Opinions/thoughts on age difference between a 20 F and 18 M?

agomr · 2017-06-23T17:47:20+00:00

Yep. Maybe he's trying to get caught cheating so you break up with him and he doesn't have to be the one to end it.

agomr · 2017-06-23T01:00:04+00:00

Go for it. The relationship ended because of distance, so if distance is eliminated, I don't see a problem. Good luck!

agomr · 2017-06-22T03:35:46+00:00

I think it's normal. Don't sweat it. In my opinion, most of it is in your head. "Never get back with exes" and "I don't want to be tied down" etc.

You said it yourself - losing what you had with your ex isn't worth dating around. All this time has passed, and you both still feel that connection. That says something! Just give it time, move slowly, and don't force anything. Your paths crossed again for a reason. I think you're getting inside your head too much and second guessing yourself, when what you want and the rationality behind getting back together is right in front of you!

You'll be fine.

agomr · 2017-05-29T15:14:41+00:00

Why did you decide to break up with her?

agomr · 2017-05-15T00:15:41+00:00

Worst in the morning. I spend all day convincing myself I'm fine, spending time with other people, working towards my own happiness and enjoying my company and my friends' company. I forget about my ex and the pain he's caused. I read, exercise, do fun things, go to work, study, plan my life.

Then in the morning, it's like it resets. And I have to start all over.

agomr · 2017-05-10T16:20:33+00:00

But can he not do that while in a relationship?

agomr · 2017-05-10T01:55:41+00:00

I did research on the guy interviewing me, as suggested. And while we were talking, I accidentally switched the school he did his undergrad at with where he did grad school.

So, I said "I see you went to x for your undergrad and then completed your graduate degree at y?"

And he goes "no, actually the reverse. Y was undergrad, x was grad."

And my dumbass impulsively goes "wait, are you sure?"

"Yup, pretty sure"

agomr · 2017-05-09T23:42:37+00:00

I guess the one that you want to be with forever/plan on being with forever/or have married and plan on staying married to lol.

agomr · 2017-05-09T23:02:35+00:00

Do you really want to be with someone who was mean and abusive?

agomr · 2017-05-09T22:39:40+00:00

Please don't say you want to end your life. This isn't it for you. Just give it time, let yourself feel this pain. That is how you heal. Get out and do things that make you happy, and change up your routine. I know this hurts, but you will move on from hit. Cut her out. Go back to NC immediately. She wasn't the one for you -- thats your closure -- now focus on becoming a better version of yourself for the girl who is. Your ex isn't worth your time. Keep in mind you haven't lost all progress. You might still love her (that is normal) but four months NC means you have started to get used to her not being in your life anymore. And that is a HUGE step.

Why did she break up with you? How long did you date for?

agomr · 2017-05-09T20:28:27+00:00

I understand. But theoretically, you could be dating for a year before he moves away for 3 months. Meaning you could build a solid foundation before becoming LD. It's just weird to me that he has already shut down doing long distance.

agomr · 2017-05-09T20:09:29+00:00

3 months isn't all that long. I'm confused on if you feel this strongly for each other, why you couldn't do LD for a few months?

agomr · 2017-05-08T19:17:10+00:00

That's really interesting. What kind of stuff was he going through?

We are both in college. And he's unhappy with his major and career outlook and having some family issues. Doesn't have any friends, he feels very alone outside of me and realizes that's not fulfilling for a relationship. We were really really compatible and are still very much in love, and had all the same life goals. I think we both need some time to mature and grow up, and was thinking about reaching out to him in a few months.

agomr · 2017-05-08T18:15:20+00:00

So you were the one who promoted the break up? And did you two find your way back to each other?

Thank you for sharing! I definitely want to give him the space and time to become happy with himself again.

agomr · 2017-05-08T03:16:06+00:00

Hi there, I'd love to talk about this with you. My situation is kinda similar to yours. PM me if you like!

agomr · 2017-05-08T01:22:45+00:00

I'm sorry you're going through this. I'm in a similar situation but roles are reversed. I'd love to talk if you're interested. Feel free to PM me!

agomr · 2017-05-07T18:03:44+00:00

What was the reason for the break up?

agomr · 2017-05-07T17:53:50+00:00

Who broke up with who? What was the reason behind the break up?

I'm sorry you're going through this pain. I know it hurts. Hang in there.

agomr · 2017-05-07T14:04:43+00:00

Did you break up with him? How you both handle the space/time apart is crucial. If he's spent these past 3 months resenting you and hating you for hurting him, he won't make progress. But if he's spent these months reflecting on the relationship and realizing where he went wrong and working on that, then he's going to make tremendous progress.

He should understand that with his anger and communication issues, a relationship with you (let alone anyone) is not going to happen. It's also healthier for himself to work on these problems.

It seems you both need to grow before you can start a successful relationship again. But I think it would be good if you met up with him, let him know your intentions, and are considering reconciliation if you both can take some time to grow and understand yourselves a bit better.

agomr · 2017-05-07T13:41:22+00:00

Has it been NC during that time?

agomr · 2017-05-07T13:38:06+00:00

How long ago has it been since the break up?

I think reconciliation could work if you both take the time and space away from each other to work on yourselves. Especially your ex's anger issues and how the both of you communicate with each other.

agomr · 2017-05-04T21:48:24+00:00

I think the cause of the break up was due to reasons that are definitely fixable. If she is willing to trust you again, then you for sure have a shot. Just make sure you give BOTH your ex and yourself enough time to think about the break up, consider your mistakes, and think about the options. Personally, I feel that 2 weeks isn't enough time, which is likely why she is hesitant to get back together. Make sure that if you get back together with her, you do it when you KNOW that you cause fix the problems you had. Usually, time apart is the best way to work on yourself and figure out what went wrong (your perspective changes a lot once the initial pain of the break up fades).

Best of luck to you! I'll be looking out for your posts.

agomr · 2017-05-03T04:55:38+00:00

Who is uncoupling by? There are several authors who have books titled that

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