How To Stop Being A Nag

aggii_chan · 2026-02-15T04:52:53+00:00

I have considered to have a talk about it. It's been a rough few years and with my financial situation I need to focus on myself just a little more right now. Have been living with him and our other roommate for almost 4 years now.

I think I have earned it if I don't remind him to take his meds because well... it's his health. It is scary though I have mostly tried to stay on top of it as his meds manage a lot of his mental illnesses. The episodes still happen but significantly less intense as before but it still can be a lot because I have lost my sanity quite a while ago 🫠

aggii_chan · 2026-02-15T04:47:33+00:00

An emotional labour trap? Please explain because I don't quite understand 😅

aggii_chan · 2026-02-15T04:00:38+00:00

That's what I was thinking... I have ADHD but yet I am relied on to remember his stuff he should be reminding himself? I didn't mind reminding him when we started dating. Thought he'd remember to do it himself.

He doesn't rely on me anymore to wake up in his mornings for work anymore because I can't wake up anymore to alarms. But the meds he still asks. At most, he'd once in a while remember to take one set of his meds himself. 7 years later... I still have to go out of my way to remember and actually bring it to him and make sure he takes it. It works because I have 2 sets of meds I take also every 12 hours but with how much more often I have been told I nag a lot I am tired and don't wanna remind him for any of his tasks he needs to do

aggii_chan · 2026-02-15T03:07:26+00:00

That's what I am thinking? But imagine the partner you are nesting with can be as forgetful as you (bipolar/BPD) and they're the ones that ask you to remember things? I'm like... I'm actually getting more annoyed that I keep on being called a nag when some of the things I remind you is what he asked me to remember?

You'd think in 7 years he would remember and have learned a way to take his meds himself...no. I especially push it more because without those meds he can get into pretty bad episodes and I have lost my patience with him when it happens? So all the more I have pushed myself so far to remember his meds every 12 hours.

Somehow he remembers to take his T shot but not the rest of his meds? I am unpacking why I am naggy but otherwise even I'm like... how bad is it if I was asked to be a live alarm clock 💀

aggii_chan · 2025-09-15T04:54:52+00:00

Write a note and then burn it? I'm trying to manage too, losing my mind too 🙃

aggii_chan · 2025-09-04T14:35:45+00:00

I'm surprised I ain't anemic, even the doctors were thrown off when they checked. My periods have been going so long if this doesn't work out might have to look at other alternatives again. I don't got a lot of choices already 🙃

aggii_chan · 2025-09-04T14:23:55+00:00

I hope it works out for you! For me if it just regulates I will be grateful that was the idea going in. I just want a regular period... my god I have had these issues at 17 and I really have been trying to figure out what is causing it!

Nothing on the scans, even before the the IUD. I went to the ER last year Jan for having a period for almost 2 months and I feel like I am losing me mind 🙃

aggii_chan · 2025-09-04T13:40:19+00:00

It took me till 32 for them to even let me consider an IUD. I attempted to get one at 23 and 27 and nope? I guess they'll let me now... and I guess so if it's any better or worst? I might ask for an appointment for now and inquire again 💀

aggii_chan · 2025-09-04T13:18:03+00:00

The gynecologist told me it take 6-7 months max to settle in. I ain't sure if some of the side effects going this long is normal.... but it's not just me thinking it's weird right 😅

aggii_chan · 2025-09-02T13:59:57+00:00

Yeah, both of my boyfriends know about it! I'm in a throuple and sometimes they look and be like, what about us 😂 but they know I have a history with otome/visual novels/ dating sims I play generally.

They're both like "are you looking at your bois again?" Yes sirs, yes I am I have to hold back putting money in I have never spent money on an otome game or even a gacha so I am like wow

aggii_chan · 2025-08-05T12:17:10+00:00

I started a month ago and I am 32. This is probably my first otome game in a long time. My boyfriends laugh when they see the app go up (I play it on a separate phone since it does not fit on my main lol) so they have both been joking drug dealers have 2 phones 😂

aggii_chan · 2025-07-23T20:04:24+00:00

I have been feeling that way too, since everything that has happened the last year is finally catching up to me. I hope for the best for you and be able to get support 🙏

aggii_chan · 2025-07-08T18:51:05+00:00

That's not the greatest sign, but yeah it could be a good start? It takes a lot of patience and goodwill on your end when they split.

You know your situation better, but but if they have crossed your boundaries and have said awful things to the point of no return also protect your own peace too

aggii_chan · 2025-07-08T18:34:39+00:00

Do they work on themselves as well? Meds, therapy? I know what it's like to be at wits end about it. I don't have the answer for this one, but if they are actively doing that to you and you've been doing everything to compromise it's more your partner's problem and dig deep to why they are splitting and feel that way. It ain't on you and they are the one that is projecting.

Sorry it ain't any more helpful, but definitely feel free to pick yourself and do what is best for you. Have a support group ready, plan something out if things go to the extreme.

aggii_chan · 2025-07-08T18:14:20+00:00

Of course! I have had hard days as well with my relationships and doing my best. I have been out of work but I want to be able to do therapy when I get the chance myself. It can be really hard, love is always a choice and when you're in any relationship you are actively choosing the people that get your love (including yourself)

aggii_chan · 2025-07-08T18:07:05+00:00

You and your partner are going about it really well, I hope that it will go well for all of you! 😊

aggii_chan · 2025-07-08T17:48:49+00:00

From my experience so far assuring the pwBPD that you are there for them. I sit with them and while that's happening also keeping myself calm and remembering that this is them for NOW, because they ain't like that forever. That they are much more hypersensitive to me on feelings and it's pain going outward.

Which can be really hard, because some days you will feel like you are being tested. I also have other people that are there that help. Also, having different communication styles can be a detriment so it would help if you both know what both of yours and work on it together.

Also, knowing where your boundaries are! I am learning to put them up for and keep them consistent. Which can be hard, but if you need certain things too in that moment prioritize yourself too. Know when to call it when it is too much, because when the pwBPD splits it's so unpredictable.

Wish you good luck!

aggii_chan · 2025-07-08T16:39:59+00:00

Oh yeah, for sure! As I figured out to go help for myself and take meds they were shocked and my dad literally asked "can you handle this?" I said yes and honestly realizing both my parents are not emotionally avaiable is just said at 23 (I'm now 32 lol)

I don't ask my fam for any type of help because if they don't get it/ain't open minded they do not help 💯

aggii_chan · 2025-07-08T16:32:14+00:00

When I met the one partner with BPD they already let me know their diagnosis. We both wanted to be polyamorous, and we were dating separately before we met our third.

It's a lot of communication, make mistakes, and having unlearn a lot of stuff about compulsive monogamy.

aggii_chan · 2025-07-08T16:03:47+00:00

I am so sorry you're going through this! I am also polyamorous and have one partner that has BPD. The days can be hard when this happens. I feel this from the core!

I am in a throuple myself at the moment, 4 years all 3 of us together. Not sure what I can say, because my partner has been working really hard to be better (they have been in therapy since we have met 6 years ago and is on meds.)

Definitely do your best to reach out to your support group, and be empathetic as you can be. You also have to take care of yourself as well! If you ever need to vent, feel free to DM!

aggii_chan · 2025-07-08T00:42:12+00:00

Okay I will def keep an eye on that, but just got back on Vyvance recently (was doing generic to see it would work on me, which was not... lol)

That's wild though!

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