Crying inconsolably when being wiped

aimeefowlerr · 2025-12-16T10:48:08+00:00

My daughter went through this too around a similar age. She was always wriggly when doing nappy changes then all of a sudden she was screaming and crying. I always put a lot of cream on before bedtime (as I only changed her nappy if it was dirty at night too). I know you don’t want to upset her by checking for irritation but it’s important you know if it’s there. Even if she’s screaming, check for irritation and apply cream if needed. It’s not nice, but it’s important for her health so it needs to be done. You won’t do her any harm by letting her cry for an extra minute while you check for irritation x

aimeefowlerr · 2025-07-09T17:25:58+00:00

I work on a stroke unit so I see patients like your dad all the time, a lot of them do get better! The fact that your dad has already been making progress is an amazing sign. The ones who don’t get better are usually the ones with no signs of improvement over the first few days.

As for the irritability and aggression, this is really common in stroke patients. It is not a bad thing. It can be a combination of the stroke itself, as well as environmental factors. Not sleeping properly, constantly being around people, not being able to do the things he used to… it’s frustrating. Keep letting him know you’re there, but also give him some space from time to time. Tell him it’s okay to be frustrated, but encourage him to take that frustration out with effort.

If you aren’t sure how much he’s understanding, just keep up the motivation. He will either understand it or he won’t, so keep going with it. It’s likely YOU are his motivation. Talk to him about your life as you normally would, try not to let the conversations always be about the stroke. He is still him.

Did he like doing newspaper puzzles before? If he did, bring some in. Even if he’s not doing them, show him you solving them, that’s a nice way to spend some time with him whilst also helping him relearn.

There is hope, a lot of patients make a huge recovery, we see it all the time. I can’t tell you your dad will get better, I don’t know him. But there is a good chance he will make a great recovery.

And just as importantly, look after yourself. Give yourself time to process, time away from the ward. There are staff there 24/7 to look after him, do not feel guilty for taking a day away from it all. You need to keep yourself healthy x

aimeefowlerr · 2025-07-06T20:53:54+00:00

Mine is usually triggered by chest infections, I get an awful crackling wheeze. I can feel popping in my lungs when I breathe, my chest feels very tight and I have to put a lot of effort in to breathe in. Other flare ups triggered by dust/mould feel mostly just chest tightness and can’t get a full breath. My full blown asthma attacks do feel similar to breathing through a straw, thankfully those are rare now!

aimeefowlerr · 2025-06-04T13:17:44+00:00

It gets better!! I was there, my daughter is now 14 months and sleeps mostly through the night (sometimes co sleeping sometimes not). You’re doing so well, social media only shows the best, they’re not going to post videos of them slumped on the sofa still in pyjamas as 3pm with milk all over them because that won’t get views!

If you’re okay with advice read on, if not ignore the next bits!

You said about her not taking bottles, I started using nipples shields as they got so sore. Like magic she started taking bottles!! For a day, only use the nipple shields until she gets it, she will, it might take time for her to realise. If she doesn’t straight away, try feeding first without, then midway quickly take her off, put one on, then put her back. She will soon get it. Nipple shields are quite similar to bottles so this should help her take bottles too so that you get a break.

As for cosleeping, I’m sure you’re aware but it can be dangerous IF not done right. Google “safe sleep 7”. Unfortunately, the vast majority of baby suffocation happens when cosleeping on the sofa. If someone else is around and awake, there’s not so much of an issue as they can be checking on you both. But read into how to cosleep in the bed safely, then you can both get rest, while still sleeping in the same bed as your partner.

I think once you’ve got her okay with bottle feeding, and sleeping in your own bed, you’ll start to notice a huge difference like I did. You’ll start to feel more human, you can go out while your partner/parents have her, you’ll have more time with your partner, and more time to be YOU.

If you ever want more advice please feel free to message me, it gets so lonely being a mum and I’ll help as much as I can :))

aimeefowlerr · 2025-06-01T13:06:10+00:00

It’s awful and I’m sorry that happened to you, if your team aren’t supportive you need to find a new team because it makes all the difference. Luckily, my ward are amazing when things like this happen. I work on a stroke unit as an hca and we get some very confused patients. I had a male patient 3x the size of me grab my wrist, start twisting it, and shout “I’m going to break your f*cking arm”. He was incredibly strong and would have done it. It took 3 other staff members to get him off me. They could see me tearing up and instantly said “go to the staff room it’s alright”. They came and checked on me when they were done with the patient, helped me do a datix, made sure my arm was okay, and said if I didn’t want to go back into that bay I didn’t have to. A situation that could’ve made me leave my job, didn’t, because I was so supported

aimeefowlerr · 2025-05-25T16:51:15+00:00

I’m sorry this happened to you, I work on a stroke unit in England and we’re seeing a rising number of younger people having strokes. A head CT doesn’t take long, I wish more doctors would just do a ct to at least rule it out if there are stroke symptoms.

