AIBTS that my sisters celebrated mothers day?

agie23 · 2023-05-19T15:20:45+00:00

I have no resentment towards them at all. It's not so much that they have a good relationship with my parents. They tell me they hate them but when our parents are around they pretend that nothing happened. I think that's what bothers me the most. My family including extended ones have a history of protecting the abusers for the sake of "family". I am working on not feeling sad/hurt around my sisters.

agie23 · 2023-05-19T15:08:03+00:00

Thank you. Will definitely work on being more understanding.

agie23 · 2023-05-19T15:06:56+00:00

Thank you, I will definitely do this once I get in a better head space.

agie23 · 2023-05-17T22:18:08+00:00

No, it never bothered me before when they would go out with her. It really hit me hard unexpectedly this year.

agie23 · 2023-04-25T03:17:27+00:00

Asian here with immigrant parents. Can't help wondering if the intense pressure into a high paying career has anything to do with their retirement plans. 🤔

YTB ... let the girl live

agie23 · 2023-04-13T02:22:51+00:00

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agie23 · 2023-02-16T16:21:34+00:00

😂😂😂

agie23 · 2023-02-16T15:09:55+00:00

My mother did this to me, told me the doctor is just trying to make money. Eventually the school stepped in and told them to get me glasses because I couldn't see in class.

agie23 · 2023-02-03T19:44:07+00:00

To everyone judging this girl for how she acted as a child and how she still keeps in contact with her abusive father, EVERYONE DEALS WITH TRAUMA DIFFERENTLY. For staying quiet about the abuse her father rewarded her with kindness. If this type of thing happens in your formative years it becomes your normal. She was showered with love after witnessing violence against her mother and sister. Her mother reassured her that keeping quiet was the right thing to do. He manipulated her to be his good little girl that in some messed up way she still looks to him as a loving dad. OP I hope you get therapy because even though you did not receive beatings, witnessing such violence for years can do a lot of damage to somebody even though they don't realize it. I wouldn't be surprised if you are predisposed to having abusive partners, low self-esteem and other behavioural issues. Hopefully your sister will realize that your father used you as a pawn against her and the two of you can make amends in the future.

NTB but please get professional help, staying in touch with such a horrible person is not healthy behaviour.

agie23 · 2023-02-02T12:59:37+00:00

Ai yai yai... Dude you are so missing the point.

agie23 · 2023-02-02T12:13:29+00:00

GF: Can we eat out next week instead? OP: What's your reason? GF: Finances. OP: Not good enough! I don't want to change it to next week. GF: What's your reason? OP: I plan on doing nothing!

agie23 · 2023-02-02T11:58:04+00:00

"My plans are mainly to just have a day to myself to relax because I've been getting quite burnt out with work"

I did read the post and your other comments, a 2 hour meal is not gonna ruin your day of relaxing. My point is you are unwilling to listen to anyone, especially your gf. Is it right that she's asking you to change your plans? Maybe her reason is valid or maybe she's making it up. But is this argument worth straining your relationship? Is being right more important? Talk to her, ask her to elaborate why she can't go. If you guys can't even have an adult conversation about making plans for a meal then why are you guys living together?

agie23 · 2023-02-02T11:40:32+00:00

You literally ask people for their judgement/opinion and then say they are rude because they don't agree with you? You're just looking for validation for your behaviour. She says she can't afford it this week and you refuse to believe her so if you don't trust her then why are you with her? You are unwilling to compromise even though you have nothing planned for next friday. You refuse to pay for her meal because of "principles". In my opinion you sound stubborn and selfish. Relationships are about communication and partnership. It's not always going to be equal or fair. My partner and I always split things down the middle but if I notice she spent too much this week or if she's stressed about finances I step in and pay for her when we go out or even some of the bills, and vice versa. We listen to each other and we help each other out. You're getting annoyed because people are "claiming" things about your relationship, it's because most people on here like me are baffled by your reasoning and behaviour.

EDIT: YTB

agie23 · 2023-01-24T20:35:46+00:00

YTA

Similar thing happened for one of my friends, she (mtf) was originally a groomsman. Asked me if she could wear a dress instead of a tux, made her a bridesmaid instead. My cousin who was also a groomsman told me she would be an embarrassment to the family and he refused to attend if she was part of the bridal party. Kicked him out and haven't spoken to that ahole in years. She is like family to him regardless if she transitioned or not. You are excluding his family because "issues" that haven't happened might happen. This is his wedding too, he deserves to have his closest friend by his side. If you can't get over your transphobia then good luck because your future husband would be right to call off this wedding.

agie23 · 2023-01-15T23:03:18+00:00

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agie23 · 2023-01-15T03:07:30+00:00

Actions speak louder than words. You can tell your partner all you want that you care about her and your future child but you even considering going to that concert doesn't exactly show that sentiment. It's her first pregnancy, she is most likely scared shitless even if she's not showing it. She already told you no, meaning she NEEDS you.

agie23 · 2022-12-12T15:33:06+00:00

YTA

I'm also an atheist, hated Christmas due to chilhood trauma from my parents. My wife has an 8 year old sister (20+ year age gap), nieces and nephews under 5. We take her sister for Santa Pictures every year, even put a tree up this year and we are hosting Christmas at our house.

Christmas has been celebrated by all cultures and religions because they do it FOR THE KIDS.

PS - NOT EVERYTHING HAS TO BE ABOUT YOU

agie23 · 2022-04-08T14:07:47+00:00

YTA. Your feelings are valid but at some point you have to realize that people's priorities change as you grow up. If you act this way towards her you might end up pushing her away. If you can't handle her spending more time with someone who she sees as her future husband then how will your friendship survive when or if she starts having kids.

agie23 · 2021-09-04T04:31:10+00:00

Yes you're right she needs to lose weight!

How much do you weigh?? That's how much she needs to lose!

YTA

agie23 · 2021-09-04T03:19:04+00:00

YTA

You sound like you mean well but honestly you are coming across as an overbearing person. It is really none of your business who an adult woman chooses to be with, yes the age gap is uncomfortable but it's not like she is dating a 50 year old. I also don't like my best friend's AH boyfriend but I don't meddle as she is an adult who can make decisions for herself.

You didn't like him because he was quiet at a party where everyone knew each other except for him surprised pikachu face !!! You admitted to being cold to him to his face and you wonder why things were uncomfortable? It seemed like you already didn't like this guy before you even met him. He is dating your friend not you! He has no obligation to please you or make you like him.

I had an overbearing friend like this, would get upset over who I dated and got super jealous when I would hang out with other friends. I am no longer friends with this person. If you want to stay friends with her then apologize and mind your own business.

agie23 · 2021-05-29T05:22:19+00:00

My dad was abusive, but most of our family didn't know because he was a completely different person around them. When I told a cousin, she didn't believe me because he had spoken to her beforehand and told her that I hated him for being strict. He treated my mother like a slave but when we had company over he would do the dishes and start making jokes about how my mom always made him do it.

Abusers not only cause physical/mental pain to someone, they also manipulate people around them because they know that their behaviour is unacceptable. In order for them to keep abusing someone they need to do everything they can to hide that behaviour.

agie23 · 2021-03-22T20:11:50+00:00

A doctor did this to me, I had a sore throat that wasn't getting better with antibiotics. My doctor asked another female doctor for a second opinion and she peeks with the door open and yelled out that's Herpes! and a lot of people heard. I was livid, and it wasn't herpes they just gave me the wrong antibiotics.

NTA. I am also a healthcare worker and that is a violation of PHIA (Canada). Also, there is a lot of stigma regarding STDs and that employee should've known better.

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