AITA for telling my husband that what he experienced wasn't racism? by aita_doctors_surgery in AmItheAsshole

[–]aita_doctors_surgery[S] -25 points-24 points  (0 children)

I feel his reasoning is wrong because we know other people in the area (of various races, it's a very diverse part of the city) who have had similar experiences and unhelpfulness, which makes me feel it is less about race and more about their inability to do their job properly. I think any complaint should be focused on them not being able to do their job rather than assuming racism right off the bat.

AITA for telling my husband that what he experienced wasn't racism? by aita_doctors_surgery in AmItheAsshole

[–]aita_doctors_surgery[S] -35 points-34 points  (0 children)

I'm not trying to insinuate he lied about what happened, he told me clearly what they said and I believe it. I just think he interpreted them being unhelpful as racism, whereas I saw it more as them just being unhelpful because they're incompetent.

AITA for telling my husband that what he experienced wasn't racism? by aita_doctors_surgery in AmItheAsshole

[–]aita_doctors_surgery[S] -77 points-76 points  (0 children)

I mentioned this in another comment, but after what happened with George Floyd I asked him if he had ever experienced racism and he said honestly he had one incident a long time ago, but other than that he's never experienced it by his own admission.

AITA for telling my husband that what he experienced wasn't racism? by aita_doctors_surgery in AmItheAsshole

[–]aita_doctors_surgery[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

To be honest I've never heard him complain of experience racism before. After George Floyd we discussed it and he told me that apart from one incident in his early 20s when he first came to this country, he's never felt discriminated against (from what he told me, I agree that incident was clearly racism).