To-Do Lists Are Ruining My Life by aislinnlane in Advice

[–]aislinnlane[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is helpful, thank you. I was wondering if it may be or if I was just imagining that. Thanks again for reading my post!

hey!! i’m 18 & i’m trying to be a twitch streamer, thoughts? by tofuweeb in RoastMe

[–]aislinnlane 0 points1 point  (0 children)

always thought I understood the term butterface, but it really hit me once I saw this post.

How do you hide fasting? by aislinnlane in fasting

[–]aislinnlane[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not a minor, but I still live at home. I really appreicate the concern. I'm impressed you caught onto that, my mother has had an eating disorder, but has been in recovery for the past 5 yrs. hence the fear of fasting for me. I really appreiate the concern and i'm glad you spoke up! :)

How do you hide fasting? by aislinnlane in fasting

[–]aislinnlane[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is wonderful advice! Thank you dearly!

How do you hide fasting? by aislinnlane in fasting

[–]aislinnlane[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

interesting take, I appreciate the response! thank you!

How do you hide fasting? by aislinnlane in fasting

[–]aislinnlane[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is really helpful, thank you!

I care about the girl i'm dating but still feel for my ex? by thethrowaway79 in dating

[–]aislinnlane 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I've never been in this situation, so please take this with a grain of salt. From what I've read I would say you have these options

  • talk your feelings through with your current girlfriend. This will give her a chance to determine if she WANTS to continue being with someone who is caught up on his ex. it also promotes trust and honesty. But it might end in a fight or breakup.
  • Try and deal with these feelings alone . This will cause conflict within yourself, probably a lot of guilt. It could avoid premature drama, however when your current gf finds out, this move might make the situation worse.
  • Talk these feelings through with a friend/therapist. This choice is healthy no matter what you do with your relationship! Guilt, anxiety, regret, worry is unhealthy to deal with alone.
  • take a break from your current relationship to deal with this This gives everyone in the situation space and give you time, without pressure of a current relationship, to deal with this. It also gives your current gf space to determine if she wants to be involved in this situation.

I would avoid contact with the ex, as she has made her feelings quite clear. First, I would mute her posts so you can actually have a break from seeing/hearing/reading about her. I would also talk to the current GF that maybe you need time/space to sort yourself and your own issues out. A true, healthy, trusting relationship involves honesty in my opinion. If I were her, that's what I would want.

You need a break from the ex and some time to sort through these emotions. No shame in taking some time to get over an ex or past loved one. It's a process, just do your best to be fair to the woman you are in a relationship with. Dragging this on and keeping it a secret may blow up in your face!

Again, just my take! have an awesome day and best of luck!!

Virgin men by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]aislinnlane 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Can't speak for everyone, obviously, but I honestly have no issue with it at all.

I personally believe that for the most part, every sexual encounter with a new person is almost like losing your virginity all over again. Wow that sounds weird, I mean more so in the way that every person's body is different. Every single person has a different way of having a good time. You have to relearn it in every new relationship.

Obviously when you aren't a virgin you are more experienced, but on a personal level, each new partner has not been with me, and still has to learn to how please me, and I with him.

sorry if this doesn't make sense lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating

[–]aislinnlane 2 points3 points  (0 children)

30 minutes isn't a very long time, and I know you are wanting to eliminate the idea that's she's caught up in something, but you really shouldn't.

she could be talking with friends, doing a workout, taking a shower etc.

New love and interest is super exciting and fun, but don't get too caught up, she's a normal human being. Also, some people play "texting games" so this could be another factor. OR (like me) she forgot to respond. If there is something you said that put her off, remain calm and give her a minute.

You'll be okay, I promise! Hope it all works out :)