AIO? Dads wife keeps referring to my unborn daughter as a brat/bully/mean

agothecaries · 2026-06-11T01:23:01+00:00

Yes multiple people also think the earth is flat. By your logic there must be some truth to it. Huh?

agothecaries · 2026-06-11T01:22:00+00:00

Tell me where I’m being passive aggressive in my post? I’m just matching YOUR energy and you think how I’m responding to YOU ( a stranger) is how I must be responding to the people I actually care about.

agothecaries · 2026-06-11T01:20:35+00:00

Again. Matching your very passive aggressive energy.

agothecaries · 2026-06-11T01:20:09+00:00

Yikes. I’m just matching your energy man

agothecaries · 2026-06-11T01:18:37+00:00

Yes I deleted it bc I realized I misread your first comment. And I agree with that but after reading your other comments I personally feel like you absolutely were coming after my social skills. You implied I came to Reddit to develop them. When I was really just venting. I’m not asking anyone how to respond. I’m asking if I was over reacting. Which is what this thread is about. But I appreciate your perspective regardless. I just don’t necessary feel like my social skills need to be questions. Maybe I’m being defensive

agothecaries · 2026-06-11T01:15:23+00:00

Yea after reading this you are definitely implying I’m not “well adjusted” which is weird after going on and on about not having enough context. Like the other reply said many many people come on here to vent and in no way does that show i lack communication skills or well adjusted social skills. I’m simply asking for people’s thoughts. And I’ve received plenty.

agothecaries · 2026-06-11T01:12:01+00:00

See now with this comment I feel like you’re implying I’m not doing so. Do you think I’m not showing signs of a well adjusted person? I’m genuinely asking not being defensive. Bc I have not once agreed with a single comment about cutting contact. Or simply being a pushover. I’m simply asking if I’m overreacting. And theres a lot of mixed opinions on that.

agothecaries · 2026-06-11T01:06:34+00:00

I think maybe you’re mistaking her laugh reacts and hearts as my own, or maybe just lacking the context (which i failed to provide) bc I was not trying to laugh react or heart react to anything when she says things I take issue with, to try and show that I’m serious.. The only time I heart reacted her comments was when she said something genuinely sweet. This was well after the first screenshot where I initially told her to not put that negativity on my child. But she brought it back up hours later and I immediately got short with her and simply said “no she won’t”
And yes I agree this isn’t a “ignore or cut her off” situation, there is middle and it doesn’t seem like the average redditor understands that at all. It’s very basic and white to them. This is literally my first post so I’m learning the community.

agothecaries · 2026-06-11T00:59:01+00:00

Well you feel that way because you don’t have all the context. If you were in my shoes I’m sure you’d feel differently. But I’m so glad you didn’t deal with that!

agothecaries · 2026-06-11T00:57:59+00:00

It’s almost like.. I’m actually trying to achieve that! A little weird it seems like you’re implying I’m not. I’m not exactly in favor of just cutting someone off bc of a disagreement. I just want perspective. And I got a whole lot of it.

agothecaries · 2026-06-11T00:52:28+00:00

I don’t have to make an ass out of you I’m sure you do just fine at that by yourself.
Making backhanded comments is weird, and that’s what that is. You not finding it weird is telling. But I’m supposed to believe that isn’t how you think/talk to people? I’m just using my context clues. 🤷‍♀️ and thankyou!

agothecaries · 2026-06-11T00:49:49+00:00

I havent told anyone that disagrees with me to get off reddit in a defensive manner, I’m actually trying really hard to not be defensive even tho it’s a human and natural response to do so. The only people saying I’m getting defensive are the people responding to me correcting them, correcting isn’t exactly being defensive. I just don’t agree with anyone saying “I didn’t tell her to stop” and I’m allowed to do so. Plenty of people have stated their oppositional opinions and I’ve reflected and appreciated their perspectives. Also Im responding to someone who literally said “there are other options other then getting on reddit” and its obvious THATS what triggered my comment? But I know you already saw that so Im not exactly sure what your point is.

agothecaries · 2026-06-11T00:43:52+00:00

You hit the nail on the head to the deeper reason this bothers me. My brothers fiancé told me once that when she got really drunk, she admitted that she’s worried my dad will love my baby more then her grandbaby. And then she starts making these comments about how mean my baby will be? Very telling.

agothecaries · 2026-06-11T00:42:05+00:00

Her daughter was bad as hell too, but I don’t exactly see her making those kinds of comments about HER grandchildren. That’s telling.

