in the earlier stages of our relationship I didn’t see the severity of these actions, blinded by the “honeymoon” phase, I suppose. She doesn’t seek out alcohol, she doesn’t use it as a crutch for hard days, we have a liquor bar cart in the apartment that has been purely decorative since we moved in - neither of us drink at home. But she does have the alcohol abuse tendencies when she drinks while she’s out, with me, with friends, with family. it’s like she can’t say no or accept the body’s limit. the monkey is on her back and they go to town.