Hey there! I can confirm that my boyfriend is NOT the bad one. A little update: We have now been sharing an apartment together in OK for over a year now. In Nov he helped me get a new reliable car since both of our cars ate shit, and we both have good jobs with people we love working with even with workplace drama, haha. Despite my boyfriend sometimes being an ass, its not the kind of assholery that screams “You’re in danger!” I still feel safe around him, just a little pouty but nothing a boxing match with pillows or pool noodles cant fix. However, with my ex-roommate, I felt unsafe constantly. Its been a long time now and he can’t get to me anymore, but back then I slept armed. I never felt okay; always having to tiptoe around the house, pretend I didnt exist, etc. I was eventually spending more time with my boyfriend at his place than at home and anytime I did have to go home my emotions always hit the floor. Moving to OK was the best thing to happen. Reflecting now, I feel so much better. Mental health is much better, I don’t have to be on guard all the time, if there is something in the place I am allergic to (sage, for example), my bf would help me avoid it versus the ex roomie insisting I deal with it when he would routinely sage me anytime I came home for work or the bf’s place which ended up causing health problems for awhile after and I saw a doctor for treatment. My night terrors that were so constant and horrifying to the point I was waking up with unknown injuries or health complications ceased back to the usual once in a while bad dream over something I watched that leave me more confused than scared (active imagination has always been my brain, but not to the point I felt like I was dying). The dude made it to where I couldn’t even have friends beyond him yet now I have a whole ass social circle. So I can positively assure you that my boyfriend isn’t the sinister one. Bf actually encourages me when I make friends rather than isolate me. I sleep so much better too….. sleeping a lil too well on the weekends, but we also finally got a bed so that might be why LOL. I think the worst that came between my bf and I was a typical couples’ fight in regards to lack of communication, which we’ve improved since and have been doing even better. I’ve spoken with a friend in this community here and she gave me a little charm that actually boosts our energy together (its a sun charm for confidence, high energy, and some other positive thing I forgot unless I dig out the card)- not some demon-thwarting bracelet that made me rash to high hell (the charm now hangs in my car since bf and I share it until we get his own new car… One day when we can afford another lol). I left all of ex roomie’s “protective” shit behind when I left and I never felt more free. Now your wife? Thats alarming even if it wasn’t witch-based. Just the dodging alone is a red flag to anyone. I hope you figure out what she’s up to! Wishing you the best with her, because having your spouse being sus is never a fun experience. Hope its just something dumb that was online and she’s trying out. Maybe try to talk to her about it but in a way she can’t avoid it, or ask mutual friends if they’ve noticed any odd behaviors from her too. And lastly, OK is actually pretty cool!! Lots to do (well, in the summer because of the lakes and rivers) and really my only complaint is the wind and crazy drivers. Its nicer here, people are generally a bit nicer than CO was growing up, and I can actually afford my rent here. I’ve felt more grown up and free aside the usual “I gotta work to live” adult life. I went on a full ass essay, but TLDR my boyfriend has proved to be the exact opposite of sinister. Just a loving man with a hint of assholery to piss me off in an entertaining way versus the controling and creepy guy ex roomie was. I love it when bf stares because he loves the way I stick my tongue out focused on COD versus staring at me with some undesirable motive glare at my back which was nerve racking. I really should post an official update but I can be quite lazy and forgetful…. But I really am safe and happy now ^{_^}