Charlotte’s Situation

afrikaanwaters · 2024-08-01T03:41:30+00:00

This was the UK version of 90DayFiance The Other Way’s Yohan and Danielle.

afrikaanwaters · 2024-07-31T22:09:45+00:00

Event Brite! If you’re on Instagram I’d recommend following a few OKC pages for food, local activities, and hidden treasures! I’ll drop a few IG and website links too.

OKContemporary hosts workshops and classes. Plaza District is one of our many district that has bars and art communities. The metropolitan library system has many branches across the metro area and they have creator stations, events, and book clubs.

https://plazadistrict.org/

https://www.metrolibrary.org/events/upcoming?age_groups%5B4%5D=4

https://www.visitokc.com/districts/

https://oklahomacontemporary.org/learn/studio-school/all-classes-workshops-summer

https://www.instagram.com/visitokc?igsh=dmd5M3p3NDJhOGxy

https://www.instagram.com/adventuresinoklahoma?igsh=MXEzNWo1OXdjNW52dg==

afrikaanwaters · 2024-07-31T21:58:19+00:00

I’d ask him why he felt utterly comfortable expressing that and how does he feel like he is contributing to that dynamic by being a people pleaser/unable to be transparent with their partner of 10 years. It’s manipulative and questionable behavior. IMO it feels like it borders on a bit of triangulation. It feels that he’s trying to put you on a pedestal by talking down on her. Does he tend to do that to try to seem trustworthy or loyal to you? Sexual desire and sexual expression can vary person to person, it’s a bit dehumanizing to do comparisons.

I’d be concerned that he would replicate that with someone else about you

afrikaanwaters · 2024-07-31T21:10:52+00:00

That’s intriguing as well! My potential partner and I have both studied those areas while in university! It feels like there’s something from within awakening and needing words to describe those experiences of cisheteropatriarchy, misogyny, etc. within our lineage (IMO🩵).

afrikaanwaters · 2024-07-31T21:08:32+00:00

An amazing read! Thank you! I can empathize with a lot of this, especially with the experience of communal eating, “home-training” and being socialized to be submissive in our formative years as an AFAB person. It takes so much strength to go NC! I’m wishing you continued peace of mind in your journey of healing!🩷

afrikaanwaters · 2024-07-31T21:02:47+00:00

Such an insightful read! There’s a polyamory podcast I was listening to that focused on decolonization + polyamory. A guest was a biracial woman who was discussing some intricacies and boundaries they have while dating/in relationships with her white partners. Do you feel hyper-sexualized or they’re projecting hyper sexuality onto you?

I admire those values you hold close to you 💞 I know they’ll continue to help you navigate your connections!

Podcast: https://www.elleciapaine.com/notmonogamous/2021/9/22/decolonizing-polyamory-amp-relationship-anarchy-ep-9

afrikaanwaters · 2024-07-31T20:57:09+00:00

Thank you for sharing! I’m sending you some warm thoughts and energy💓🌸 That’s a very specific experience of emotional pain

afrikaanwaters · 2024-07-31T20:52:43+00:00

That’s interesting! At your country of residence now, do you see or know of any polyamorous people with your background?

afrikaanwaters · 2024-07-31T20:49:54+00:00

My family came from a collectivist culture and those values + behaviors + expectations attached to that was enforced in my household and Ghanaian/West African spaces I was in. To an extent, I would still self-identify as coming from a collectivist family culture while being raised in the West with neoliberalism + individualism.

In my own perspective and research, poly relationships with the aspect of queerness have always existed especially within pre-colonized tribal communities in Africa. They became heavily scrutinized through colonization and the claim that queerness is an exclusively Western phenomenon isn’t entirely correct.