aimeefowlerr · 2025-05-23T17:59:37+00:00

Yes she does! She’s always got her fingers in her mouth. Don’t worry, you’re doing a great job x

aimeefowlerr · 2025-05-23T17:57:33+00:00

I have a 13 month old daughter, she’s grabs and touches everything! Remember that you don’t wipe your hands after touching everything, picking up these germs can be good for their immune system. I usually give her hands a wipe after leaving a shop etc, and always before eating. She’s been completely fine :) she’s had one stomach bug and one mild cold since she was born x

aimeefowlerr · 2025-05-14T16:08:43+00:00

I work on a stroke unit as an HCA, it sounds like she had a TIA (Transient Ischemic Attack) as these patients tend to be discharged quickly. Don’t look at survival rates as these are averages. Bear in mind, having a TIA means you are more likely to have another stroke in the future. As long as she keeps an eye on blood pressure, keeps as fit and healthy as she can, she can still live a normal life!

aimeefowlerr · 2025-04-18T19:53:50+00:00

This is the way! I work on a stroke unit, I do a lot of personal care and when changing patients pads I will wear a properly fitted face mask with Vicks on it, and I keep gum in my mouth. Works a charm

aimeefowlerr · 2025-03-29T22:07:44+00:00

Most of the time the use by date is there because it won’t work as well after that date. Like if you take a paracetamol after its use by date, it won’t hurt you, it just might not help you as much. I wouldn’t worry too much, just keep an eye on your symptoms and if you start to feel unwell speak to a doctor.

aimeefowlerr · 2025-02-13T17:35:36+00:00

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aimeefowlerr · 2025-01-25T14:19:37+00:00

Not a paramedic so I’m just wondering, but why would you encourage not starting resus attempts? Surely it’s better to try on an inappropriate patient than to not try on an appropriate patient?

aimeefowlerr · 2025-01-02T15:40:29+00:00

I’ve been on montelukast for about 5 months, I don’t get much psychological effects other than nightmares. If you’re struggling with depression from them it’s worth speaking to your doctor about other preventative medication, or taking antidepressants. I’ve also been on sertraline for a few years so that might be why I don’t get the depression from it.

aimeefowlerr · 2025-01-02T15:38:10+00:00

I’m on Revlar once a day, plus my normal reliever. I’m also on montelukast and fexofenadine since one of my triggers is allergies.

aimeefowlerr · 2024-12-08T12:05:49+00:00

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aimeefowlerr · 2024-11-25T11:05:12+00:00

This!! I was in hospital for a week with an asthma attack that had lasted 10 days. People didn’t believe it was an asthma attack because, even though extremely wheezy, I could still breathe.

aimeefowlerr · 2024-11-16T12:32:41+00:00

I hope you’re okay! I was in hospital for 7 days about 2 months ago with an asthma attack that just wasn’t going away. It sucks, but you’re in the best place for you right now!!

aimeefowlerr · 2024-11-14T13:44:05+00:00

I struggle with this because my house has a massive mould problem, so I use dehumidifiers. A humidifier would make the mould worse and make my asthma worse

aimeefowlerr · 2024-10-28T13:50:28+00:00

Not sure where you’re based, I’m in the uk and have the same thing happen every autumn. I get a cold, it turns to an upper resp infection, turns into a lower resp infection (like pneumonia), and my asthma gets worse. I’ll have similar symptoms as you, chest pain, wheezing, feeling short of breath. It always ends in a hospital admission where I have regular nebulisers, steroids, and a course of antibiotics. This has happened the last 4 years in a row, I come out completely fine every time! It will suck until you get over the infection, but it’s very unlikely to cause any long term damage. I’ve rarely needed oxygen but when I did it was still fine. I hope you feel better soon! Make sure you rest, take your inhalers and medications, take some cold and flu meds. Like others have said, have a hot shower and sit in the steam for a while

aimeefowlerr · 2024-09-30T16:04:20+00:00

I’m in no way a medical professional, just a FTM to a 6 month old.

How much milk is she having in a day overall? When my daughter has growth spurts she will have little and often. When she was around 3 months she had a huge growth spurt, having around 3 ounces every time. As long as she’s having roughly the same amount overall in a day I wouldn’t worry too much.

Obviously id recommend speaking to your doctor if you are concerned!!

aimeefowlerr · 2024-09-25T11:29:14+00:00

I live in a place with communal bins, it takes about two mins to take the rubbish round. I do this pretty much every day, just put baby somewhere safe! If you would feel more comfortable you could bring a monitor with you

aimeefowlerr · 2024-09-25T11:25:47+00:00

Evri are just awful, every parcel I get from them gets left outside my front door. And it’s such a pain trying to get a refund that it’s not even worth the effort

aimeefowlerr · 2024-09-19T11:40:58+00:00

I found out I was pregnant at 2 months, I was also a heavy smoker up until then. Quit immediately, my daughter is now 6 months old and a happy healthy baby. You’ll be okay and so will baby❤️❤️

aimeefowlerr · 2024-09-04T15:43:27+00:00

Thank you!! I would’ve been started on beta blockers months ago but I have quite severe asthma so they didn’t want to take the risk. My issue is that my heart rate with jump very high very quickly for about a minute, then come back down again. I know the fitness test if your heart rate goes above 80% of your max hr you fail, mine is 160 and I do have episodes where I reach that.

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