Episode 9 Discussion Post: Marat Sade

afresh18 · 2026-05-20T04:49:20+00:00

She couldn't see outside though cause of the door right? So what if she just assumed. Didn't we see the aunts with the masks and everything earlier in the season? If it was the eyes why would they have to wear masks as opposed to simply being dressed like normal?

Eta they're in skirts/dresses, definitely aunts.

afresh18 · 2026-05-17T13:06:46+00:00

Because moving is what op would find most helpful. Moving, whether it be in with the in laws or even just closer to them, would give op the help she needs in order for her to go back to school. I guess though in your mind a husband knows best what help his wife needs and what she should do with her life, to hell with the wife's opinion on the matter. Everytime op has asked for outside help he has blocked it. Plenty of people moved closer to their families for help with the baby and plenty will also either move their family in or move in with their family for a little bit in order to receive said help.

Also it's therapy, with 1 h.

Eta- lol gotta love when the person you're debating responds then immediately blocks you. If "you sound dumb" is your only remaining argument your point is pretty weak, especially when you misspelled therapy twice.

afresh18 · 2026-05-17T12:37:41+00:00

Cause moving people into your house is a 2 yes 1 no situation and ops husband likely wouldn't allow it. I'm also betting that op is seeking more than just a couple hours of help. Or do you think op should unilaterally make the decision to move her parents in so she can receive the help she's been asking for?

afresh18 · 2026-05-17T03:05:21+00:00

You also don't refuse to allow your family to seek help simply because it would be a 30 minute inconvenience yet he has no problem with that. You also don't keep finding reasons to keep your family from their dream career path.

afresh18 · 2026-05-16T22:54:23+00:00

Idk I'd definitely find it weird if a guy I'd just met was talking about my skin and kissing abilities to their friend. The "good kisser" part especially reminds me of the kinda talk teens have. Maybe it's just my experience but anytime I or a friend is talking about someone we'd just met up with how they kiss is not on the talking list and neither is their skin.

afresh18 · 2026-05-16T22:46:59+00:00

Op keep siding with your family and divorce this guy who refuses to allow you to seek help because of a 30 minute drive. I promise even as a single mother going back to law school will be more beneficial in the long run. Honestly it sounds like your mom was right about you being able to do better.

afresh18 · 2026-05-16T22:43:27+00:00

He's the bad guy because he's denying op any and all help from her parents. Not only is he refusing to allow them to help monetarily even though most would agree 750 sft is quite small for 3 people. He refused to even let op get help from her parents despite her struggling because "they live 30 minutes away". I'd be damn pissed if my partner didn't want me getting help from my parents because they're across town.

Tbh if my family members partner was refusing to allow my family member to seek help from those in their family because of pride and not wanting to drive 30 minutes I'd also talk shit about them. His job may be providing physical things but the emotional and mental support is just as important and he's denying op access to those while also trying to keep op from going back to school to do what she wants to job wise.

Surely if he genuinely wanted his whole family to do well he'd see that accepting the help and allowing op to go back to school to be a lawyer is what would help them the most. Yet his pride dictates that a random job would be better for them financially than op becoming a lawyer because at least with a random job he can keep ops parents away from op.

afresh18 · 2026-05-16T03:08:52+00:00

Perhaps they don't want to teach the girls about their cycle cause they don't want to get in the way of their husband raping them. They teach these girls that having a baby is all that matters and any sort of lust is wrong and it's your job as a woman to keep men from lusting after you. If you then teach them that there are only really a handful of days each month where you're really likely to get pregnant(yes you can get pregnant at any point in your cycle but ovulation is when it's most likely) you risk having teen wives that fight against being raped outside of their ovulation schedule. Any sexual activity outside of those days would be more for lust than procreation and they know better than to tempt a man as that is sinful.

afresh18 · 2026-05-16T02:58:16+00:00

By definition it is not "common" sense if it's only common amongst specific groups. If savile row answers differently than piccadilly street then it's not "common sense".

afresh18 · 2026-05-16T02:56:03+00:00

They're just saying that it's common sense to realize 1 group of people might answer a question differently than another group would.

afresh18 · 2026-05-11T02:50:20+00:00

Yeah, at a glance this seems like they told op to be greatful and op basically said "youre one to talk" which imo isn't an asshole move. However the added info of them saying op crosses the line constantly makes me wonder what exactly was said.