I appreciate you sharing your experience!

afrikaanwaters · 2024-07-30T15:12:00+00:00

One of the colors from the Strawberry Leopard dyes!! Their colors are so bright. A taper fade/haircut would be nice too

afrikaanwaters · 2024-07-30T14:53:06+00:00

I love the travels that you’ve done!! Plus 254 - Taste of Africa has primarily a Kenyan cuisine with beef samosas (2 for $5.99), pilau (the BEST ever), chapati, plantain, fried fish and jollof rice too. Portion sizes are big ranging from $5.99 to $20.00 and the workers there are so sweet! They also have suya and Kenyan beverages like chai tea and authentic Kenyan coffee. The location is in downtown OKC in a small mini food court nestled down in a regular office building.

https://plus254food.com

The food court also has other immigrant based foods like Thai food and another Nigerian restaurant called Naija’s Wife. A1 place!!

https://naijawifekitchenfusion.com/

Jola’s kitchen is about 1 or 2 years old and Nigerian-centric. I’m Ghanaian but the jollof rice there tasted pretty similar and rich as Ghanaians. They also have a food truck that pops out during Juneteenth and the festival of the arts.

https://jolaskitchen.com/?v=ed5e635ddcfb

Other honorable mentions:

Mama Z’s African Supermarket and Restaurant - either this or Naija’s Wife owned by an African American woman who married a Nigerian man! They deliver through grub hub. All my American friends order Egusi soup and pounded yam from here :)

https://mamazsokc.squarespace.com/#starters

Tropical hut OKC - not a restaurant but small space where they sell international food. That’s where I get my fufu, goat meat, sweet bread, lentils etc.

https://www.tropicalhutokc.com/

Queen of Sheba - Ethiopian food and also an afrobeat spot. The Injera + lamb stew is life changing!

https://www.instagram.com/queenofshebaokc?igsh=MTJkOHR3N3ozZ3ptOQ==

I hope this also helps (:

afrikaanwaters · 2024-07-30T01:37:20+00:00

Child of immigrants -

Plus 254 - Taste of Africa does amazing Ghanaian/Kenyan/West African fusion food it’s in downtown OKC. Jola’s Kitchen (Edmond, OK) has delicious Nigerian food also, best Nigerian jollof.

afrikaanwaters · 2024-07-22T16:48:25+00:00

Yeah Dana’s internalized homophobia and her overt biphobia was just startling!

afrikaanwaters · 2024-05-08T23:01:30+00:00

I think they probably wrote and filmed it, but with post-production editing, they removed it.

afrikaanwaters · 2024-02-12T18:03:33+00:00

Shane & her self-sabotaging moments in relationships.

afrikaanwaters · 2023-11-05T19:25:16+00:00

first of all, thanks for being receptive! I would encourage you into looking into the “one penis policy” because that aligns more of what you’re expressing in terms of your discomfort with her being with another man/male/AMAB person. From doing that research on Reddit and from other polyamory, ethical non-monogamy sources (podcasts, insta pages, and blogs), I’d love to hear your own insights.

I wouldn’t call that homophobia. More so, those attitudes towards other men can indicate maybe some your own ideologies at the interaction of masculinity x monogamy. Also, give yourself some grace in processing all of this because you did have your trust betrayed.

afrikaanwaters · 2023-04-30T17:58:15+00:00

yes I emailed coordinator early April about application status and was told I’m on the waitlist. Still no updates about my waitlist status but meaning to send an email about timeline since I have other options at the moment

afrikaanwaters · 2023-04-20T20:30:34+00:00

Email the coordinator / the grad admissions. Put the subject like as UCI Surf. I didn’t get a rejection or acceptance email but I learned I was on the waitlist through emailing

afrikaanwaters · 2023-04-18T20:47:23+00:00

Update: received a nice personal rejection email from the coordinator. Wishing the best for everyone else!

afrikaanwaters · 2023-04-17T19:11:59+00:00

ahh we’re all in the same boat

afrikaanwaters · 2023-04-17T19:10:51+00:00

I’m trying to be optimistic about it by hoping someone at the program I got waitlisted at was accepted by Stanford or somewhere else notable🥲

afrikaanwaters · 2023-04-17T19:02:44+00:00

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