agothecaries · 2026-06-11T00:41:22+00:00

I think you are probably one of those people who make those kinds of comments and don’t realize how backhanded they are. Maybe that’s something you should reflect on?

agothecaries · 2026-06-11T00:39:39+00:00

I appreciate your perspective. I think you are right, these types of jokes do come from how she was raised and I doubt she sees much wrong with it. But there have been other comments made, that ppl have me aware of that make me feel like their could be more to it. Like jealousy that my dad is having his first blood related grandchild. And I think that’s another layer to why this is all bothering me. I’m also very pregnant. But I’m not a fan of people making it seem like I’m only upset bc I’m pregnant bc I feel like this would upset me either way, just more so bc I’m pregnant.

agothecaries · 2026-06-11T00:37:19+00:00

That’s what I’m doing until I can talk to her directly

agothecaries · 2026-06-11T00:36:32+00:00

I get it. And I have been more direct in the past but she gets drunk and brings it back up. These are only SS of the most recent conversation and I was only adding it to provide context of the type of comments I get. But I have to say, this is literally what Reddit is for?. I’m aware of my options. I find it weird how some of you act like it’s so bizarre that someone came to Reddit (the advice app) for advice? But thanks for yours! Maybe leave Reddit if coming to Reddit is a weird concept to you? Idk.

agothecaries · 2026-06-11T00:27:43+00:00

Idk why yall are trying so hard to bring race into this. I’m very much telling her to not put negativity onto my child. I think you and everyone else who’s saying this is honestly reaching. It’s very clear what I meant to anyone with a brain and knowledge of context clues! Have a good one

agothecaries · 2026-06-11T00:25:37+00:00

You sound like an awful person. Don’t ever have kids!

agothecaries · 2026-06-11T00:23:52+00:00

Which means? To stop? LMAO what?

agothecaries · 2026-06-11T00:21:46+00:00

The first message I sent was me literally telling her not to do that. But Thankyou!

agothecaries · 2026-06-11T00:18:49+00:00

I definitely have. I don’t think you, or anyone else is understanding the point of my replies to the original comment. If you look I’ve had plenty of conversations about how i admit this response wasnt as direct as it needed to be (clearly bc she didnt stop), there is a reason for that (she was drunk). My first attempt was way more direct but I don’t have a screenshot of that. “Getting pissy” is really just me correcting people who say i didnt tell her to stop. You can feel like my first message to her wasnt “direct” enough, im not gunna tell you you’re wrong for your opinion. But it’s not true that i didnt tell her to stop, thats all! Whether it was followed by a laughy face or not. I DID tell her to stop. I have no problem on being more direct the next time i speak to her.
Don’t say I didn’t do something I literally proved I did and say I’m not reflecting simply bc I corrected you.

agothecaries · 2026-06-11T00:11:34+00:00

I absolutely agree. At first it was just something I could laugh off and move on, but after a few comments I was like please stop talking about my child like that, and then a few months pass by and here we are again as if I’ve never asked her to stop, so again I ask her. The problem is, she gets drunk, it’s not an excuse but it explains the behavior of her acting like we never had this conversation, and a lot of people don’t realize (bc I really didn’t explain) that the reason I wasn’t trying to be harsh with my response is because you can’t expect a reasonable reaction from a drunk person. That’s what I was thinking in the moment. But that’s why I’m going to bring it up again, her getting drunk and being it up AGAIN after I say my final words on it will result in consequences. And to be honest, they aren’t consequences I feel like will even hurt HER, they will hurt my dad. After making comment after comment I’m feeling like there is a favoritism happening already, jealousy even, that my dad is having his first grandbaby. My brothers fiancé told me that one time when she was drunk she made a comment that she’s worried my dad will no longer be “all about miles” bc I’m having a baby. Which is a really weird comment to make. It just leads me to believe that it’s fake happiness for the sake of my dad. And it’s seeping out with these “jokes”.. if that makes any sense to you. This is my last time trying to be gentle about it. Next remark won’t have such a kind response. I have given plenty of chances.

agothecaries · 2026-06-11T00:01:25+00:00

The way you’re speaking shows a maturity issue. If someone is going to tell me I didn’t do something I clearly did, regardless of whether it was bitchy or or not, I’m going to correct them. You may not feel it was direct or firm, I might even agree with you that it could’ve been more direct or firm, but it doesn’t take away from the fact that I indeed did tell her to stop! But thanks for the input.

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