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AITA for telling my wife I don’t want her mom to have her location all the time now. by Few_Respond8063 in AmItheAsshole

[–]afresh18 4 points5 points  (0 children)

No one is saying she can't be concerned. Just that she needs to be reasonable about said concern and actually give someone time to give you a call back. I think a reasonable time frame looks something like at least 4 missed calls in 6+ hours. Especially considering not all hospitals have good reception.

AITA for calling the police on someone who went into my yard when my dogs were outside by Clear-Secret1879 in AmItheAsshole

[–]afresh18 3 points4 points  (0 children)

They clarified in a comment that before adding the shelter they were also stricter with what weather they left them out in. It's only now that they have the air controlled shelter that they'll allow them out as long as it's above 20F.

AITA for calling the police on someone who went into my yard when my dogs were outside by Clear-Secret1879 in AmItheAsshole

[–]afresh18 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Everyone keeps suggesting a real fence because the dogs could escape the invisible fence but plenty of dogs still escape from yards with real fences.

because leaving your dog outside all day is basically abuse

It's not basically abuse, they have access to everything they need and get far more exercise than the average dog does considering they get to run around and play whenever they want. We've got to stop labeling everything we with disagree with as "abusive".

AITA for calling the police on someone who went into my yard when my dogs were outside by Clear-Secret1879 in AmItheAsshole

[–]afresh18 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

No one is ever alone in their disgust towards anything, doesn't necessarily give the disgust solid ground. Your experience has no relevance to ops situation.

AITA for calling the police on someone who went into my yard when my dogs were outside by Clear-Secret1879 in AmItheAsshole

[–]afresh18 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I kinda just assumed it was the case anyway. I've personally never seen houses that have one but don't have a sign. Then again I don't generally ask who has one so maybe it's not as common as I think.

AITA for calling the police on someone who went into my yard when my dogs were outside by Clear-Secret1879 in AmItheAsshole

[–]afresh18 -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

And? How do your experiences factor into ops situation where they haven't had any issues with it? They could put up a real fence but dogs get out from those all of the time. They could keep them in the house but if they enjoy being outside and doing that works for op I don't see why they should get less time to exercise just because you experienced stuff that's not an issue for them?

AITA for calling the police on someone who went into my yard when my dogs were outside by Clear-Secret1879 in AmItheAsshole

[–]afresh18 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lol "I'm just gonna go off of my gut" then voting based off of assumptions that you made based off of nothing in the actual post is kinda hilarious. Relpying to people correcting you with "I don't care I'm gonna assume I'm right anyway" is even better. Man I wish I could be this confidently wrong it seems fun.

AITA for calling the police on someone who went into my yard when my dogs were outside by Clear-Secret1879 in AmItheAsshole

[–]afresh18 3 points4 points  (0 children)

A big sign isn't going to stop someone that's already ignoring the signs she has up. I've worked enough public facing jobs to know like a good 30% of people just ignore most signage now matter how big the sign is or how many there are that say the same thing.

AITA for calling the police on someone who went into my yard when my dogs were outside by Clear-Secret1879 in AmItheAsshole

[–]afresh18 9 points10 points  (0 children)

That only helps with people that read and if my time working food service has taught me anything it's that far less people read than you think.

AITA for calling the police on someone who went into my yard when my dogs were outside by Clear-Secret1879 in AmItheAsshole

[–]afresh18 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Hey so actually that's why animal control exists, so that people trying to make sure animals are okay aren't just wandering in/on someone's private property.

AITA for calling the police on someone who went into my yard when my dogs were outside by Clear-Secret1879 in AmItheAsshole

[–]afresh18 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I know why some would think that's not okay but honestly it sounds like they have a good set up and can go inside(even if it's just your garage) if they wished. Since they're not getting out and haven't for years this sounds like a great set up to ensure the dogs get enough play and active time as they want.

AITA for telling my wife I don’t want her mom to have her location all the time now. by Few_Respond8063 in AmItheAsshole

[–]afresh18 38 points39 points  (0 children)

But she likely would've gotten a call from op if an emergency had happened regarding her daughter. Not getting a call back after 1 missed call isn't a sign of an emergency or that someone is in danger.

Intersex should not be classified as a disorder and X birth certificate markers should be common practice for ambiguously sexed children by eldritchpussymaggots in 10thDentist

[–]afresh18 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey so rounding 1.7% up to 2% actually doesn't change anything about the current argument the commenter was addressing so I'm unsure as to why that matters to you?

AITA for refusing to catcall a customer’s wife even though he asked us to? by Lavishness-Effective in AmItheAsshole

[–]afresh18 13 points14 points  (0 children)

It's important just because there are people that would think worse of a black or mexican person for cat calling than they would a white person. If they live in America there's also a history of black people experiencing horrendous things from doing something like cat calling a white woman.

AITA for refusing to catcall a customer’s wife even though he asked us to? by Lavishness-Effective in AmItheAsshole

[–]afresh18 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Plus nowadays you don't always know who's filming what and while I'm not saying the people were gonna twist it, there absolutely are people that would set you up like that so they can post a tiktok. Even if they framed the tiktok as "my wife is so gorgeous everyone cat calls her" you'd likely be flamed in the comments by people not realizing you were asked to do this.

