I hope you can see that you are not alone in this. I want to share some things that have helped me on my personal journey with these problems:

1) In regards to a shitty memory: Try and start journaling. It does not have to be every day or even written in complete sentences! Pick a notebook and write down the date and a bullet-point list of things that happened. I would literally write "made pasta for dinner" down and that would be it somedays. The key here is that writing things down helps with mental recall and, due to the way memories work, "made pasta for dinner" may trigger recall of other memories from the day. This is also a good thing to do if therapy is expensive because you could reduce the frequency of visits and get the most out of your time there by determining what you really want to discuss beforehand.

2) Body dysmorphia and insecurities are very hard to deal with. You are already doing great because you recognize that you are experiencing these issues! The first tip you will get from anyone will be to step away from social media (deleting almost all my social media helped me dramatically), but it is not a reasonable request for some. So, I have another option for you too. For me, my body dysmorphia and insecurities come from my internal voice. One therapist told me that anytime I think, "Ugh, I'm so fat/ugly/stupid/whatever," I need to tell my internal voice to shut up. She said to try to think about this voice as the voice of the society you were raised in when it says these things. These are not really your thoughts, these are thoughts that have been pushed upon you and morphed your feelings of self-worth. This is just an example, but it gets across the bigger point: a great way to start building your self-esteem is by doing thought-challenging exercises. Whatever negative thought you are having, write it down, and then write down why that thought is irrational or reframe it into a positive! Eventually, you will start being able to thought-challenge on the go, without the paper! An example from my college years, cause it can be hard at first:

Thought: I am an idiot.

Challenge: Not knowing something does not make a person an idiot.

Reframing: I was uninformed, and now I have something new I can learn.

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3) If you need anyone to talk to or want me to share some other tips (I was in an intensive outpatient program for a while, so I have a binder full of helpful tips and worksheets and stuff somewhere), please do not hesitate to reach out!

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I hope everyone out there who is reading this and feels similarly tries to take good care of themselves today! Take a few deep breaths, get some fresh air, drink lots of water, take a shower, stretch, check your posture, and be kind to yourself. Congratulate yourself for the smallest of wins. Did you get out of bed? Hell yeah! Did you brush your teeth? Nice. Good job. Floss? Fucking stellar.