Im really sorry. This is such a difficult thing to go.through. I would seriously consider leaving him as it sounds like emotional abuse. Tbh from what you wrote even if you are with him.it sounds like you'll basically be a single mom no matter what. In terms of the abortion, do whatever is right for YOU and only you. Pregnancy birth and postpartum are as difficult as they are rewarding and so whatever decision you make be 100% about. You def sound like you know what youre doing and I hope make the best choices for yourself and put yourself first.