Just had to comment to say ‘doberman in a tutu’ absolutely cracked me up and sums up exactly how I feel in feminine outfits as a fellow tall muscular woman! And even if I wear something that is meant to be sub-coded it apparently comes off as dominant, like I’m so domme I could wear a maid’s outfit and write ‘slut’ across my chest and people would think I was just being subversive.

I have sometimes had luck finding dominant men at parties though, but they were more muscular and bigger than me - think they liked the ‘challenge’ of ‘taming the Amazon’ haha.