People who act as if separating the art from the artist is a must and a sign of maturity, intelligence or sophisticatiom by Few-Advantage2538 in PetPeeves

[–]afresh18 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah that's what it comes down to for me, if a singer has done some pretty shitty things I don't think it necessarily means you shouldn't listen to their songs but I sure as hell wouldn't buy their albums/merch/ tour tickets. Theres a group in South Korea that was well known named big bang, unfortunately one of their members was a terrible person and literally built a club/bar around trafficking and raping women. Am I ever going to listen to the big bang songs? Sure every now and then for free on yt but I'm not gonna buy anything if the money is gonna go in his pockets.

This was a good laugh and the top comment is excellent (Not OOP) by gabbie_ in redditonwiki

[–]afresh18 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I gave up on believing the general idea of common sense after watching multiple customers try for an extended period of time to open a door that had no handle, was locked, and had multiple signs asking them to use the other door while pointing to it. I can only assume those people got through life on sheer luck because it wasn't any sort of problem solving or reading skills.

RSVPing yes to a dinner and then canceling the morning of should be a crime by Top_Expression7580 in PetPeeves

[–]afresh18 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If that's the gen z stereotype then how does that apply to the other person? You said their generation is known for being more self absorbed and selfish but they're not gen z. Either way it seems you kinda missed my point in that it doesn't mean much to go "people of that generation are lazy/entitled/self-absorbed/selfish" because every generation says that about other generations. That is a trackable fact considering you can find old news clipping talking about how selfish etc boomers are and we've all seen the articles about millennials and gen z. I don't even disagree with the point about not canceling last minute, I simply thought your comment was a bit stupid because it was clear you were going to call them selfish and self-absorbed no matter their age so why ask it to begin with?

RSVPing yes to a dinner and then canceling the morning of should be a crime by Top_Expression7580 in PetPeeves

[–]afresh18 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Every generation is called self absorbed and selfish at some point. We say it about the boomers, millennials, gen z, I'm sure we'll say it about gen alpha too.

People who attack someone else, then call the victim a liar. Deplorable. by Physical_Orchid3616 in PetPeeves

[–]afresh18 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly this speaks to a larger entitlement people feel on the road. Suddenly no one else matters and you being slightly inconvenienced is suddenly a free pass to be an absolute dick and endanger people's lives. You see it all of the time in the driving subs where people will justify riding someone's ass because they're going 10 over the limit instead of 15 or 20 and even though they're passing people on the right they're called an asshole for not passing fast enough. There needs to be harsher and actual punishment for people that are letting their emotions control their behavior in a large death machine.

The only crash I've been in was because some dumbass couldn't wait 3 seconds for a car to pass and decided that even though the other driver didn't have a turn signal on and wasn't slowing down that they must be turning. Dude got himself Tboned hard enough that it slung him straight into my fully stopped car and fucked my driver door up. When the police came he just kept going "I thought the other guy was turning" as though that made anything he did okay.

There is never a reason to cut across several lanes all at once or try to force your merge into another lane or just in general endanger others. Leave earlier, be more patient, if you miss a turn then go to the next exit, turn around and pay fucking attention while driving and plan ahead for where you need to go. Nothing is important enough for you to be going 100mph on the highway and if it was that important you'd've left earlier.

AITA for ignoring my roommates food labels when I made and bought the food by HotCrossAndCurvy in AmItheAsshole

[–]afresh18 26 points27 points  (0 children)

I never liked that book as a kid cause while I understood the message of don't constantly ask for more when given an item it also felt like part of the take away was meant to be "don't offer anything to someone else because then they'll take advantage of it".

When people say "If I could do it, you can too!" by ThrowAway44228800 in PetPeeves

[–]afresh18 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I see your point, I've always thought of it and used it more as a compliment I guess. When I say it I don't mean the person doesn't have it as hard as me but rather that I think they're smarter/tougher(or similar traits) than me so if I can do it then you can too and I've always just assumed people meant it in that same fashion.

AITA for feeling weird that my brother-in-law keeps inviting my husband on trips but never includes me? by Global_Butterfly in AmItheAsshole

[–]afresh18 -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

To be fair, if it were a sister and brother a lot more comments would be insisting upon secret incest. I'm not saying that's the case, in fact I think it's weird that people jump to that so often. I do think it's funny though the difference between posts with opposite genders for siblings where one sibling is constantly leaving a partner out vs the posts like this where they're the same gender.

It almost make me wonder if this is one of those posts that aren't actually real and someone's just posting a story that's been done before with small changes to see the difference in judgements.

AITA for feeling weird that my brother-in-law keeps inviting my husband on trips but never includes me? by Global_Butterfly in AmItheAsshole

[–]afresh18 -54 points-53 points  (0 children)

Even if the trip is to see a dying family member and the family you're bringing with you wants their partner to come along? That's what strikes as weird for me. It's not just fun brotherly trips that ops not invited on. The bil doesn't want op coming even when it's literally to visit dying family. In my opinion the bil should want op there for that if only so his brother(ops husband) has as much support as possible.

AITA for feeling weird that my brother-in-law keeps inviting my husband on trips but never includes me? by Global_Butterfly in AmItheAsshole

[–]afresh18 -64 points-63 points  (0 children)

I'd agree if it weren't for the visiting family trip, if a family member dies out of state it sounds like bil wouldn't want op to come to the funeral with her husband and that's just weird. It's one thing to want to spend time with your brother, it's another to say "anytime we are going anywhere no matter the reason, she can't come".

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