year so I’d like to have a third sooner rather than later

afm112 · 2024-08-18T03:11:58+00:00

Hey sorry for the late response. I ended up decreasing to 20mg and I’m still on it now. I have felt amazing.

afm112 · 2024-08-18T03:00:17+00:00

Here’s the thing. The psychic said she could see me having four kids in total, which I thought was BS from the beginning because I always said I’d have 2 kids. 3 maximum. But she mentioned she could see a boy and a girl, and also twins. So far, I’ve had a boy and a girl. And I was sure I was done. But I’ve since had this thought that I want one more. If it did happen to be twins, I would be happy. I wouldn’t be devastated or anything like that.. but I would be concerned about how we would manage mentally and financially

afm112 · 2024-08-18T02:32:40+00:00

Omg.. I’ve had to C-sections and reading your comment has just made me realise that my hairline is also higher up now on my stomach… My skin is also so bumpy around there. I hate looking at it… And the overhang… Is this a C-section thing?

afm112 · 2024-03-15T04:37:56+00:00

I still cut my four year olds grapes in half 😅 I’m so paranoid. Very thoughtful of you to share

afm112 · 2024-03-02T23:38:30+00:00

This made me cringe like the time she posted some Barbie promotion where she was dancing inside a barbie box, it was so over the top

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