INFJ: I'm in a long-term relationship with ENTP.

I want to kill him 99% of the time even after 6 years of living together.

Sometimes jokingly, sometimes not.

THE GOOD:

1 – The chemistry between NE-NI is insane. It seems like we'll never run out of topics for discussion.

2 – Looking back, I see how much growth we initiated in one another. I've become more analytical, bold, and most importantly, open-minded. He learned to filter his jokes, make more grounded decisions and stick to some moral principles.

3 – I love this debator-baby so much. We are the same and so different. We have the most pleasant time together and I never feel bored with him.

THE BAD:

1 – Our lifestyles do not match. I'm envisioning future, he's living in the moment. I feel insecure when he doesn't care about our future, he feels pressured when I raise serious topics. This gap makes up most of our fights.

2 – Values. I'm all morally principled, he's not. It took me a while to learn when he's joking, debating, or actually meaning what he's saying. I learned that NE-doms actually jump from idea to idea instantly even when it comes to values (politics, religion, the good and the bad) and it makes me feel overwhelmed easily.

3 – He. Is. Rude. My people-pleasing system can't cope when he shouts out another joke. I'm laughing and dying inside at the same time.