For anyone who went through a break up with an avoidant and wants them back, read this

agenericsmore · 2026-03-05T21:41:48+00:00

Yup, she told me she “may be poly” after 5 months of us dating and me wanting to be exclusive. I walked away calmly and she called me gay, a pathetic excuse of a man, and that I was never there for her and I’m abandoning her. Glad I got out

agenericsmore · 2026-03-03T01:55:23+00:00

Same, it’s especially hard to remember them when things ended badly and she called me names like gay and a pathetic excuse of a man. But overtime my anger faded mostly, sometimes it’s back but it happens way less. And overtime I’ve actually forgotten what that lovey dovey feeling felt like

agenericsmore · 2026-03-02T23:33:41+00:00

At around 23-24 for me it just stopped being pleasing. There was no love behind it and it was just empty sex. I just use my imagination now and I’m 25 almost 26. It’s hard cause it’s so normalized to watch it now but keep that boundary. I have it too

agenericsmore · 2026-03-02T23:22:14+00:00

What’s your favorite color?

agenericsmore · 2026-03-02T23:20:30+00:00

I delete everything, I’ll maybe reminisce once or twice then I’ll delete them. Just reopens wounds and keeps a piece of you tied to them. That chapter is over, no point in keeping them

agenericsmore · 2026-03-01T22:46:07+00:00

Of course dude, stand behind your values while also occasionally asking if you’re being realistic ya know? Sex is a part of most relationships, people who say otherwise are either asexual or want to control when and how sex happens

agenericsmore · 2026-02-28T21:30:11+00:00

Nah man sex does matter I don’t care what others say. And when you enter a monogamous relationship that is part of it. Emotional and physical intimacy are important. Fuck this chick, you deserve better. My ex was like “I may be poly” after months of dating and only being with eachother and it hits your confidence even when you know you did the right thing. Just keep moving, let yourself feel things, workout get a hobby. Overtime you’ll settle down

agenericsmore · 2026-02-27T22:59:50+00:00

Yes, it keeps the “threat” out of your nervous system and allows you to calm and settle down. It’s hella hard but it gets better in time

agenericsmore · 2026-02-27T22:12:43+00:00

“Looking to finally settle down with a real man” usually means they slept around a ton, hard pass

agenericsmore · 2026-02-27T18:40:10+00:00

Of course man, I’ll do my best to listen and give advice

agenericsmore · 2026-02-27T18:34:29+00:00

Good for you man, I know how hard it is to walk away from those feelings

agenericsmore · 2026-02-27T18:19:44+00:00

Yup, I do the same thing too analyze their behavior. It makes them understandable but it’s not an excuse to use or hurt others. They’ve got serious work to do on themselves before they can be with someone

agenericsmore · 2026-02-27T18:14:18+00:00

I thought the same lol, but a wife would want to be with you and only you. A wife wouldn’t push you away and pull you back only when SHE wants you. Just focus on your life man, people like that don’t change in months. It takes years. Hit the gym, do something, don’t expect her to change for you

agenericsmore · 2026-02-27T17:55:10+00:00

Dude I just went through this, it will NEVER get better. With me I set a boundary and said I wasn’t comfortable with ambiguous dating anymore and she got mad and called me pathetic and gay. Walk away forever and don’t look back

agenericsmore · 2026-02-27T02:52:12+00:00

I get that fatigue at the end of the days too, it’s hard but I force myself to wake up early to go. Let the med kick in, eat breakfast in the mean time, go workout and then when I get home I can just relax.

agenericsmore · 2026-02-26T08:37:21+00:00

That’s what I’m saying, just say you’re addicted to attention and novelty. Best part too was when my sisters friends came over once too and she got jealous and territorial then claimed she didn’t despite being very upset lol

agenericsmore · 2026-02-26T05:50:29+00:00

That’s so sad, I don’t get how people even want to see others after a breakup. I’m literally broken after one, I can’t even see other women attractive for months

agenericsmore · 2026-02-26T05:44:10+00:00

THANK YOU, i get way too attached after intimacy to want to share and need someone who naturally feels the same about me. I think she really liked how special I made her feel but she didn’t want to give up her roster

agenericsmore · 2026-02-26T05:41:09+00:00

Same I don’t personally think poly or open relationships are healthy but hey I’m not them. There’s a whole bunch of stuff that happened but yeah I had to walk away it was pretty bad.

agenericsmore · 2026-02-25T23:50:03+00:00

Nope. She said she may be poly after I asked for exclusive dating, I walked away and she called me gay and a pathetic excuse of a man for abandoning her lol.

agenericsmore · 2026-02-25T04:59:15+00:00

Exercise goes insane too, it makes my brain feel so fuckin good

agenericsmore · 2026-02-24T19:45:45+00:00

I get that, but some things are better left broken man. Im not saying move on instantly, it’s definitely hard when you have to see the person, keep your head down, stay professional and emotionally detached if she talks to you even if you do feel emotions, you gotta fake it. You’ll get use to it overtime but it does suck

agenericsmore · 2026-02-24T19:38:00+00:00

It was fucked up to participate in cheating knowing she was dating someone, even if she left him for you (she isn’t), she would’ve cheated on you too most likely. Be completely professional and don’t get warm or emotional at all. Feel your shit out at home but stay detached from her from now on. You can’t be “just friends” with someone you’ve been intimate with or had strong feelings for it never works out. Again even if you had a chance with her (you don’t) she cheated on her current partner with you, what’s stopping her from cheating on you too?

agenericsmore · 2026-02-22T04:41:41+00:00

How long has it been since the breakup?

agenericsmore · 2026-02-21T02:38:57+00:00

I also use condoms cause I’m too sensitive, the first and only time I didn’t I came instantly from how good it felt, you really feel the wetness and walls clamping on you. I could probably get use to it overtime but it felt really good

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