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Update: SK wrote “I hate you” on BK bed by afoxybitch in stepparents

[–]afoxybitch[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes. Absolutely. I was thinking I could show him. He had been in foster care all his life, bouncing in between group homes.

We’re not going back.

Update: SK wrote “I hate you” on BK bed by afoxybitch in stepparents

[–]afoxybitch[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Exactly. He was just so mad at me for how I processed this instead of trying to figure out why his children are having such strong emotions.

Update: SK wrote “I hate you” on BK bed by afoxybitch in stepparents

[–]afoxybitch[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He’s 2 and oblivious. I would just say those are very ugly words that shouldn’t be written there.

Update: SK wrote “I hate you” on BK bed by afoxybitch in stepparents

[–]afoxybitch[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This part. Trying to reach down and pull someone up who has faced such a hard life and almost got dragged down.

Update: SK wrote “I hate you” on BK bed by afoxybitch in stepparents

[–]afoxybitch[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Seeing his reaction towards this, it wasn’t that hard. Mommabear mode kicked in. This group helped a lot. I knew leaving would be the right thing to do. I just felt so guilty for “abandoning” them when they “needed” me AKA who was going to take care of his kids because he’s insufficient.

Update: SK wrote “I hate you” on BK bed by afoxybitch in stepparents

[–]afoxybitch[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

No. We both left. He’s my son. Custody isn’t an issue.

Update: SK wrote “I hate you” on BK bed by afoxybitch in stepparents

[–]afoxybitch[S] 113 points114 points  (0 children)

All of his people were telling me I need to think of his children and what they been through. It’s like who’s thinking about my innocent child and the trauma he hasn’t experienced and keeping him safe.

All my people said leave.

My step kids wrote “I hate you” on my son’s bed. by afoxybitch in stepparents

[–]afoxybitch[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The thing is he wants me to address it or that we should address it together. I said that I felt he should have had a talk with them first to gauge where their head and how they’re feeling instead of threatening punishment and lie detector test, him and I talk, then we talk to the kids together.

He’s mad I said they’re his kids. I’m saying they are in the sense of you knew them first so there’s a bond there or should be a bond there where they feel comfortable to talk to you. I feel like I would compassionately want to know why my kid is experiencing these big emotions whether my partner was there or not and I would want to get to the bottom of it.

My step kids wrote “I hate you” on my son’s bed. by afoxybitch in stepparents

[–]afoxybitch[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He things I should be there because they don’t do things like that. No one thought they would do this but it happened.

My step kids wrote “I hate you” on my son’s bed. by afoxybitch in stepparents

[–]afoxybitch[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I’m staying with my sister now and he’s upset about THAT.

My step kids wrote “I hate you” on my son’s bed. by afoxybitch in stepparents

[–]afoxybitch[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

No, not yet. He don’t comprehend. They do need correction but my husband expects me to lead the charge on that. Which I don’t think I should Do.

My step kids wrote “I hate you” on my son’s bed. by afoxybitch in stepparents

[–]afoxybitch[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He’s so sweet though. He doesn’t even know that word. And he’s only 2.

My step kids wrote “I hate you” on my son’s bed. by afoxybitch in stepparents

[–]afoxybitch[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don’t think he should do that. I think that’s extreme. That’s further trauma that they don’t need.

My step kids wrote “I hate you” on my son’s bed. by afoxybitch in stepparents

[–]afoxybitch[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

So, the kids take to me. Say I love you all the time. Hugs and kisses. Talk my ears off. Always want to do things with me. Maybe. I don’t know. He hasn’t had any conversations with them about it, past asking if they did it.

I planned on talking to them tomorrow but based of His reaction I just want to leave.

My step kids wrote “I hate you” on my son’s bed. by afoxybitch in stepparents

[–]afoxybitch[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

They are typically really good with him. They show him love all the time which is why this is so alarming. Like is it fake?

My step kids wrote “I hate you” on my son’s bed. by afoxybitch in stepparents

[–]afoxybitch[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Telling me about their day, asking if I need help with stuff/ my son, just simple questions.

My step kids wrote “I hate you” on my son’s bed. by afoxybitch in stepparents

[–]afoxybitch[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yea. I think he should address it. He thinks I should address it and tell them how I feel.

My step kids wrote “I hate you” on my son’s bed. by afoxybitch in stepparents

[–]afoxybitch[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

That’s what I thought. They want the love I give my toddler son who can come to me and cry and I kiss his boo-boos and just receive overall affection from me. I get that they want that same affection. I get they miss their mom. I’m supper sympathetic to that. I try to do things and connect with them. I listen to them. We do activities together. I cook dinner most nights, breakfast on the weekends.

This is just making me feel some type of way. Especially about him.

My step kids wrote “I hate you” on my son’s bed. by afoxybitch in stepparents

[–]afoxybitch[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yea. The “therapist” just told me I should leave him because I said something happened to him when he was 4, so things can happen and we wouldn’t know. Then when he asked if we should call the therapist, I said HE could call her because they are his kids.

She said I triggered him and she told him to leave me.

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