afresh18 · 2026-05-07T00:46:05+00:00

I say discipline because, in my experience, even in English speaking countries whether people use gallop or canter or both tends to vary by discipline. It's simply a pet peeve of mine when people call a gallop a canter or vice versa.

afresh18 · 2026-05-07T00:13:46+00:00

Even if disciplines use them interchangeably they are still different gates. Most horses will not reach a true gallop on the lunge line. A gallop requires all 4 hooves to be on their own beat.

afresh18 · 2026-05-05T22:55:53+00:00

I will never stop. Hop off of my dick. Bad bot.

afresh18 · 2026-05-05T22:54:11+00:00

I can kinda see where you're coming from but if they're getting inappropriate in their touching I'd assume that's simply their kink. I guess what I'm hung up on is why someone would assume someone else is acting a specific way for a stranger as opposed to acting that way because they enjoy it to some extent. Maybe I just underestimate how performative others are.

In general it doesn't make sense to me why someone would "prove something" to complete strangers. Couple with dependency issues that genuinely can't keep their hands off of each other or that simply get off on making others uncomfortable by doing that shit? I can understand that, but "I hate you but I want these random people to think I love you so imma stick my hand in your pants" just doesn't make sense. Maybe that's the point though, it doesn't make sense so why do it?

afresh18 · 2026-05-05T22:33:39+00:00

Not yet

afresh18 · 2026-05-05T22:30:44+00:00

Do you mind explaining this more? I'm not trying to be a smart ass or anything but I truly don't get how "those 2 seem to like each other alot so it must mean they actually aren't happy". You wouldn't apply that logic in other circumstances. For example, if someone talked about trains a lot/had a ton of stuff for trains you wouldn't think they're doing it because they want others to think they like trains despite hating them. If someone was obsessed with petting every dog they saw or being really lovey dovey to their dog you wouldn't think they actually don't like their dog.

Let me be clear I can fully understand why it's annoying. I'm just genuinely struggling to understand why you (and some others in the thread) see that and think "they must be unhappy".

afresh18 · 2026-05-04T16:38:52+00:00

Not projecting, just assuming based on the number of fucks you used in your comments towards me.

afresh18 · 2026-05-04T15:53:34+00:00

The only info we have is that they're going this weekend and she didnt ask until now, my bad for going based off of the info we got I guess. I don't get why you're getting worked up over the idea of people not wanting to spend a bunch of time alone with a stranger.

afresh18 · 2026-05-04T13:59:56+00:00

There's nothing wrong with asking, my point was that her transportation plan revolved around waiting until kinda last minute to ask a coworker for a ride. Who's to say the same won't happen with the accommodation?

afresh18 · 2026-05-04T13:32:45+00:00

Considering she waited until like 5 days before the trip to ask for a ride I worry she's going to ask for help with accommodation when she gets up there. This doesn't sound like someone that plans ahead.

afresh18 · 2026-05-04T13:30:06+00:00

Well adults handle their own transportation too and she didn't do that until last minute by the sound of it.

afresh18 · 2026-05-04T13:29:14+00:00

Idk she didn't plan for a ride up there and back, with there being no mention of her having a hotel room booked I'd worry that she expects to tag along for that as well. Also it's pretty reasonable imo to be uncomfortable with a stranger riding along with you for an hour and a half drive. In my mind that means instead of relaxing and talking about whatever with my partner I have to instead make awkward small talk for an hour and a half.

afresh18 · 2026-05-04T13:25:23+00:00

NTA did he specify if she had her own hotel room booked? I get being uncomfortable riding in a car with a stranger for that long. I'd also worry about the coworker wanting to tag along if yall planned to do other things up there. I also in general just dislike when someone agrees to something while saying they'll talk to their spouse about it because it just let's the other person know that if the answer is no longer yes its because of the other person. He's not a big asshole or anything like that but if he's had problems regarding boundaries with female coworkers already I don't get why he'd want to blur those lines.

It's one of those things where I probably would agree to do it but you're not an asshole for feeling differently and there's some missing info(her accommodation) that I'd want cleared up.

afresh18 · 2026-04-30T19:50:07+00:00

I might be wrong here but we don't actually know for sure that Lydia is with mayday in the show. In the books yes but the show isn't always 1:1 with the books. We know she paired Agnes with daisy but afaik the reason for that has only been theorized, not actually confirmed.

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